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That's been recommended to me a lot.

That book series is incredible.

It's amazing.

I feel like the fantasy element of that too, like on Audible would be really fun to listen to.

I bet the voices are really good.

I started the Court of Thorns and Roses too. And I obsessed with the Court of Thorns and Roses series. I think a Court of Silver Flames and a Court of Mist and Fury are definitely my favorite books in there.

For any of you who have read Fourth Wing by Rebecca Yarrow or A Court of Rose and Thorns by Sarah J Maas, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Well, I usually stay by the fire and I like to read and I read a lot of metaphysical books but right now I am reading whatever that new adult version of Twilight book that's out.

It's like an erotic fairy book.

Yeah, I'm reading that. Does it like kind of making a honey? I haven't gotten to the horny part yet. But I know that I'm going to get there because I know he has like the ability to bind her energetically with magic and I'm already like I'm here for that.

I'm like, I don't understand it. Maybe I need to read it. I'm not there yet but I feel like you should.

I think about oh okay, well I could just slump on the couch and watch something on TV. There's another screen. Yeah.

So in the research are there things that have come up that could offer just a spark of a suggestion for those of us that would really like to not have this be a habit and not be lulled every night into giving our evenings away to our phone?

I've been loving this fantasy audiobook Court of Thorn and Roses. I am living in a different land and it's on my phone.

And books like a court of thorn and roses like I am,

You could be listening to this juicy fantasy audio book that I'm currently addicted to, A Court of Thorn or Roses, but you're a lot smarter than me because you chose to listen to something that can help you create a better life instead of trying to escape yours by disappearing into a world of fairies.

Just imagine that there are two different worlds. And one world, you're living in right now. And the other world is the world that you have the ability to create. So this is just an exercise, right? I want you to find some clues, so that I can be a happier me here.

When you're reading a fantasy novel like Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings or Fourth Wing, isn't it interesting that the main character has this ability to pass between worlds?

Well, I just read a court of Rose and Thorns, which is part of the romantic trend They've been talking about and I think it's gonna make the next list actually

So I have just finished reading the A Court of Thorn and Roses series. I was having so many people ask me for my professional opinion on it. It got super popular. It was really big on BookTok.

So I finished reading that series and I definitely found it to be really interesting. It was, it's kind of like very, a lot of fantasy, almost a much more simplified version of Game of Thrones thing, but like some, you know, just more sexy elements mixed in.

I'm reading a court of thorns and roses which is like a female fantasy type romancy type deal and every guy in it is just described as being so fucking hot and in my head canon it's just like Henry Cavill and Jesse Palmer running around and like like looking smokily at each other it's pretty good though making a little horny good fantasy too though so it's kind of best for both worlds

We'd be polite but there was a bit of tension there at least I thought so anyway Fast forward a few years and I'm married to my wonderful husband and Megan still works at the Barnes and Noble I went with my husband to the Barnes and Noble and Megan was there She was busy so I didn't try to have a conversation with her My husband was looking around on the other side of the store and I was in the maga section Don't judge I round a corner and almost bump into Megan I apologize and we both laugh and have small talk and talk about one of the few books Sarah J. Moss is coming out with in January

this is a court of thorn and roses its better in my opinion

It looks like a highly annotated, at least two books of the ACOTAR series. It's like a thick binder.

I'm reading right now, a court of thorns and roses.

It's like 50 shades of gray meets the twilight series.

They include A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas and its sequel, A Court of Mist and Fury.

No? Sarah J. Mass's A Court of Thorns and Roses.

Tim Ferris had a great recipe for this in the four hour chef you have to be careful because that you know that you can create some unhealthy ferment you have to do it the way he describes so check out the recipe it's online or you can buy sauerkraut.

He wrote The Good Life, which was a big best seller.

Yeah, exactly. So in an effort to give myself an entirely new domain in which I could explore my personal and professional life, I decided to sell the four-hour body, which was a huge reach.

This is the book that I want you to go and order, The Good Life, Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness.

I couldn't recommend this book more, Dr. Robert Waldinger or Bob.

One thing I love about this book is that it's practical, it's scientific, it's thoughtful, it helps us come back to our essence.

The book is called The Good Life, Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness.

I hope you go and grab the book.

Well I learned how to make a decent steak and a few other simple recipes not well from Tim Ferriss's book The Four Hour Chef because I really needed help that was a fun one.

Actually Tim Ferris I should say the great Tim Ferris because I do have great respect for the fact that he seems to be about 10 years ahead of everything in terms of nutrition and skill learning and things that sort many of the things that he predicted in his books. The four hour body and the four hour chef actually turned out to be true based on scientific data some of which only exists in the animal models but now also some predictions that played out to be true in both the animal models and the human models so I think Tim certainly deserves a hat tip for the fact that he experimented with these methods and reported his experiences with those methods and that now some of them many of them have been validated by what I perceive to be quality science.

The best resource that I know of in order to follow a great recipe to make homemade sourcrout would be the recipe for homemade sourcrout that's contained in Tim Ferriss's book The Four Hour Chef.

And I have this nasty habit of writing long books. So the 4-Hour Chef was 670 pages.

Your books are so weird in the best way. They're not narrative from beginning to end.

Even when they kind of feel a little bit like those self-help books with boxes and charts, you are just zany in a way that reminds me, I'll be honest with you, of one person more than anyone else which is my mom.

When I read the four hour chef, it strikes me that you're a very adventurous chef and eater.

Let's talk about our friend Tim Ferris you know he wrote the book on learning how to learn in the four hour chef and he had a slightly different way of deconstructing but it had to do with deconstructing and for Tim it was like looking at the 10% of the people who got the most extraordinary results.

The third book, The 4-Hour Chef, is confusingly not only about food, it's about a framework for learning.

So I'm not a scientist, I'm not a physicist, but going to Princeton also... As an undergraduate. As an undergraduate. The interest began with, surely you're joking, Mr. Feynman,

The hero's journey, the hero of 1,000 Faces is that Joseph Campbell.

I loved Ernest Becker's book. I love Ernest Becker too. But he's also deeply wrong. The hero myth that Becker lays out is not an illusion. It's actually the fundamental principle by which adaptation takes place.

But there was a whole literature that Becker didn't know of, that he didn't pay any attention to. And so he went, he went astray in his fundamental presumptions.

I think the real thing that resonates with people is like just the arc of that basic story. You want a thing, you need a different thing, you try to get the thing you want, you get the thing you actually need, and you sacrifice a thing, you change, and so on and so forth.

His like Hero with a Thousand Faces, I think is the book, kind of winds up inspiring every single Disney movie that's ever been made in your lifetime. Yeah, it's Star Wars. Beat for beat, it's Star Wars. Beat for beat, it's Dan Harmon's story circle.

find a place inside where there's joy and the joy will burn out the pain.

My son in 2014 gave me a book, Joseph Campbell, and it was called Hero of a Thousand Faces.

My son in 2014 gave me a book, Joseph Campbell, and it was called Hero of a Thousand Faces.

I've been reading about the... I'm almost done that Joseph Campbell book.

One of the most important books in my life in the last 12 years has been Joseph Campbell's The Hero with a thousand faces for the back end of the hero's journey and I haven't read it.

You should actually listen to it.

It's better to listen.

That book is better listen to hero with a thousand faces hero with a thousand faces.

When I so I listened to it audio first and I went back to it and listen to it in paper.

I could not believe how a human could put this narrative together honestly.

When I first read that book Andrews like I'm trapped in the return.

What he lays out in the book is I don't know maybe supposedly 2000 years of culture across multiple cultures.

It's very interesting because if you look at Joseph Campbell's Hero of a Thousand Faces, it's almost exactly like that. There was a part of that book, maybe I'm answering too long but anyway. No, no, I love this. My son gave me the book in 2014 and he describes that phase of your life as returning the boon.

There's this other book just called Camp that is by this British author, I'm blanking on his name.

His take on it is, it's anti what Susan Sontag said about it, which is the interface of high-low culture. His take on it is that camp is actually a state of mind. It is actually a psychology of people testing the limit of society.

There's a great series of books by a fellow named Joseph Campbell that you can read for more information on this.

I would recommend Hero with a Thousand Faces, which looks at everything from the...It sets forth the rules of stories and the way that humans write and experience stories. Everything from the Epic of Gilgamesh, one of the earliest known works of literature to I don't know, Lethal Weapon.

You don't have to read the entirety of Joseph Campbell.

That's where you see people like the author of the golden bow uh frasier and then uh people like joseph cambell uh the author of hero with a thousand faces uh that's where you see them talking about the exactly what you're describing people are as smart thousands thousands of years ago as they are in the present day

You don't have to read the entirety of Joseph Campbell. You know, I have to sit through a hero with a thousand faces, which is a good book to know that there are a lot of basic story elements that haven't changed for millennia.

There's a great series of books by a fellow named Joseph Campbell that you can read for more information on this.

I would recommend Hero with a Thousand Faces, which looks at everything from the...It sets forth the rules of stories and the way that humans write and experience stories. Everything from the Epic of Gilgamesh, one of the earliest known works of literature to I don't know, Lethal Weapon.

You don't have to read the entirety of Joseph Campbell. You know I have to sit through a hero with a thousand faces, which is a good book.

and then uh people like joseph cambell uh the author of hero with a thousand faces

all of Campbell's thinking was was Jungian thinking all of it and the hero with a thousand faces is a great book especially as an introduction to that kind of literature

So Joseph Campbell, his book, The Hero with a Thousand Faces inspired George Lucas, who was the guy who came up with the idea of Indiana Jones and for the Star Wars.

Joseph Campbell's hero's journey, he wrote a book called Pure of the Thousand Faces. And he said that basically every character in a movie ... follows that structure.

He wrote a book called Hero with a Thousand Faces. So back in 1988... I read that book... The Power of Myth and the Hero with a Thousand Faces were the books that taught me about the hero's journey.

I mean, there's, you know, Joseph Campbell. Yeah, I was just gonna bring it up. You know, so, you know, in the power of myth, but is more technical version, the hero with a thousand faces.

I have read of course all Joseph Campbell stuff so I kind of understand formats of myths and the ... thousand faces.

There's a hero that ... Joseph Campbell, he wrote a book called Hero of the Thousand Faces.

We were both reading Brene Brown's Staring Greatly when we started this podcast.

Tillich's famous essay in The Courage to Be where he proposes that we need to somehow make way for what he calls the God beyond the God of theism.

If you've not read her book, Daring Greatly, I highly recommend it to understand more about this topic.

And also recently I read Daring Greatly and that book was absolutely amazing, especially I related so much to just when she spoke about also receiving so many negative comments or hate and someone in her position who's had so much success also say that there will simply be days where it gets to you and where it feels bad and you cry it out.

But then you just get back up and keep moving and keep creating the things you want to make for the people who want to see them.

I think Brene Brown owes us royalties. Yep. And we're going to need an honorary doctorate. That's right. And we're going to want our own Ted Talk and we're gonna, and we're gonna, and I want to love it.

Well, and also if they've never done the same, I mean this is straight out of daring greatly by Brene Brown, but if they've never done the same, their opinion can't count because they don't know what it means.

I don't really usually make resolutions but I am reading Daring Greatly again for the hundredth time.

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, a book recommendation we've made many times on the show.

of course, please read Brene Brown's Daring Greatly as I don't think Karen and I would, this wouldn't exist without her.

I'm also reading fucking Daring Greatly again.

I think Brene Brown owes us royalties.

Well, and also if they've never done the same, I mean this is straight out of daring greatly by Brene Brown, but if they've never done the same, their opinion can't count because they don't know what it means.

I don't really usually make resolutions but I am reading Daring Greatly again for the hundredth time.

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, a book recommendation we've made many times on the show.

of course, please read Brene Brown's Daring Greatly as I don't think Karen and I would, this wouldn't exist without her.

I'm also reading fucking Daring Greatly again.

And I feel like the more I fill my life with positivity, you know, the more positive I am obviously. And so this was something I just kept hearing about. And every year I like to pick a word to work on. And last year as a result of kind of starting this gratitude journal, I decided I'm going to dive in my word for last year was gratitude. And it was really nice. And I think that's a really good way to approach new year's resolutions because you can make tons of little like goals, but they all, my all my goals always focus around my word for the year. So it's like, this is my big goal. And then I'm going to just make lots of little like things that will hopefully lead to that.

And so this was something I just kept hearing about. And every year I like to pick a word to work on. And last year as a result of kind of starting this gratitude journal, I decided I'm going to dive in my word for last year was gratitude.

I don't think I'm any better at vulnerability than anyone else even if I can quote Brene Brown and tell you all the science behind vulnerability.

If you haven't read daring greatly by Brene Brown, you must read it. There's this part about being in the arena. The brave ones are in the arena and there will be people who throwing like tomatoes at you. But they're not in the arena with you. If they're in the arena with you, it's worthy of a battle.

If you haven't read daring greatly by Brene Brown, you must read it. There's this part about being in the arena.

And I was like are you kidding me? Of course anyways he had moved to Austin and we've gotten reconnected.

and I had just finished Bernay Brown's um um daring greatly um in our new book daring to lead we we're reading now my wife and I but I was so impressed with Jeremy in his courage look at him after six years so let's go back to the slippery slope who do I do with that right as a he's a guy who I thought was negotiating it as a dad as someone who's trying to negotiate his way through this thicketed...

If he fails, he does so during greatly.

if you're daring greatly, you're gonna fail, you're gonna get mud on your face and you need we want to be able to wipe it off and get back in the arena

You might find a new title from an old favorite like David Gran who wrote killers of the flower moon and his new book, the wager, a tale of shipwreck, mutiny and murder or listen to a classic novel for the first time like George Orwell's 1984 narrated by Andrew Garfield, Cynthia Erivo and Tom Hardy.

David Grann's book is The Wager: A Tale of Shipwreck, Mutiny and Murder.

David Grann says it's possible some were as young as six years old.

David Gran says that Captain Cheap was starting to feel like he was losing control over the men on the island.

David Gran says the story of the Wager went on to inspire Herman Melville, who called it a remarkable and most interesting narrative.

David Gran's book is The Wager, a tale of shipwreck, mutiny and murder.

A great listen that got my imagination going was David Grahn's newest, The Wager, a tale of shipwreck, mutiny and murder.

A great listen that got my imagination going was David Grahn's newest, The Wager, a tale of shipwreck, mutiny and murder.

Another of the titles that made the list was The Wager by David Graham, a remarkable piece of historical nonfiction that reads just like a thriller.

It was one of the favorites this year from my history-themed book club The Age of Exploration, Please Stop.

David Grann was here promoting, he wasn't promoting Killers of the Flower Moon, he was promoting The Wager.

I know I'm a little bit late to the game on this one, but The Wager is a fantastic read. If you don't want to read The Wager, it's a true story about a British maritime ship that is lost at sea. A year later, the survivors of the shipwreck arrive. And then a year after that, another ship of survivors arrive and are like, fuck those first survivors. That's how the book starts. It is great. It's, I think, one of the books of the year, The Wager.

At night he would read through stacks of nautical adventure books By Candlelight Dreaming of being on a boat Dolly would check them out of the library for him

At night he would read through stacks of nautical adventure books By candlelight And he would read through the books Dreaming of being on a boat Dolly would check them out of the library for him

And I just finished a book called The Wager where they got stuck on an island.

I just read that separately.

Well, they have a... there's a spoiler alert and a dog story in there too as they are struggling to be able to survive.

Things are so bad that they kill a dog.

And when you read that it is a day and I just finished a book called the wager where they got stuck on an island.

I just ripped through that book The Wager, which a lot of people are reading. It's huge on Amazon. Really good read and it goes into the whole skirt.

I am about halfway through the wager, which is about a British squadron sent on a secret mission by the Admiralty to take a Spanish treasure galleon in 1740 and they try to go around the southern tip of South America.

Spoiler alert doesn't go well for them, but it's about shipwreck mutiny.

It's really interesting so far. So the wager has been a really good read, really enjoying that one.

David Graham's latest book The Wager, a tale of shipwreck, mutiny and murder.

I had found out that this had happened. The girl was selling a book called WAG, which means wife and girlfriend. So she was like promoting that, you know, she had a boyfriend and she had a husband. That didn't used to be allowed. It shouldn't be allowed.

It's pretty nasty behavior. I'd say. So what did you say about it? I just said the truth, you know. I said, that's disgusting, you know. You're a cuck and your wife is a vile lady. She's selling books promoting being a WAG, you know, being a wife and a girlfriend.

David Gran is one of my favorite history writers. He wrote The Wager and he also wrote Killers of Flower Moon.

Kentucky was the number one state by far for search of that book, The Wager, I talked about.

I'm getting way too into ship culture. I'm reading this book, The Wager. It's about this shipwreck in the 1700s, a great true story. People who like nonfiction have to read this book; it came out last year and won a lot of awards.

By the way, if you all seem to enjoy the book recommendations, I'm going to give you another one. This one is really good, and it's a true story. It's called Wager. It came out last year.

It's about this, like, ship in Britain that tried to go around Cape Horn in South America in the 1750s. They ended up, like, shipwrecked on an island and, like, Lord of the Flies kind of stuff happened. And it's a true story, and it's really, really good.

The Wager tells the tale of a British ship of that name that broke apart off the coast of Patagonia in 1741.

They found a copy of the Anarchist Cookbook, a notorious 1970s book that contained instructions for building bombs.

I've been laughing so hard. There's a big spoiler, but go watch the anarchist.

Nathan Freeman dying of cirrhosis turning into a fucking Penske dude.

I Didn't think the hand was real Like 20 minutes before that it's like I hate the word aloud It's like dude, you shouldn't be allowed to drink cuz now yellow dying for you

He's later like looking into the eyes of his children. They're like I'd say goodbye to dad. He's like Dude that lived in America could have had a sweet life grew out a devious goatee took his whole family to Al Capone

He dies on cam kind of just about yeah, yeah, yeah, Jesus Christ never seen someone turn yellow

And there was an anarchist cookbook which is a manual that shows you how to make certain types of explosives using household items.

What was that shit? The Anarchist Cookbook or whatever?

Yeah, the dark web is the internet now.

The Anarchist Cookbook was always- The kid who always had it was the kid who was never gonna do shit. But was always like, I could. I could just fucking blow this whole place away.

I think they did a documentary on the guy who wrote it and he heavily regrets it because I do think a lot of kids did use it for fucking shitty shit.

I love that We're mentioning the anarchist cookbook. I have several versions of that book from back in the day Uh It is the height of an unreliable narrator because some stuff is put in a couple of versions there as pranks But you can easily find this As a pdf and it's a reference work. It's a bootleg collection of all sorts of interesting projects from Old school telephone hacking all the way up to here's how you build a bomb. Here's how you can dial Uh, here's how you can concentrate nicotine from tobacco products into an actual poison Here is how you can make lsd at home just like owsley but not as good as owsley's lsd probably

Or is it better that we just don't have that knowledge? And then how in the heck do you control it?

I have multiple versions of that work and it's important, but they're not all the same version. There's some trolling in there, but it is how I found out about nutmeg, the sailors high.

And a delightful seasoning for your hot cocoa. It's pretty great.

I love that We're mentioning the anarchist cookbook. I have several versions of that book from back in the day Uh It is the height of an unreliable narrator because some stuff is put in a couple of versions there as pranks But you can easily find this As a pdf and it's a reference work.

Old school telephone hacking all the way up to here's how you build a bomb. Here's how you can dial Uh, here's how you can concentrate nicotine from tobacco products into an actual poison Here is how you can make lsd at home just like owsley but not as good as owsley's lsd probably

As you can see in some of the literature, Mr. Dies is a gun survivalist nut and could be armed. He had over 500 pounds of gun magazines, Soldier of Fortune, Anarchist Cookbook, which is a book about how to make bombs, guns and ammo.

gave recipes on like how to make bombs and weapons and stuff how to make drugs from toothpaste yeah all kinds of cool stuff

Maybe you whip out a cookbook, pick out a recipe, go to the grocery store and pick out groceries.

Among the items prosecutors presented as evidence against Seraj ... including the widely known Anarchist cookbook, and books that Seraj had recommended to El Shafay, which were available at the bookstore.

Like his reading was the anarchist cookbook. I mean who reads that?

Doug was smart but Doug also had some weird quirks like his reading was the anarchist cookbook I mean who reads that?

Just now I'd seen one. And flipped through my little log book to write February 3rd cookbook slash new coffee special just the night before. I'd been flipping through a cookbook I'd had for years.

I'd started by looking for a soup recipe to make for dinner but ended up in the dessert section. A frequent happening for me when I saw a recipe for miso caramel.

Friedrich Hayek's famous book The Road to Surftom, which described how liberal societies, if they weren't careful, could slide into totalitarianism.

He came across an abridged edition of F.A. Hayek's The Road to Serfdom, which proposes that central planning inevitably erodes individual liberty and enables tyranny.

Frederick Hayek is an old school Austrian economist, or he's thought to be a member, a leading luminary of what we call the Austrian school.

Road to serfdom is not in that category.

But it is essential. And it's because Hayek one is brilliant, and two really takes you through how government intervention in the market begets more government intervention, it just creates this

a dictatorship can restrict itself in a dictatorship Which deliberately is restricting itself can be more liberal in its politics than a democratic assembly, which has no limits

Yeah, you should just give people food And housing and stuff Outside of the market

The Road to Serfdom

The Road to Serfdom

a dictatorship can restrict itself in a dictatorship Which deliberately is restricting itself can be more liberal in its politics than a democratic assembly, which has no limits

The Constitution of Liberty

Yeah, you should just give people food and housing and stuff outside of the market.

Hayek in probably his most famous book The Road to Serfdom I mean explicitly says yeah you should just give people food and housing and stuff outside of the market and you know like today if literally anyone who says this will be accused of socialism.

Chile's 1980 Constitution was drafted in part by one of Hayek's friends...The Constitution was not only named after Hayek's book, "The Constitution of Liberty", but also incorporated significant elements of Hayek's thinking...above all, the Constitution placed a strong emphasis on a neoliberal understanding of freedom...

Guzman's version of freedom is intrinsically connected to private property, free enterprise, and individual rights. Individual freedom in his interpretation can only evolve in a radical market order.

The Constitution was dedicated to guarantee such an order without constraining any economic activities.

Yeah, you should just give people food And housing and stuff Outside of the market

The Road to Serfdom

Hayek in probably his most famous book The Road to Serfdom I mean explicitly says yeah you should just give people food and housing and stuff outside of the market and you know like today if literally anyone who says this will be accused of socialism.

we're not going to get it wrong because they have skull face tattoos we know who the criminals are and then it turns out once you crack down on the criminal element your country improves

You know the Roosevelt era and the university started teaching progressivism and gradually they destroyed the whole principle of like today in medicine there's no such thing as truth anymore and this is this society has become nihilistic because they can do anything at one they have it's a zero guilt.

I mean ultimately we can blame the printing press for everything for everything that's gone wrong.

I was reading Road to Serfdom by Hayek.

In my piece I talk about this famous Hayek book, of course, The Road to Serfdom.

You know I will reveal my ideology but in Hayek's The Road to Serfdom the introduction. One of the introductions last introduction was by Milton Friedman and he was talking about capitalism versus communism.

He says if such requirements did exist, do the schools have a duty to carry the road to serfdom?

The pretense of knowledge is important

Hayek thought they were all deluded people who believe in this pretense of knowledge.

The pretense of knowledge is important

Hayek thought they were all deluded people who believe in this pretense of knowledge.

The road to serfdom is one of the great books ever written. If you don't read it, you're doing yourself a huge disservice.

the Hayek's road to serfdom I do jumped back up the Amazon charts as all of a sudden people were learning more about you know Austrian school economics

the Hayek's road to serfdom I do jumped back up the Amazon charts as all of a sudden people were learning more about you know Austrian school economics and pocket constitutions were handed out everywhere at Tea Party gatherings

Give another careful read of The Road to Serfdom

That makes me think of the millionaire next door of that book. You know, that like all these immigrant parents that come in like make their kids wealthy then they blow it all by the second generation.

And he wrote a book in 1992 called the millionaire next door became a very famous book and it was an excellent excellent product and Tom was a marketing professor at Georgia State University and then he became a millionaire selling eight bazillion of those books.

But I also read a book when I was there and called The Million Next Door.

And I believe in practicing frugality in certain ways.

So if you're just starting your business, if you're trying to save some money, if you're trying to be responsible and like set a foundation for your future, I don't think it's a bad thing to drive around into Toyota.

I don't think it's a bad thing to have a Honda.

There's a book called The Millionaire Next Door.

There's the old book, the millionaire next door, the school teachers who are millionaires.

My friend Tom Stanley who's passed away now did a book in 1992 called The Millionaire Next Door And he studied millionaires in 1992, many years ago

I'm thinking about that book that came out some years ago, The Millionaire Next Door, and was all about how the people who are next door living very ordinary lives, you know, driving, you know, 12-year-old cars and, you know, not even very expensive cars, these are the people who are truly wealthy.

One of the most profound things about The Millionaire Next Door is it took our vision of who rich people are and how they live their life and it just turned it on its head.

Including The Millionaire Next Door.

It's like this is how you actually earn money, save money, spend less, invest more, all that stuff.

Tom Stanley, my friend who passed away several years ago in 1992, did a book called The Millionaire Next Door.

He came to his conclusions with a sample size of 750 millionaires.

He was a Georgia State University professor when he did that and sold enough of those books to become a millionaire next door.

But he got criticized because of the sample size by journalism students who had never had a statistics class.

If you've ever had a statistics class, you would know that a sample size of 750 out of approximately at that time 10 million millionaires in North America is statistically significant.

Tom Stanley found it first in 1992 when he did a book called Millionaire Next Door, we discovered it again when we did the largest study of millionaires ever done in North America, 10,167 of them we interviewed, we did not find fancy cars. It was Honda, Toyota, four year old used cars. Nothing that's going to turn heads at the stop light.

I'm thinking about that book that came out some years ago, The Millionaire Next Door. And it was all about how the people who are next door living very ordinary lives, driving 12-year-old cars and not even very expensive cars, these are the people who are truly wealthy.

One of the most profound things about The Millionaire Next Door is it took our vision of who rich people are and how they live their life and it just turned it on its head.

I do think about some of the things that I've learned from actual self-help books, including The Millionaire Next Door.

So one of my brothers gave that to me when I was in my mid-late 20s, when I had my first real-ish jobs and started to earn a little bit of money. And that was a huge eye-opener for me.

If you read the book like I did, The Millionaire Next Door, when I finished reading that book, it was a super, super successful book. And it suggested that to become a millionaire, you need to not brew your own coffee. Don't go to Starbucks.

I always tell people go get the book millionaire next door. It is a book that explains how people that made millions went broke and people that made 50,000 a year, uh, became millionaires just because of how they treated their money and saving their money.

I always tell people go get the book millionaire next door. It is a book that explains how people that made millions went broke and people that made 50,000 a year, uh, became millionaires just because of how they treated their money and saving their money.

So, you know, we would make it through, you know, the Chronicles of Narnia and all the sort of traditional books, you know, start with her reading them to me and then eventually getting old enough to read them myself.

You smile, thinking of the enchanting land of Narnia as you stand on the silent path.

He had greedy, dragonish thoughts in his heart, and he became the dragon.

An appalling loneliness came over him. It was very dreary being a dragon. He shuddered whenever he caught sight of his own reflection. He was ashamed to be with others.

I was lying awake wondering what on earth would become of me when I looked up and saw a huge lion coming slowly toward me. It told me to follow it. It led me into the mountains. There was always light wherever the lion went. So at last we came to the top of a mountain and there was a garden there, trees and fruit and everything. And in the middle of it, there was a very big round bath with marble steps.

I thought if I could get in there and bathe, it would ease the pain. He's got a pain on his arm from one of the bracelets he had put on when he was a human and now being a dragon, it's really painful for him. But the lion told me before I could get down into this bath, I must undress first.

I thought dragons are snaky sort of things that can get rid of their skin. So I started scratching at myself and the scales began to come off. I scratched a little deeper and my whole skin started to peel off beautifully. I could see it there beside me looking rather nasty, but it was the most lovely feeling. I scratched and tore again and again and more skin peeled off beautifully.

He told friends that he knew that there was a connection between this, his interests in these, because he also liked, shit, what's the other, the Narnia books.

He could tell you just about any line in the Narnia series.

I remember them reading Narnia to us in the car and

For me it was Narnia when they had the Turkish stillites.

I'm going to go back to the Chronicles of Narnia because I think those were the first books I remember. And because there was a series of them, they drew me into reading those books. I remember like giving me the passion to read when I just couldn't wait to put one down and it was just such good storytelling.

I mean, books like, you know, Johnny Tremaine, The Iliad, The Odyssey, some Chronicles of Narnia books.

Was the choice of Chronicles of Narnia just based on the fact that it was a movie that was out then? I think it's a super cool movie. I think it's a super cool movie. It's about Dennis Quaid and Louis Gossy Junior who are alien crashlanded on the same planet.

I'm going to go back to the Chronicles of Narnia, because I think those were the first books I remember and because there were a series of them, they drew me into reading those books. I remember like giving me the passion to read when I just couldn't wait to put one down.

In his book, Influence, Bob Cialdini writes about the psychology of persuasion.

He describes seven techniques that we can use to influence those around us.

These tools can be applied in many areas of life and they can be used for good ends and for bad ones.

Social proof, for example, can be used to help people cut back on energy consumption.

In his book, Influence, Bob Cialdini writes about the psychology of persuasion.

Robert Cialdini is the author of Influence, The Psychology of Persuasion.

It's Robert J.ldini's in his book Influence. He says, true influence is not what somebody thinks about you. It's what you make them think about themselves.

So they hit you over the head with reciprocity by offering you free Disneyland tickets, three night getaways, all you can eat buffets.

I read a book called Influence by Robert Cialdini, which kind of it's kind of a broad overview of all of the most common Causes of human misjudgment and it talks a lot about how Human psychology is wielded against us in sales and marketing and so that was an incredibly valuable Valuable book in terms of just understanding like how do people work and why you know, why do I keep seeing these? Odd behaviors from the people I work with that kind of stuff

If I gave Raymond, who sent us this question, why do people get scammed? What's your advice? If I gave Raymond the best advice, I think it would be go read Influence by Bob Cialdini.

And I know you and I have both read Influence and we're both big fans. The reason I suggest that is that what Bob Cialdini as a psychologist did was to document the half dozen basic principles by which human beings persuade other people to do and believe things.

And I want to recommend this to Raymond not only because, like, wow, how do I not fall prey to these techniques? Well, learn them from the master.

But when I got to know Bob in the last several years, I came to discover something that I didn't realize from reading Influence the first time, which is that he is like the most morally upright person.

And I think what truly has motivated him is just the idea that his moral duty is to kind of inoculate all of us against scams and against being had and against being fooled and taken advantage of by writing as clearly as possible about how it is that that happens.

And then I would say there's a book that just popped in my mind called Influence by Robert Cialdini.

It doesn't matter how talented you are if you can't influence someone to see your talent or to buy your talent or to watch your talent or read your talent.

It's the same strategies that politicians use. And you know, when people are trying to build a campaign.

It was called Influence, the Psychology of Persuasion.

It was published in 1984. It sold only a few thousand copies. But word of mouth grew. After three years, it became a New York Times bestseller. And then it kept selling and kept selling and kept selling compound influence.

As of today, it sold roughly five million copies in 44 languages.

Just last year, Cialdini says, the book sold nearly 300,000 copies.

Now he has released a new and aggressively expanded edition of his book.

I mostly listened to nonfiction audiobooks introduced on the show such as the psychology of persuasion, captivate, how to win friends and influence people etc.

I mostly listened to nonfiction audiobooks introduced on the show such as the psychology of persuasion, captivate how to win friends and influence people etc.

I mostly listened to nonfiction audiobooks introduced on the show such as the psychology of persuasion, captivate, how to win friends and influence people, etc.

One of the things I read in his book, that's kind of common knowledge for a lot of people are into marketing and persuasion is this whole idea of social proof.

Well then go on a board, go on a, you know, go to Stanford and become a high profile naysayer of these things or write a book like Burn Book, right?

I do believe in great possibilities and I hate what they've done to the place, so why don't they use the better parts of their nature to do things, which is I'm glad to hear you saying it's not gonna be some demented smart city.

Kara's memoir "Burn Book" is hitting the shelves, featuring fascinating and entertaining stories from her reporting days in Silicon Valley.

There was only a book that was coming out in three weeks that talked about this in detail.

Burn book from Carol Swisher.

I'm not really interested in the book.

I'm speaking with Kara Swisher about her memoir Burn Book, a tech love story.

I love the tech, not the people. I love the possibilities of technology.

I'm speaking with Kara Swisher about her memoir, Burn Book, a tech love story.

I love the tech, not the people.

I love the possibilities of technology.

Her new book, Burn Book, is an unflinching, sometimes scathing examination of the tech industry and the founders who built it.

She doesn't shy away from confronting the consequences of tech titans race to scale.

For people who don't know, David was a great boss, but he really did, as I attribute in my book, Burn Book, to sending me covering the internet.

I always subtitle a tech love story.

And the beauty of this book is you gave the answer in the book.

First make it a conversation.

Second, do not be afraid to ask the question everyone is thinking.

Third, conduct the discussion as if you were never going to interview this person again.

So I'm going to keep your advice in mind and really being the back of my head the whole time.

That's the first line of my book.

As it turns out, it was capitalism after all.

It says a love story.

This is Byrne book. At the top, it's bigger.

It was so funny. Wait, I'm off-thing. What was your question? Why do I love it? Oh, OK.

If you haven't heard already, my latest book, aptly titled Burn Book, a tech love story, came out earlier this week.

So you couldn't say, like, what got to me is I kept seeing all this ridiculousness in terms of valuations and everything else. It was way ahead of its're gonna run out of money. And it was too early. It wasn't directionally wrong. It was executionally wrong at the moment. And so I wanted to say that, and the editor actually said to me, can you get someone to say what you said? And I said, no, why would I do that?

Well, we need to put it to be sure. Some people think Webvan is great.

And I was like, to be sure, they're stupid if they say that.

And this was me as an employee. It was really not good.

I'm speaking with Kara Swisher about her memoir Burn Book, A Tech Love Story.

I'm speaking with Kara Swisher about her memoir Burn Book, a tech love story. I love the tech, not the people. I love the possibilities of technology. I really did believe and I probably was from being gay now that I think about it. It's like we can come out and meet each other now.

She worked on my book with me.

I didn't know she worked on Burn Book?

Yeah.

I didn't know that.

She saved it because I wasn't turning it in and she kicked my ass until I got it in.

She worked on my book with me.

I didn't know she worked on Burn Book?

Yeah.

I didn't know that.

She saved it because I wasn't turning it in and she kicked my ass until I got it in.

She's the author of the New York Times best-selling memoir, Burn Book: A Tech Love Story.

I'm speaking with Kara Swisher about her memoir Burn Book, a tech love story.

I'm speaking with Kara Swisher about her memoir Burn Book, a tech love story.

the book is coming out it's called burn book the cover art came out yes yes it's a picture of me with fire sunglasses and the aviators yeah

In 2017, I attended a tech event in Germany called DLD, Digital Life Design.

I watched as Scott Galloway, an NYU Stern business professor of brand strategy and digital marketing, delivered what was a wacko presentation that included him donning a wig and lip syncing to George Michael's Freedom 90 for way too long.

While Scott's casual arrogance was familiar to me, his insights were fresh and new. I invited him to join me on Rico Decode and he said yes.

Oh my God, my nipples are hard.

A third of my book, "Strongman," is about Coups and Authoritarian Takeovers.

Trump has been very clear about his intent to have an American version of fascism.

He wants to turn the U.S., you know, the military if he could, but certainly law enforcement, to repress large numbers of Americans.

So that Trump is not interested in governance, he's interested in using public office for private benefit.

He's already said, you know, he's boasting that he accepted money during his first presidency from the Chinese for quote services, and I'm still trying to get somebody to ask him what those services were.

all of this is part of his effort to reeducate Americans to see violence as justified, patriotic, and even morally righteous. But to get people to lose their aversion to violence, savvy authoritarians also dehumanize their enemies. That is what Trump is doing, trying to get people to lose their aversion, their natural aversion to violence.

I'm Ruth Bengayet. I write about fascism, authoritarianism and propaganda. My big question is what do you say to the it can't happen here crowd who would read your book as history but don't believe there are any lessons in it for the present?

She writes the sub-stack lucid about authoritarianism and threats to democracy. Kind of a relevant subject matter expertise, Ruth?

Yes, I didn't plan it this way but definitely I wrote Strong Men to warn Americans that it can happen here. It can happen anywhere.

I felt I had the skill set from studying fascism for so many years. So here I am.

And in fact, Strongman, a sub-theme of my book is people going into exile so this is something since I was a teenager I've been thinking about.

And I tried to show that in my book that you know how Trump kept hiring and firing people and there was a 68 percent turnover they're all like this we just don't hear about it while it's going on because of censorship and so that's very sad.

Joining us now is ruth ben ghiatt history professor at new york university author of strongman musselini to the president ruth

ruth ben ghiott is a history professor at new york university and the author of strongmen from musselini to the president coming up this week we got an even better look at how big and real the fake electors plot was in donald trump's efforts to subvert the 2020 election with another indictment this time it was in arizona i'll discuss that with nbc news justice reporter ryan j riley after this

Ruth is the author of the terrific book Strongmen, Mussolini to the Present.

And I write in Strongman, which is the first book to put a chapter in masculinity along with corruption and violence and propaganda because of course there's many women collaborators enablers doing this too.

That's why I wrote Strongman is to show what the outcomes, how it works and what the outcomes have been.

Her most recent book, Strong Men, Mussolini to the Present, looks at how illiberal leaders use corruption and violence to maintain power and how they can be defeated.

I wrote my book Strongmen, which is case studies starting with Mussolini and Hitler going up to Orban and Trump and Putin.

The book that we have talked about is Strongmen from Mussolini to the Present. I urge everyone to read it.

Joining us now is New York University history professor Ruth Ben-Ghiat. She is the author of the book Strongmen, From Mussolini to the Present.

Ruth Ben-Ghiat is a professor of history at NYU. She's the author of the book Strongmen.

It's all one part of the authoritarian playbook.

The people who authoritarians go after, because they're all very corrupt, are prosecutors, judges.

They try and link them--the modern playbook is you link them to George Soros, you link them to degenerates.

They also want to poison in the public's mind journalists.

So basically anyone who can prosecute or harm or expose the corruption and crimes of these individuals, Trump being one of them, becomes a target.

She is an expert on authoritarian leaders like Viktor Orban.

And he's he and his people have actually gone after you a lot in the last several months because you and I have talked about it and you've spoken a lot about Viktor Orban and how out of step he is, in fact, with even his NATO neighbors in in Europe.

You've seen boys in the boat Denise the movie I have not you should read the book but yes you should see the movie too I just thought of it because you love rowing it's fantastic

I just read his book. Did you read that book, right?

I did. Very good.

His brother is Ron Howard.

It's called The Boys.

Yeah, it's really good.

And then I read this series called the boys which is apparently a TV series now. I read the whole thing You don't know not but you don't know about this one I don't watch television at all, but I watched the whole I read the whole you're such a liar when you think books I'm all of them. Um, it's such a great show. Yeah, it's amazing. The book was amazing

Yeah, it was it's so bloody and it's so nasty and and rapey. Well, yeah, but I mean sexually assault Bloody it's very dark. Yeah, very very Morning blood violence sexual assault. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, but what I liked about is well if superheroes were real They would be basically like asshole corporate owned. Yeah. Yeah, like plus Elizabeth shoe is in the first season

Yeah, and it's also like, you know, these superheroes are like squeaky clean publicity wise But behind the scenes to like corporate bribes crime sexual assault drugs, yes, it's but basically just capitalism Yeah, because let's be honest if you're human beings and you had powers that made you untouchable Do you think it would really make you a better person?

And I thought about this, did you ever read Boys in the Boat?

Did you read the books? The six part series herogasm?

Yeah. But watching love sausage like on the screen was a very different experience.

I think they're I think whoever is putting out this information is just a little too excited about how compound V.

Did you read the books? The six part series herogasm?

Yeah. But watching love sausage like on the screen was a very different experience.

I think they're I think whoever is putting out this information is just a little too excited about how compound V.

Did you read the books? The six part series herogasm?

Yeah. But watching love sausage like on the screen was a very different experience.

Oh, yeah. Nice. I'm sorry. I was hearing you say love so watching love sausage just does something to me. I don't know.

I'm glad he was in the in the adaptation but man, the series which is kind of Agility, the love sausage of the of the graphic novel series is more of a developed character.

I think they're I think whoever is putting out this information is just a little too excited about how compound V.

It's about a rowing team and it is whoo. It's sad, but it's good.

It's inspirational but not like super cheesy like you would expect.

I thought it's pretty good probably a four out of five

Author of Gone with the Wind, one of the best-selling American novels ever.

By the way, if you want to know how southerners really felt about black people, you should read Gone With the Wind.

The book gets snapped up by Hollywood. Clark Gable and Vivian Leigh, two giant stars in the leading roles.

She cordoned me in the refrigerator in the wall and threw her purse "Gone With The Wind" in the dining room chair at me.

I remember just going mom, it's "Gone With The Wind".

It's really big. It's a really big book.

Oh she threw the book "Gone With The Wind".

He would come out, I saw him once come out, sit down in a chair and start reading Gone With The Wind. Until you left.

And they're like, they kiss at the end. This is your...

Mary Mitchell gone with the wind and a star is born and how all these things may be connected and drunk driving has a seam in the story as well.

Mary Mitchell, who was the, uh, uh, Mary Mitchell, my, my Margaret, Margaret, who wrote Gone with the Wind was killed by a drunk driver, um, in 1948 or seven.

she's the most, when she's killed by a drunk driver, she's the most famous author in America. She is Gone with the Wind is like, you know, the far and away, the biggest book of that era.

Rhett? Yeah, you can buy it online for 30 bucks.

Rhett frankly my dear, I don't give a damn. Is that him?

It became the top-grossing movie of all time until 1939, when Gone with the Wind was released.

Yeah I thought it was interesting in the middle when he read the entire script of Gone with the Wind as an attack on political correctness.

who did a fantastic episode with us on Gone With The Wind.

I think it's Gone with the Wind is obviously, I suppose with Uncle Tom's Cabin, they're kind of two great literary bookends that surround the history of the Civil War in America and its aftermath.

When the novel was published in 1936 and it became an instant word of mouth phenomenon, it didn't have a massive publicity campaign behind it.

It was a genuine popular hit and it instantly became the book that everybody was reading and everybody was talking about in the United States.

It was written by a woman called Margaret Mitchell, whose life perfectly spans the first half of the 20th century.

The novel became a massive bestseller in the United States and then it exported very, very quickly, going across Europe as fascism was on the rise.

You are not going to be reading Gone with the Wind here, people.

And she wrote the first page and then put like eight pages from Gone with the Wind, pages two through nine, and then had a conclusion and got an A.

And this was an age now of a lot of sentimental literature. Americans came to love stories of the Old South. And, of course, it's there in Gone with the Wind, the most, still maybe the most famous movie ever made.

Now as we know, they've already subjected the works of Roald Dahl and Ian Fleming to this humiliation. So when you hear that they have released a new edition of the 1936 novel Gone with the Wind, you'll probably assume that this book was also vigorously harassed and assaulted by these sensitivity readers. But that is not the direction that the publisher PanMacmillan decided to go.

Because apparently this classic novel set in the south during the civil war era is so thoroughly objectionable, so deeply shocking and problematic that it's beyond the powers of the sensitivity readers to fix. From what I understand, a group of sensitivity readers actually tried to make revisions but after reading just two pages of the book they all spontaneously combusted leaving behind nothing but a rainbow coloured cloud and tufts of blue hair floating around.

They'll release it in its original form prefaced with a lengthy essay apologising for the book's existence.

PanMacmillan the publisher of Margaret Mitchell's classic 1936 American novel Gone with the Wind has added a trigger warning in the preface of the book's most recent publication telling readers that the text is harmful and problematic because of its whitesupremacist qualities.

Gone with the Wind is set before and during the American Civil War and tracks protagonist Scarlett O'Hara, the daughter of a southern plantation owner, as she navigates the tumult of her times. The warning reads that the novel includes problematic elements including the romanticism of a shocking era and the horrors of slavery, and that the publisher chose to leave the text in its entirety.

HBO's streaming service as you've heard took down Gone with the Wind the classic film took it down from its platform because one correct thinking individual wrote an op-ed instructing them to do so and so they did.

Game of Thrones, the DC Comics universe, Harry Potter, The Sopranos, classics like Gone with the Wind, and much more will now operate under the Netflix umbrella.

She's the author of a book about her uncle called 'Too much and never enough' How my family created the world's most dangerous man.

Well, it's funny because that's what the Mary Trump book is about in a lot of ways but I find it like, apparently it sold a lot of copies. I'm very happy for anybody who wants to read it.

Like he's still inside the bank and Mary Trump is outside with a bullhorn yelling, his father was withholding. They used the N word. And it's like, well, we could talk about that when he's fucking in shackles. We can't do that right now. He's still doing crime.

If you read Mary Trump's biography of her family, which he talks about is the fact that Donald Trump has always relied on more intelligent, read in men, powerful men to fix everything.

Mary Trump came on to promote her new book and Megan McCain sat out the interview and Mary Trump called her out on there for being a coward and not wanted to do the interview With her so there was drama today even in Megan McCain's last week

So there was a book around the house. It was Mary L Trump's book.

So this is the niece of Trump and it's her book which is Too Much and Never Enough.

The man had a psychopath father. So basically the guy had no capacity for human empathy, etc so Donald never learned that and so what we're dealing with now is someone who learned how to be a quote-unquote killer in business from his father.

One of the things that Mary says is that it's wild and sort of dissociative and unsettling how we're all sort of Catering to one man's identity catering to one man's identity and whims and all this stuff and it's like, oh, yeah.

Mary also turns out that she is in favor of Social Security and so that's like an actual literal like social program.

But it's like you and I were talking about earlier at the beginning, even about Will Smith. You can know where somebody's bad behavior comes from and still say they must be held accountable for it. And that's how I see politics.

I read Mary Trump's book. I understand he was traumatized as a child, et cetera.

Well, what's the title of Mary Trump's book?

And for people who don't know the title of that book, it's too much and never enough, right?

I read 30 pages of Mary Trump's books.

This book could not be better timed.

It's a really...I'm sure you timed it that way.

Of course I did.

It's sold more than your uncles, which is my favorite part.

She's a psychologist and author of the number one New York Times bestseller, too much and never enough how my family created the world's most dangerous man.

It is technically called The Adventure of Silver Blaze, but nobody remembers that.

The clue that everybody remembers, the clue that unlocks the whole plot of the story is that on the night when the horse disappeared, when somebody came into the stables and led that horse out of the stables, there was a watchdog in the stables that did not bark.

And absolutely nobody remembers that as The Adventure of Silver Blaze, because everybody remembers that as The Dog That Didn't Bark.

It didn't happen. He then directed his followers explicitly multiple times. Okay, yeah, this is what I meant. Now's the time. Get out there. This is it. Go like I said you would. But nothing happened.

The dog did not bark.

I've also read books like Arthur Conan Doyle's The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes and The Mysterious Affair at Stiles by Agatha Christie.

If you're a fan of Arthur Conan Doyle's books, you might enjoy Phoebe Reads a Mystery. It's a podcast where I read classic novels to you, including The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes.

221B Baker Street - the home of the famous fictional detective, Sherlock Holmes.

The room is lined with shelves filled with leather-bound books.

This was where Sherlock used to sit and explain how he solved yet another case with the words, 'Elementary, my dear Watson.'

It's said that Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, who, the author of the Sherlock Holmes stories, he was friends with Houdini and he genuinely believed that Houdini had magical powers.

But Houdini was having none of that and he wouldn't hesitate to remind Doyle or anyone else who made a suggestion like that, that his act was one of skill, wit and athleticism. No magic involved except the magic of human talent.

Sherlock Holmes was really good at that kind of thing.

Uh, did you know he was a morphine and cocaine addict?

Oh, really? Yeah. Well, I guess you need both in like the original stories. Really? Yeah. Oh, like in the books.

I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm sorry. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle?

He was super into this. He joined the Society for Psychical Research, which was an early skeptical slash believer society.

And he always, he bought into this. He was just convinced.

I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm sorry. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle?

He was super into this. He joined the Society for Psychical Research, which was an early skeptical slash believer society.

And he always, he bought into this. He was just convinced.

I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm sorry. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle?

He was the author of Sherlock Holmes, of course. He was super into this. He joined the Society for Psychical Research, which was an early skeptical slash believer society. And he always, he bought into this. He was just convinced.

I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm sorry. Sir Arthur Conan Doyle?

As a teenager, Alfred Hitchcock grew enthralled with crime literature. Starting with the works of Arthur Conan Doyle, of Arthur Conan Doyle and moving on to what were essentially early true crime books, accounts of actual criminal cases and investigations.

when I was a kid I always read detective novels I love Sherlock Holmes

Mertz took a collection of Sherlock Holmes short stories

He bought a first edition book Of Sherlock Holmes for $22,000

But even more extraordinary than the magazine article's claim was the identity of the man who wrote the article, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, the man who wrote Sherlock Holmes.

Yes, the man who invented literature's most brilliant detective was fooled by two girls into thinking fairies were real.

It's not only sharing my own experiences of having been in the Democrat Party for 20 years and really why I left each chapter dedicated to one of the major reasons why but now is a time for action.

They're trying to erase God from every facet of our public life. They are undermining our civil liberties and weaponizing our Department of Justice against their political opponents.

They are terrified of a free people and a free society and we're seeing this play out right now in more brazen ways than I've ever experienced or seen in my lifetime.

And this is why the timing of this book is so important because there are a lot of people out there who maybe are still Democrats or have left the Democrat Party people who are unaffiliated with either party Gallup poll recently showed 43% of Americans are Affiliated or people who are just frustrated with politics in general.

It is I mean, you've given a foremost and very important example of how the party that I joined the party of JFK the party of Martin Luther King is no longer recognizable today.

I'm former Congresswoman Tulsi Gabbard and I have just read an excerpt from my new book for Love of Country, Leave the Democrat Party Behind.

The book is available for sale now on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Audible, and wherever you get your book.

It might be the most divisive speech I've ever heard in my life.

I talk about this in my book. He did the exact opposite.

I talk about this in my book.

And I talk about this in my book.

There's a chapter dedicated to how the Democrats are racializing everything and using identity politics to tear us apart. There's a chapter dedicated to how they defy the existence of objective truth in our society and every issue that I bring up is not a partisan issue, it's something that that every one of us as Americans should be concerned about and also talks about solutions.

I've got her book right there, it's just out of arm's reach, but Tulsi Gabbard who will be sitting in here this afternoon is another sane liberal, not lunatic lefty, who just wrote a book, the sub, it's called "For Love of Country". What does it say? Leave the Democratic party behind, pretty clean and clear on what she's going for there.

She was a 2020 presidential candidate on the Dem side, and she is author of the book For Love of Country. Leave the Democrat Party behind.

So you know how things went over there. Tulsi, great to have you back, especially so soon. But why shouldn't we given the monumental developments since you were last on? This was a grassroots bottom up quote process that was really given to the voters just in case you weren't aware.

She was a 2020 presidential candidate on the Dem side, and she is author of the book For Love of Country. Leave the Democrat Party behind. So you know how things went over there.

Tulsi Gabbard is here with me. Her book is For Love of Country, Leave the Democrat Party Behind and it's available right now.

I dedicate a whole chapter in my book to this very topic because of how destructive and divisive it has become.

And I dedicate a whole chapter in my book specifically to this topic, both because of what the consequence is.

I've spoken with a few of the women who are currently on the, uh, the world surfing circuit tour and then expressing their frustrations because not only is it completely unfair, there are two different divisions for a reason.

The physical capability of male surfers to be able to paddle into some of the biggest waves in the world is just different from the women.

These women are excellent beyond, you know, I, I I'm like, I'm like in kindergarten as a surfer compared to what these women are doing and dominating around the world.

However, they are different for a reason. And if they speak up about it, they, they will immediately see their sponsorships canceled and perhaps be kicked off the tour.

She has got a new book out.

I dedicate a whole chapter in my book specifically to this topic both because of what the consequence is...

And she has a bestselling book for love of country, which I encourage you guys to go check out.

I dedicate a whole chapter in my book specifically to this topic,

And I specifically focused in my book about each chapter dedicated to one of these major fundamental principles.

New book out for love of country just came out yesterday told see I want to jump right back into it.

we have a link up to Tulsi's book at ClayandBuck.com so we want to go and get your copy today for love of country leave the Democrat Party behind.

who are starting to read my book and say hey my gosh this is exactly what I've been feeling and what I've been thinking.

Tulsi Gabbard's got a book that just came out yesterday for love of country leave the democrat party behind

and Tulsi to that end one of the things that's getting a fair amount of attention is the biden administration's whiplash on this issue

people who are looking for someone to say hey come and stand with us as americans who love our country who cherish peace and freedom and who are deeply concerned about how the biden harris administration is undermining some of the most fundamental principles that make our country what it is that make this country great

we have a link up tolsey's book at playing buck dot com so you want to go and get your copy today for love of country leave the democrat party behind

we still have tulsi gabard with us now she's a combat veteran currently serving as lieutenant colonel in the u.s army reserve new book out for love of country just came out yesterday

I'm encouraging them to look at what is really happening in this country who rejects the Democrats.

They all stand for the same policies that are destroying our democracy and undermining our freedom, undermining the rule of law, doing everything they possibly can simply to hold on to power.

And I got to tell you there's a lot of folks out there who feel politically homeless right now.

The book comes out April 30th.

It's called 'For Love of Country: Leave the Democrat Party Behind'.

I would.

My interest and goal has always been trying to find the best place that I can serve our country and make a positive impact.

And what I'm finding is I'm traveling across the country speaking to many of the points that I wrote about in my book about why left the Democratic Party and how today's Democrat elite are doing their very best to destroy our democracy just so that they can hold on to power.

The book comes out April 30th.

It's called 'For Love of Country: Leave the Democrat Party Behind'.

I left the democratic party in October of 2022 and I got a call from a publisher who saw my announcement. I made a little video announcing that the main reasons why I was leaving the democratic party publisher called and said that announcement read like a book outline and we'd love for you to write a book if you, if you're interested.

So fast forward to book release date was April 30th 2024. So, you know, I was originally supposed to push the book out. I think the original published date was summer of 23 took me long. It took me a lot longer.

Yeah, it all, I mean, honestly, it all worked out. I think for the best because the book came out at kind of a fortuitous time given what's going on in the country and with this election.

Yeah, we made, we made the New York Times bestseller list which I was surprised by congratulations.

Here's one we all saw and know about, whether or not we read it, The God Delusion.

That puts you in the same plateau as... That puts you on a plateau to be identified as one of the Four Horsemen.

Not a phrase that any of us actually... It was bestowed upon you?

So it was Daniel Dannet, Christopher Hitchens. Sam Harris.

And both of them are past. Sam Harris and you.

Did you see this video of Richard Dawkins talking about that recently?

I did just to be clear, he's had that position since the God delusion about a Christian nation.

After Dawkins book, The God Delusion became bestselling 2006, and there was kind of a split in the atheist and humanist skeptics movement about how militant you are in your atheism. You gotta be really militant. It's like, no, you don't.

I was atheist at the time and I was doing all my Dawkins and Hitchens and all the kids were Christian so I was like really getting off to the debates.

I read every book that the man is literally ever written at least they stopped 10 years ago don't know if he's written anything since.

Science books two before God yeah they're great phenomenal yeah I mean I think it's controversial he I think he created the word mimetic like the word meme which eventually became meme online that's again controversial in terms of the attribution of the term let's return to this

I was atheist at the time and I was doing all my my Dawkins and Hitchens and all the kids were Christian so I was really getting off to the debates and that's a fucking annoying kid.

I was atheist at the time and I was doing all my my Dawkins and Hitchens

That's when he read Richard Dawkins and Christopher Hitchens.

Well, I tell you what we're doing, Dr. Jordan Peterson, what you said is very similar to what Richard Dawkins said in an debate with the Archbishop of the then Archbishop of Canterbury.

And he said that well, if you have and he said this debate, he made this argument in Oxford.

And he said that if you look at the universe, well, if you're saying that God has made the universe in this way, then your God who's more complicated than he would add this layer of complexity.

This your God is more complicated would require it even greater. He would require even greater explanation.

the problem with debating people like Richard Dawkins about the existence of God is that he will formulate the argument in propositional terms and then force the person so to speak.

I've read The Selfish Gene. I've read The Blind Watchmaker. I've read The God Delusion and I've read parts of other books.

I'm afraid it is, yes.

I would like it to be one of the science books, but it is, yes.

Because people are interested in the subject of God.

I've read The God Delusion

I'm afraid it is, yes.

I would like it to be one of the science books, but it is, yes.

I think you're exaggerating the desire of the secular movement to convert everybody to our point of view.

We're not like missionaries knocking on the door and sort of saying have you found Jesus or that sort of thing. Or have you not found Jesus? Yes. Have you lost Jesus yet?

It isn't really like that. It's rather more, we want to convert you not to atheism, but to the view that atheists should not be discriminated against.

I think you're exaggerating the desire of the secular movement to convert everybody to our point of view. We're not like missionaries knocking on the door and sort of saying have you found Jesus or that sort of thing.

It isn't really like that. It's rather more, we want to convert you not to atheism, but to the view that atheists should not be discriminated against.

I read Richard Dawkins when I was 18, 19 years old and found it fascinating and persuasive. I read The God Delusion.

When Richard Dawkins writes the God delusion or when Sam Harris writes the end of faith. Neither of these guys would say that these are new ideas that they're presenting.

Richard Dawkins, the author of the mega-selling best book, The God Delusion.

Richard Dawkins addressed that point in his book The God Delusion, noting that he is a de facto atheist.

But one of the things that I really enjoyed about the God delusion is that you kind of outlined every single possible argument against atheism and then had a counter to it in advance.

the first PDF download of the Arabic edition of the God delusion was downloaded 13 million times Arabic edition 13 million times.

I'm Glen and Doyle, author of Untamed and host of the podcast We Can Do Hard Things.

My wife just finished reading Glenin's bestselling book Untamed and loved it.

I'm Glen and Doyle, author of Untamed and host of the podcast We Can Do Hard Things.

I read Untamed during the pandemic and I didn't know your work before that.

And it felt incredibly aligned to me.

And it felt like everything was meeting with you and with Abby, the balance of your relationship and the humor. I just related to it so much.

I think that I want to tell that story, the not story that's in Untamed.

I just go, oh my, I've never seen her do this before in our life together.

Then 6 a.m. comes around, I'm always the first one up. Abby's rolling out of bed with your book. I said, what are you doing up? She said, I can't stop. I cannot stop.

I'm telling you when I picked this book up, I cried, I laughed, I cringed and I could not put this book down.

And we were talking about this ridiculous situation we find ourselves in parenting where we are still human beings who have needs, but like suddenly no one cares.

And Bernay was talking about this situation where she had just come home from this long business trip.

I'm gonna have to go read the book again I'm gonna go read that again it's you untamed again because untamed I mentioned it in my acknowledge section do you think I don't you think I don't know that my friends have sent it my friends who get the arcs of the books I had it's a very exciting happening in my life that you put and him to the acknowledgements and then watch me I sat in my truck like when I still had to be a little bit in hiding and couldn't go inside a basketball game but I could take my kid to a basketball game so I would just sit in the car and I listened to it in the car and then when we had to drive I was like I have to get home so I can start listening again I was so caught up it was so good it was so good

And you wrote about this in Untamed.

Hello, I want to tell you about a podcast that I think you're gonna love on We Can Do Hard Things, best-selling author of Untamed, Glennon Doyle, former guest on this show, and her wife, Abby Wambach, also a former guest on this show, and Glennon's sister, Amanda Doyle, who's never been on this show, but I bet she will at some point.

Best-selling author of Untamed, Glennon Doyle, former guest on this show, and her wife, Abby Wambach, also a former guest on this show, and Glennon's sister, Amanda Doyle,

I'm like halfway through your boundaries, podcast, the latest one, and you were discussing boundaries for married people.

The writer of Untamed was like anorexic the whole time I wrote it.

I think what I did is what I wish for other people to do, which is that I wrote the truest, most beautiful self I could imagine.

And the refrain of Untamed is you're not crazy. You're a goddamn cheetah.

It's the same person who would say she wrote Love Warrior and then left her husband.

And you go through the Untamed process and you're peeling back and you take that brave next step and the next step appears and you either tell yourself, oh, I'm not going to take that because then that will give someone ammunition against me.

She picked up a copy of untamed. I had it before all this stuff went down and I read it and I got lost in it.

This deserves all the praise that it gets. And I was just so proud of your relentless honesty that it did a lot for me and it gave me sort of the fortitude to sort of get through the worst of times.

I wrote this book called Untamed and the... Yes, I know it well.

the kind of parable story that I opened Untamed with was about a cheetah who was running back and forth on this ridiculous performance for the crowd because the cheetah had been raised with a black lab to learn how to be a lab, not a cheetah.

I wrote this book called Untamed and the...

the kind of parable story that I opened Untamed with was about a cheetah who was running back and forth on this ridiculous performance for the crowd because the cheetah had been raised with a black lab to learn how to be a lab, not a cheetah.

the thesis statement of Untamed was I'm not crazy, I'm a goddamn cheetah because I think a lot about growing up as a woman is about rejecting the idea that there was ever anything wrong with you.

I do wonder if I were not in a gaslighting tango with the world, would my thesis statement of untamed have been, I'm not crazy, I'm a goddam cheetah.

And it reminds me of the thing I wrote about in Untamed with the touch tree.

The writer of Untamed was like anorexic the whole time I wrote it.

It's the same person who would say she wrote Love Warrior and then left her husband.

Because it's the same person who would say she wrote Love Warrior and then left her husband. Of course, when you get to the path of the Love Warrior and you understand the next step is that you do it because it's the thing you need to do.

And the refrain of Untamed is you're not crazy. You're a goddamn cheetah.

And I think what I did is what I wish for other people to do, which is that I wrote the truest, most beautiful self I could imagine.

And those early writings have turned into three books, the last of which was Untamed.

I watched from my home this past year in awe as Untamed became one of the biggest books of 2020 and 21.

This song has already become a personal anthem for me, and it's helped me through many hard days. And I hope it will become our family's pod squad anthem too.

Like this hot yoga. And I was like, no matter what happens in here, I'm going to stay. I'm going to stay. I'm melting, but I'm going to stay on this damn mat.

I lived in New York for two years and I literally left because I was reading Untamed.

I think that part of this has to do with, I have gotten male privilege because of the way I present through my life and because of sports. So I have a sense of male privilege that maybe you both because the way you present and the way that you've been received in the world, it just might be slightly different. So that's interesting. Yeah, I think that that's kind of interesting. So you obviously played the iconic role of Elle Woods.

So you obviously played the iconic role of Elle Woods. And because everyone, I mean, everybody knows Elle Woods, but because of Elle's beauty and popularity and femininity- From Legally Blonde, just to- Right, from Legally Blonde. She was constantly assumed to be not smart enough, not serious enough, not powerful enough to be at the table she earned her way to.

Well, I don't think women or any women are actually too much or not enough. I just think that's the structure we're given. Exactly. Please say that again. No woman is too much or not enough.

Why are we told that? Like, that was untamed for me was this unlocking of all of the constructs that don't hold water for me anymore. This idea of the perfect woman or the perfect, yet showing up in society with everything that is weighing down on us, it's just crushing.

I don't know if you wrote the full story about this in Untamed, but do you want to tell the first bit of the story where you called?

Well, I'll tell you. You called me. Oh, the blowjobs.

Untamed is like letting loose.

And I think switching into, I rather experience everything than miss everything, right? Is that feeling that is related to our defenses. Our defenses are our idealization, our denial, our repression, right? What do we do internally? Projection.

Stuff I wrote in Untamed that doesn't exactly feel right anymore. And lots of it's about gender and sexuality.

Emily Nagoski in her book Come as You Are describes it very beautifully you have you are responsive but you're not going to be responsive if you experience the man you're gonna be responsive if there is invitation and even more so you're going to be responsive when the invitation comes from you not from him because it's so hard for you to experience his as an invitation rather than as a demand as a need.

When he needs you and he comes with you with that need that emotional need not just a section it's an emotional need in the language of sex then you can be nice and you can be kind and you can do it because you're taking care of him but you experience nothing pleasurable for yourself except the fact that you feel good about having been nice to him and on occasion you start to resent it too very true okay so that script is what is standing in your way at this point.

And as I was traveling around with that book, people over and over kept saying to me, yeah, yeah, all the sex science is great Emily. But you know, the one chapter that changed everything for me was that one chapter about stress and emotion processing.

And do you remember how it, you know, saved my life? She said twice.

Check out John's recommendation, Come As You Are: https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

And so I always go back to Dr. Emily Nagoski in a book that I want you to pick up is called Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski.

It's incredible.

Dr. Nagoski, it's such a great book, but it walks through this idea of intimacy, sexuality,

There's a wonderful book by Emily Nagoski called Come As You Are that reviews this research.

I want you and your wife to read the book, Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski. I want you all to read it together.

It's a book written to women, but I have found men all over the country going, dude, I had no idea. It was so instructive and helpful.

Well, there's a couple of good books that I would recommend, Come As You Are.

Emily Nagoski's book, Come As You Are, reviews the science that I've just summarized and again, paints this hopeful picture while at the same time empowering women to get help.

And the reason why we liked it was because it was helpful, but also because the authors who are friends of this pod, Emily Nagoski, who wrote come as you are and her sister, who is also an author, Amelia Nagoski, they are just kind of the antidote to like the self-help or self care that there's no suggestion of we can just fix, you know, burnout with a candle or a bath or a manicure.

And don't forget, Come As You Are, Emily's book that, um, rocked our first silent sex queen episode that if you haven't listened to, you definitely are going to want to go listen to now.

Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are, newly revised and updated in 2021.

Now listen to this people. Here's what I read just in the introduction. All right? Oh God. So many women come to my blog or to my class or to my public talks convinced that they are sexually broken.

I wrote this book to share the science stories and sex positive insights that prove to us that despite our culture's vested interest in making us feel broken, dysfunctional, unlovely and unlovable, we are in fact fully capable of confident, joyful sex.

What I loved about Come As You Are, so many things, but I loved how it was organized because this structure was helpful to me.

If you're not a reader, listen to Emily's book, Come As You Are. Her voice is perfect. You're so good at reading. I loved it.

She was watching her adult brother change his baby daughter's diaper, which is great. She's all clean and he reaches for the new diaper and when he turns back, she is touching her vulva. And he goes, ah, don't touch that.

Also, Nagoski's Come As You Are, great book.

Yes, I actually just bought that. You are normal. I'm going to read it. Good. I'm going to read it. I'm going to read it.

I think i before i read um nagaski's book come as you are which everyone i think should read

I was just finished listening to a book, a nonfiction book on sexuality because I like psychology books and it's this book called Come as you are and it's about...

In it she this this expert talks about how everyone has accelerators and brakes and that's like some people have more sensitive brakes. Some people have more sensitive accelerators, but she says what's damaging is over time people start to go like oh I just have no sex drive. It's like no your brakes are probably on like the situation's not right and you're not clocking what's preventing you from feeling it or interest? It's really fascinating.

And I also want you to get a copy of Emily Nagoski's book, Come As You Are. It's a book about sex and intimacy for women, but it's incredible for, I've just found it a really invaluable resource. There's probably a lot of stuff in there that you don't need to hear, but there's some incredible sections on offs and ons.

I'm going to recommend a book for you two guys to read together, but you're going to have to practice turning on all the ons and turning off all the offs.

the book I want you two to read, this is not a faith-based book...it's called Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. And it is exceptional when it comes to--establishing sexual intimacy, right?

It's the best book I've ever read when it comes to talking about establishing--good grief, James, we need a dictionary on this show--establishing sexual intimacy, right?

I've heard you recommend that book before. I'd recommend y'all both read it together. And it will probably make her blush. It will probably give her freedom.

Here's one of the ultimate thesis of that book. Life is too short to not have an incredible sex life. It's just too short.

Come As You Are by Emily Nagatsky, the book on sex. It's less about it's more about a relationship between a woman and her body. But I think the men that have read it have find extraordinary value in it as well. And I think it's a great book that couples can read together.

get Emily Nagatsky's book, Come As You Are, ordered on Amazon today.

I used to talk about the book all the time. I haven't in a while. I recommend anybody who's having conversations in their home, like there's just a married couple sitting there talking about how they want to improve their sex life or change their sex life. There's a book called Come As You Are that Emily Nagoski wrote. It's a masterpiece. It's incredible.

She was the first person I ever heard so eloquently put outside of like nerd science journals that there's no such thing as a sex drive. That's not real. That one person has more of a sex drive and one person has less of a sex drive. And women's sex drive is just men's sex drive light. That's not true. Really, sexual desire is a series of gas pedals and brakes.

The masterpiece is the book Come As You Are by Emily Nagatsky.

What she did for me was reframe the entire thing in sexism about drive at all. It's environmental. It's ecological in a way. It is how do I create a world where there's as few offs as possible and a few ons as possible?

And I also want you to get a copy of Emily Nagoski's book Come As You Are. It's a book about sex and intimacy for women. But it's incredible for I've just found a really invaluable resource.

And her book will give you some conversations to have with your husband. And he needs to read it too.

I want you all to get the book together and read called come as you are by Emily Nagoski.

And I want you all to read that book together and there's going to be parts of that book that are like, whoa.

And in particular, she does a great job peeling apart the myth that sex is a drive that some people just have more than the other.

What she proves physiologically is that sex is actually sex drive, if you will, is actually a series of gas pedals and brakes.

I finished that book and I recommend it to everybody. I mean, all my counselor for everybody, I thought needs to read this is just a great book on sex and intimacy for women.

I'll link to it in the show notes. It's the single best book on sex I've ever read in my life. It's written for women about their bodies and they were just left out of the conversation most went more. It's a it's a phenomenal book, but it's also really important for men to read too.

And also women should not feel broken or weird or isolated and they should watch Principles of Pleasure on Netflix or read Come As You Are.

There's a book called, I think this one's called Come As You Are. It's written to women. It's all puns. I know. It's all puns about coming.