The Mel Robbins Podcast

I am going to publish my next book The Let Them Theory.

Yep, I'm writing a book about The Let Them Theory and it's coming out mid September which means six months from now.

Another thing that I'm gonna start doing, you're gonna love this, I'm gonna start writing my next book, which is The Let Them Theory.

I'm working on my next book.

It's called The Let Them Theory.

It's coming out in January.

And interestingly, I'm working on my next book. The title is The Let Them Theory. You're going to frickin' love it. It comes out in January.

And I'm also going to tell you that my next book comes out, it's called The Let Them Theory on January 1.

My next book comes out, it's called The Let Them Theory on January 1. And you better have that puppy in your hands because there's an entire section about using The Let Them Theory to create the best friendships of your life. I wrote it for you.

The Let Them Theory is the best gift you can give this holiday season. It's the gift you give to someone who's overwhelmed, to the people pleaser, to the friend who carries way too much, to the sibling who's exhausted from dealing with everyone else's emotions, to the coworker who needs a break. It's meaningful. It's practical. It's hilarious. And it's life-changing.

The Let Them Theory is the best gift you can give this holiday season. It's the gift you give to someone who's overwhelmed, to the people pleaser, to the friend who carries way too much, to the sibling who's exhausted from dealing with everyone else's emotions, to the coworker who needs a break. It's meaningful, it's practical, it's hilarious, and it's lifechanging.

The Let Them Theory, for everyone on your list. Available at letthem.com and wherever books are sold.

The Let Them Theory is the number one book in the world because it's your holiday survival guide. This Thanksgiving, stop trying to manage everyone else. Manage you. Grab your copy now at letthem.com or wherever books are sold.

one of the single most popular sections of The Let Them Theory book.

because this is one of the most popular sections of The Let Them Theory book itself, it will change the way that you look at other people.

I'm going to read to you from The Let Them Theory book. This is chapter seven, page 111.

Let me read you from chapter 7, page 120. You cannot control your emotions from rising up.

Let me read to you one last passage from The Let Them Theory. This is from the chapter How to Love Difficult People on page 103.

The Let Them Theory is going to help you with that.

If you've read The Let Them Theory or you've already started using let them ...

medical experts that I quoted extensively in The Let Them Theory book.

she is the very first expert of 57 worldrenowned experts that I cited in The Let Them Theory book, where she talks all about how to use The Let Them Theory to lower your stress levels.

when I wrote The Let Them Theory book, I knew it would help people. But I didn't expect this. Number one New York Times bestseller for 37 straight weeks and counting. Number one on Amazon for almost the entire year. Almost 7 million copies sold, 63 languages.

When you say two simple words, let them, your whole life changes for the better. The Let Them Theory teaches you how to protect your time and energy so you can focus on what actually matters.

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When I wrote The Let Them Theory book, I knew it would help people, but I didn't expect this. #1 New York Times bestseller for 37 straight weeks and counting. #1 on Amazon for almost the entire year. Almost 7 million copies sold, 63 languages. It works.

I want to read to you from The Let Them Theory book. This book, in just six months, is being translated into 63 languages. In six months, it has sold over six million copies and counting.

Let me read to you from page 17 of The Let Them Theory. This is chapter one. Stop wasting your life on things you can't control.

I want to read to you from page 226 of The Let Them Theory book because I dedicate an entire section of the book to how you use The Let Them Theory when somebody is struggling.

I want to read to you again from The Let Them Theory because I dedicate an entire section in the book to using the theory to stop giving people power and to stop seeking your worth and other people's opinions. This is on page 79.

Let me read to you from The Let Them Theory, page 84, in the section, let them think bad thoughts about you.

The Let Them Theory book, it was a work in progress that lasted two years. It was a work in progress. We've had mistakes, we've had the wrong URL for the free downloads in the back, and we're still fixing them.

Six million copies of that book have been bought and read by people around the world, it's coming out in 63 languages, and we're still fixing errors because it's a work in progress.

I know that my daughter will not be upset that I shared this because we wrote about it in The Let Them Theory book.

One of my big things this year, honestly, is saying no. Like just focusing, coming out of launching The Let Them Theory book and just ending the leg of the tour in 2025.

I wrote about this very fact in The Let Them Theory book.

when I read The Let Them Theory, one of the things I find really powerful about it is the separation between me and the other person, but in a really beautiful way.

I first wrote about this phenomenon in The Let Them Theory book that I coauthored with my 26yearold daughter, Sawyer.

Here we go. When you were little, you and your friends and your classmates felt like a team. You were moving through life at the exact same pace and in the exact same place from kindergarten to high school... (reading from page 158 of The Let Them Theory book).

I want to read one more section from The Let Them Theory book about the great scattering to you.

This is our book. I wanted everyone to love it just as much as us.

with Let Them, you have that one piece, which I love.

And I write about the story in The Let Them Theory book, but I'll just share it very briefly, which is when I first fell in love with my husband, Chris, I was head over heels, right?

It was just like, it was honestly, that was the precursor to the experience of writing The Let Them Theory book with her.

The Let Them Theory has actually been wildly helpful for me in learning at this point in my life how to love people as they are and stop trying to change them.

The single biggest thing that's helped my relationships is The Let Them Theory. It forced me to learn how to stop controlling and changing and wishing people were different, and actually do the work to see people as they are.

I write about this in The Let Them Theory book. This is chapter eight.

I wrote about this a lot and researched this in The Let Them Theory. On page 252 of The Let Them Theory book, I also address this fallacy that the purpose of dating is to find the one.

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I bought my Let Them Theory book in here, and it's so funny. Last week, my wife comes to me and my wife goes, I ordered you a book. You need to read it immediately.

your wife literally just gave me your book last week.

I was talking with our oldest daughter Sawyer and she said The Let Them Theory is literally the biggest book club in the world right now, with 3million of you having already read, listened to, recommended, gifted, reviewed, discussed, and even checked out of your library.

Aaron wrote in and said, I bought two copies of The Let Them Theory, one for my mother and one for me, and we would grab our book each night on vacation and stop to discuss the different chapters that both of us could relate to.

That book is a phenomenon, on track to become one of the most successful nonfiction books of the entire year with three million copies sold in two and a half months.

And that's where The Let Them Theory really helps you. Because if they don't respect you enough to ask for what they need, then don't let them disrespect you with the silent treatment.

And you got to wake up and see it for what it is. And so here's how you can choose to respond to this. Let them go silent. Let them erupt. Let them play the victim. Let them sulk. Let them make it all about them. And focus on the response, the let me part. Let me be the mature, wise, and loving adult in this situation.

Mel's #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory, and in that book, you write a lot about control.

I've read your six books, I listen to your podcast, I follow your work, so I also know that your father's life had a very big impact... I love your new book, The Let Them Theory.

You may have heard this story, but it's such an important and compelling story that it bears repeating. I've been talking about The Let Them Theory book.

My 25yearold daughter, Sawyer, and I wrote The Let Them Theory book together.

What if you could just use something like The Let Them Theory and understand that your thoughts come and go, they rise and they fall.

And it's an entire section of The Let Them Theory book.

Based on the research in The Let Them Theory book, deal breakers are things that make you give up on your dreams and your values.

One of the things in writing The Let Them Theory book that I realized when it comes to parenting and families is that when you and your partner decide what your values are and what your traditions are ... it is going to be yours.

I'm going to read a passage from page 186 of The Let Them Theory book. ... If you say hello at a coffee shop and they aren't very friendly, let them. If their calendar's so busy they can't find time to go for a walk, let them. If they cancel plans this weekend because they've had a long week at work, let them. If they fall in love or have a baby and you're no longer a priority, let them.

The more flexible you are, the more they come and go in your life. And it's such a beautiful thing to let them.

I want you to focus on the second part of the theory. Let me. Let me. Because that's what's in your control. Let me be understanding. Let me make an effort. Let me check in without expectation.

The Let Them Theory woke me up to a simple truth. Friendship matters. Friends are going to come and go. And friendship is there for you to create, but you got to take responsibility for it.

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The only thing that I have ever seen resonate that immediately and all over the globe was the first time I shared The Let Them Theory.

That point that you address in your book, Let Them, shows how the belief that you must never disappoint anybody leads to chronic stress and a weakened immune system.

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When I was researching The Let Them Theory and I was talking to a lot of psychologists and psychiatrists, the research shows that after somebody breaks up with you, it takes people about 11 weeks before they start feeling better.

We, of course, talked about The Let Them Theory. It's a simple mindset tool that helps you identify in a moment what's in your control and what's not in your control.

in the 35 press interviews that I've done so far for The Let Them Theory book, this is the biggest question everybody's asking.

today you're going to learn how to use The Let Them Theory to let people have their opinions and focus on living your life in a way that makes you proud of yourself.

and The Let Them Theory will help you take your power back.

So I go up to somebody and I write about this in my new book, The Let Them Theory. In fact, I write about it on page 82 and I want to read to you about this.

Now, I'm reading on page 83 of The Let Them Theory book right now.

And for me, I want to publish a book this year. I got to have the physical book in my hands. I'm holding The Let Them Theory book right now. That's how I knew I would achieve the goal.

And I want to read one final thing to you from The Let Them Theory book. Because anything that you want to change in your life, just turn it into a goal.

And this is page 10 of The Let Them Theory book. Changing my life wasn't glamorous, it was grueling.

I have been head down on that puppy for the entire year. And so a huge highlight is that I actually got that thing done, that two days ago it was published, that the cover is sensational, that the content is incredible, and that more importantly, all those late nights, all of the times I broke down crying, all of the photos of me where I look bloated and my mascara is running and I'm exhausted ... that hard work paid off.

When I use The Let Them Theory, and I keep saying let them, and I let people be themselves, and I let people learn from life, and I let people know that I'm here to support them, but that I'm not going to save them.

The first time I shared this on the podcast, it was a year ago. It was over The Let Them Theory book. Whether you have the audio book or you have the hardcover, it's going to make your life better.

It's going to make your life better. Because the entire book is about learning ...

I'm definitely not going to be working on my next book because holy smokes, I'm going to laser focus on the three things and not add anything else.

Or like, I'm so happy my book made the New York Times bestsellers list.

And it's also one of the reasons why I love The Let Them Theory so much.

And I love The Let Them Theory. It's not giving in.

research that we wrote about in my book, The Let Them Theory, about how if you are in this pattern of ...

And to put an even bigger twist on this, Sawyer and I at the time were working on researching the section of The Let Them Theory book all about love and breakups.

That the morning of, I was writing the breakup section of the new Let Them Theory book and writing this entire list.

I want to read a section from the Let Them book because we're talking about the first step, which is just understanding what the breakup actually is. And this first part, which is processing it. And so this is in the section on love. I'm reading from page 283.

I have just spent the last two years writing a book called The Let Them Theory.

use a technique that I write about extensively in my book, The Let Them Theory.

I write about this extensively in The Let Them Theory book in section six, which is all about the fact that you can't change other people.

The Let Them Theory is going to let you do it because no one's going to change when you're pressuring them.

The Let Them Theory is going to let you do it because it's the number one thing. No one's going to change when you're pressuring them.

In fact, I write about this extensively in The Let Them Theory book. There's an entire chapter. Chapter 6. Page 95.

And I want to read to you from The Let Them Theory book, because this perspective about time is what motivated me to truly change the way that I show up for my family, to change the way that I align my actions and my time when it comes to my family.

And this is in chapter six on page 104. The truth is you have limited time with your loved ones. At some point, you're going to realize that your parents aren't going to be here forever.

And The Let Them Theory has helped me improve almost every relationship that I have.

Let them. Let me. Let me decide what kind of relationship I want to create.

I was on the road a lot promoting The Let Them Theory book

I am beyond excited to tell you that my new book, The Let Them Theory, is available for preorder. And right now, go to letthem.com, preorder your own copy.

And you mentioned that your book, Let Them, helps parents understand what is being acted out in a child's behavior.

Last night, I got home and I've been on the road promoting The Let Them Theory book. Thank you, thank you, thank you for ordering it, for supporting it.

I've written a book about what I believe is the single most powerful tool I have ever discovered. It's called The Let Them Theory. I have never been so excited about something I've created. I cannot wait for you to get your hands on it. It is now available for preorder. Go to letthem.com right now.

I was talking about my new book, The Let Them Theory, coming out. We're in the middle of the promotion.

I wrote an entire chapter in The Let Them Theory about this.

you have to let them theory. You have to, you have to let him be in a bad mood.

I would recommend you start to talk about uncertainty. And I'm going to give you one tool from The Let Them Theory book.

I write about this extensively in the book.

I am beyond excited to tell you that my new book, The Let Them Theory, is available for pre-order.

And right now, go to letthem.com, pre-order your own copy. And this book, it's going to change how you think about your entire life.

And finally, stop you from getting in your own way. Letthem.com, you won't regret it.

I've written a book about what I believe is the single most powerful tool I have ever discovered. It's called The Let Them Theory. I have never been so excited about something I've created. I cannot wait for you to get your hands on it. It is now available for pre-order. Go to letthem.com right now.

I have poured every ounce of my being, every part of me into this project and I gotta pull it together here because today, whoo, I can finally tell you for the very first time that my new book, The Let Them Theory, is available for pre-order right now.

In fact, this book, The Let Them Theory book, should probably be sponsored by coffee because I've basically been running on caffeine for the past two years to try to get this thing done.

This book, The Let Them Theory book, it is worth your time because it will change how you think about your entire life.

And when you read The Let Them Theory book, you're going to realize two simple words, let them, will set you free.

and you can use it immediately because The Let Them Theory works as fast as it takes you to say, let them.

So for my daughter Sawyer, who is managing the launch of my brand new book, The Let Them Theory, which comes out in January, it's all about eating sour grapes.

I have no idea why. I cannot eat a sour grape to save my life. I pop a sour grape in my mouth and it's like my cheek suction or I do not like it. But every time she pops a sour grape in her mouth, boom, she gets a wave of comfort. It's a sour grape. Simple sensory experience. Boom, there's the joy.

The Let Them Theory book is the number one book in the world. And look, you can write a great book and it can do really well. ... it has become an actual phenomenon. You don't just have a book come along that 8 million people read or listen to in 11 months.

with this podcast, with The Let Them Theory book, it is nothing short of jawdropping. It was a highlight of my life and my career.

The Let Them Theory book, it is the number one book in the world. It has become an actual phenomenon. ... it empowered you, and you were giving it to other people and recommending it.

I used The Let Them Theory. I am a different person because of The Let Them Theory. I had no clue how controlling I was and how judgy I was. The Let Them Theory has made me a better person from the inside out.

I will continue using The Let Them Theory because it really works. It helped me stop controlling other people and it's a huge thing I'm going to carry forward.

The Let Them Theory is the best gift you can give this holiday season. It's meaningful, it's practical, it's hilarious, and it's lifechanging. The Let Them Theory, for everyone on your list. Available at letthem.com and wherever books are sold.

The Let Them Theory is the best gift you can give this holiday season. It's the gift you give to someone who's overwhelmed, to the people pleaser, to the friend who carries way too much, to the sibling who's exhausted from dealing with everyone else's emotions, to the coworker who needs a break. It's meaningful. It's practical. It's hilarious. It's lifechanging.

The Let Them Theory is the best gift you can give this holiday season. It's the gift you give to someone who's overwhelmed, to the people pleaser, to the friend who carries way too much, to the sibling who's exhausted from dealing with everyone else's emotions, to the coworker who needs a break. It's meaningful, it's practical, it's hilarious, and it's lifechanging.

The Let Them Theory, for everyone on your list. Available at LetThem.com and wherever books are sold.

And The Let Them Theory has been just the most shockingly powerful thing I've ever discovered and implemented into my life because it's changed me, I feel like, at a cellular and genetic level from the inside out.

I want to read to you from The Let Them Theory because there's a huge section in the book on using Let Them and Let Me as tools to manage stress, to catch yourself when you're stressed out.

And if you've ever heard me talk about The Let Them Theory, The Let Them Theory is how you learn the habit. Take nothing personally. Because when you say let them, you are forcing yourself to give people the dignity of their own emotions, their own thoughts, their own opinions.

Here's what The Let Them Theory taught me. It taught me the truth. People project their own stress, their overwhelm, their insecurities, their expectations. They try to control you and change you so that they can feel how they want to feel.

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One scam is that people buy a copy of The Let Them Theory that is counterfeit. It looks nothing like the cover. Or it's being sold on Etsy. Or even Shen, the fast fashion site. Or it's spiral bound. Or it's paperback. And there's not a paperback version available in the United States.

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And this is one of the key things that's unlocked with The Let Them Theory, which is you can let people do things, but you can't have your but at the same time. You can't have your and at the same time.

There were about 117 errors in The Let Them Theory book when it went to print and people have painstakingly found them and pointed them out and I am proud.

He was one of the 57 experts, by the way, that I interviewed and I feature his work in The Let Them Theory.

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I've written an entire international bestselling book about this. And it uses a field of research called neurobics, which is the fastest proven way to reprogram old thinking patterns.

This is something that I'm going to teach you called the high five habit.

I'm going to teach you how to use a simple hand gesture with a brand new thought to reprogram the way that you look at yourself, that you treat yourself and it's going to help you love yourself.

This is called the high five habit.

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I did a whole episode about this, but I'm going to explain it for those of you that are brand new. Here's how we're going to do this. Right after you brush your teeth. And we're going to do it after you brush your teeth because this habit should be paired with something that you already do and you don't even think about that's called habit stacking.

And it's going to help you encode this habit of simply high fiving yourself in the mirror. So when you're done flossing, brushing, rinsing, spitting, put the toothbrush down. Take a moment. Look the human being in the eyes. You know who I want you to see? I want you to see all your hopes and dreams in the hands of the person in that mirror.

You're going to start your day and your million dollar morning with a little huddle with yourself. You're going to set an intention with yourself as you stand there after brushing your teeth.

This is so grounded in research. You got to get your mind right. You're going to stand there and decide who am I going to be today? Is today a day about peace, about freedom? Is it a day about momentum, courage? How am I going to show up today for myself? Who am I going to be?

And then when you're ready, just like a winning team does, you are going to raise that hand and you're going to high five the future you in the mirror.

You are going to send yourself into the game of life knowing that no matter what happens today, you're a winner. You can do this. You are going to do your best. You're going to try. You're going to shake off the bullshit that comes your way and you're going to get out there and you're going to make it a great day.

The high five habit is the science-backed, fast-tracked, research-backed way to plow an entirely new neuropathway and relationship with yourself into your brain, body, mind, and spirit.

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I wrote about this extensively for my research and the high five habit book, we interviewed Dr. Judith Willis for that book and dug into her research.

If you've ever read my New York Times bestselling book, The High Five Habit, there is an entire chapter in that book about the fact that I was dreaming about launching a podcast.

I experienced this when I published my book, The High Five Habit.

That it was a stupid idea?

I believe it was that's the stupidest fucking thing I've ever heard. I'm not doing it.

I immediately thought it was the dumbest idea ever. Let's go to the mirror. Let's high five ourselves. And this is going to solve all problems.

I didn't feel like I deserve that high five.

I look at myself differently. And I know you do too.

I believe it was that's the stupidest fucking thing I've ever heard. I'm not doing it.

I immediately thought it was the dumbest idea ever. Let's go to the mirror. Let's high five ourselves. And this is going to solve all problems.

And when you come back to that moment, I'll tell you something, I look at myself differently. And I know you do too.

The physical act does the work for you. And it starts to plow new neural pathways, and it releases dopamine, all of which will help you do the other work that you need to do to walk down the road of forgiving yourself.

if you're at a place where you are beating the shit out of yourself, and you can't stand yourself for whatever reason, whatever you did, we've all done something.

That it was a stupid idea? I believe it was that's the stupidest fucking thing I've ever heard. I'm not doing it.

I immediately thought it was the dumbest idea ever. Let's go to the mirror. Let's high five ourselves. And this is going to solve all problems.

I think at the time, I related to the idea of a high five to myself as being encouragement, the idea that you would high five yourself to inspire forward action. And yet, I find that the power of that high five in the mirror is less your hand meeting the mirror, and more your eyes meeting your eyes.

I saw failure. I saw upset. I saw just not living up to the expectation that I think I had set for myself.

I didn't, I didn't feel like I deserve that high five. So I, I think that that was probably the the underlying reason why my reaction to the idea of doing it was this is stupid.

And I want to bring this up because I want to make a point about the pressure that we feel to conform.

So in this example of the woman from Ireland, she was writing about the fact that she wanted to get a divorce. That is her true authentic self.

I talk more about synchronicity, including a powerful story from my life and how to create more of them, in my New York Times bestselling book The High 5 Habit.

And I've been doing this for years. It is a daily habit. And I didn't realize until recently that looking for hearts is an example of training your brain for synchronicity.

And I've got a sheet that thousands of you have already downloaded. You're using it in order to become clear about what you want.

And this is really important. It's really important because based on the research, there was this massive study done in the UK, where they took a look at absolutely every single behavior or attitude change you could make or you could practice in terms of improving your life.

And they looked at everything they looked at changing your diet, practicing gratitude, having a meditation practice, exercising regularly, seeing your friends more, all the things that we know we should be doing, right?

But do you know that the single behavior change that has the biggest and most profound impact on your quality of your day to day life is simply being kinder to yourself?

Yeah, that's right. According to the research, being kinder to yourself, learning how to accept and love yourself, it is the biggest mover in terms of your happiness, meaning, confidence, all of it.

And so today's episode of the Mel Robbins podcast is a deeply personal, encouraging, optimistic, at times funny, because it's so relatable and sad conversation that could change your life.

And this is exactly what my last book, The High Five Habit was all about the science and the research and the habits of learning how to be kind to and cheer for and love yourself.

So the high five habit, super simple. Don't overthink this.

The action alone of high fiving yourself does all the work neurologically, physiologically, chemically and psychologically.

I keep thinking about this section in Atomic Habits where James clear talks about the importance of or the power of attaching identity to the kind of changes that you want to make.

my good friend James Clear, he's the author of the Seminal Atomic Habits.

And I'd like to start with a quote from James Clear because I think this quote really sums up what a morning routine is and then we're going to jump into kind of deeper reasons why they're so important. So James Clear wrote the book Atomic Habits he's like the go-to guy in terms of synthesizing habit research and making it understandable.

His name is James Clear. He wrote Atomic Habits. It's the book that synthesizes everybody's research on habits.

Atomic Habits is all about Dr. Wendy Wood.

We're familiar with The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg or Atomic Habits by James Clear, these are great books that I think have done a nice job popularizing this idea of a habit loop

more than any other book, this is the book that has fundamentally changed my approach to behavior change and habits. What book am I talking about? Well, I'm talking about none other than Atomic Habits.

And even if you've read Atomic Habits, you need to hear the conversation today.

I have bought Atomic Habits and pressed it into people's hands more times than I can count.

I'm going to read to you from Atomic Habits, page 27.

Atomic Habits has appeared on the New York Times bestseller list for a record-breaking 164 consecutive weeks.

my good friend James Clear, who is the New York Times bestselling author of the global blockbuster Atomic Habits, talks about this as one of the top experts in the world on habit formation and behavior change.

James Clear is one of the leading experts on habit formation. He wrote the number one New York Times bestselling smash hit, Atomic Habits.

James Clear told this story when he was on the Mel Robbins podcast, and we were talking all about the findings from Atomic Habits and some interesting research on changing your behavior.

He is also the author of the seminal book on habits, The Power of Habit. Now this book was published in 2012 and it has sold millions of copies and has been translated into 40 languages.

Well, you know your book, The Power of Habits, changed my life. It is the best and it is the seminal and it is the original, incredible book about habits.

His work and his research, including the global sensation, The Power of Habit. This is the seminal book on habits. It was released in 2012.

The Power of Habits, Charles Duhigg, Dr. Wendy Wood.

We're familiar with The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg or Atomic Habits by James Clear, these are great books that I think have done a nice job popularizing this idea of a habit loop

This book came out of my need to create space to have an impact in the global world. In terms of mental health, I wanted to write this book for 10 years.

And he's like, go do it. Make a Bold Move. You can't just talk about a Bold Move. You have to make a Bold Move.

And HarperCollins said it takes a year and a half to two years for a book to come out. And I said to them, what if I deliver in June? And they said nobody writes a book in four months. It's impossible. I said, try me. And so I did.

And that's why you need to read this book.

I wanted to write this book for 10 years.

And he's like, go do it. Make a Bold Move. You can't just talk about a Bold Move. You have to make a Bold Move.

My son, if you read this book, you see the stories of my son every morning he gets up, he runs downstairs, give me this big hug.

And those hugs created such connection for me and reminded me why I'm writing this book.

And then he would sit and he's like, I want to write too. Today I want to write about how I love my mom.

I hadn't thought about how much I avoid things in life. I mean, holy guacamole. I not only have a habit of avoiding things that feel hard. Avoidance is everywhere in my life.

I hadn't thought about how much I avoid things in life. I mean, holy guacamole.

I not only have a habit of avoiding things that feel hard. Avoidance is everywhere in my life.

In reading your new book, I was blown away by how prevalent avoidance is in everybody's life.

I think about oh okay, well I could just slump on the couch and watch something on TV. There's another screen. Yeah.

So in the research are there things that have come up that could offer just a spark of a suggestion for those of us that would really like to not have this be a habit and not be lulled every night into giving our evenings away to our phone?

I've been loving this fantasy audiobook Court of Thorn and Roses. I am living in a different land and it's on my phone.

And books like a court of thorn and roses like I am,

You could be listening to this juicy fantasy audio book that I'm currently addicted to, A Court of Thorn or Roses, but you're a lot smarter than me because you chose to listen to something that can help you create a better life instead of trying to escape yours by disappearing into a world of fairies.

Just imagine that there are two different worlds. And one world, you're living in right now. And the other world is the world that you have the ability to create. So this is just an exercise, right? I want you to find some clues, so that I can be a happier me here.

When you're reading a fantasy novel like Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings or Fourth Wing, isn't it interesting that the main character has this ability to pass between worlds?

If you look at Judith Sarman's work on her most recent book on trauma and healing, she really talks about how injustice is such an impediment to healing from trauma.

He says we're not teaching people how to get rid of their anxiety. I call it alarm. We're not teaching how to get rid of the alarm. What we're doing is we're teaching you how to acclimatize to it so that when you feel that discomfort, you don't compulsively and relentlessly go into your head for a solution that you'll never find there.

If you talk to people like Bessel van der Kolk, who wrote this great book called The Body Keeps the Score, I think what Bessel would suggest is that there's something else that's probably happened in your life.

He is the author of the mega bestseller, mustread book, Just Mercy.

He is also the author of a mega bestselling book that documents his life work, Just Mercy, which was named one of the most influential books of the decade by CNN.

In your book, you have this beautiful, beautiful thing that you write on page 309...

He wrote the number one New York Times mega bestselling book, Just Mercy, which became a major motion picture.

the author of the generation-defining New York Times bestselling book turned award-winning film, Just Mercy.

His mega-best-selling book, Just Mercy, was named one of the most influential books of the decade by CNN.

the book, Just Mercy, was turned into an award-winning feature film starring Michael B. Jordan and Jamie Foxx that went on to win four NAACP Image Awards.

Brian, you wrote about him in your book, and I want to read the poem that he wrote ... from your remarkable book, Just Mercy.

through the incredible book, Just Mercy, you talk about this landmark case where for years and years and years, you saw hope and possibility where no one else did.

He's the author of the amazing book and the International Best Seller, The Good Life.

He has a book out called The Good Life. And in his book, he says, quote, "Most busy people tend to think that in some unspecified future, like when I'm retired, we'll have a time surplus where we'll be able to connect with old friends. Here's the truth. The time surplus is not coming."

This is research from Dr. Robert Waldinger's book, The Good Life, Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study on Happiness. He actually writes about this idea of a social clock and how it screws us all up. It makes us unhappy. It makes us feel like we're falling behind or we're losing in life.

Dr. Waldinger takes Bernice Newgarten's research about this social clock even a step further because he says it's not just society and things like we got to retire at 65 that put pressure on us. There are also social clocks that you may feel based on your upbringing or influences like your friends or news or social media.

And we just had so much fun. I was so in it when we were cooking.

And it is called Beef with Lots and Lots and Lots of Onions.

And we just had so much fun. I was so in it when we were cooking.

And it is called Beef with Lots and Lots and Lots of Onions.

You take a hunk of beef, you brown it, you throw some garlic in, you throw some thyme in, you throw a little butter, little wine in, and lots and lots and lots and lots of onions.

And then you bake that sucker at 300 for like five hours and the whole thing melts into this soupy, messy, amazing goop where the onions disintegrate and it's like shredded beef and a French onion such and such.

his absolute favorite recipe, which is from the cookbook, Six Seasons that my mom bought me. And it is called beef with lots and lots and lots of onions. It is the easiest thing on the planet to make.

She's also the New York Times bestselling author of the book on attachment styles and how they impact your friendships. That book, it is called Platonic.

And it's not just your romantic relationships. You're about to learn that attachment style impacts every relationship, your friendships, your work colleagues, your family, yourself, because attachment style is all about you and how you show up in relationships. And that's why it impacts everything.

She's also the New York Times bestselling author of The Book on Attachment Styles and How They Impact Your Friendships. That book, it is called Plutonic.

I devoured this book and you are going to love it. It's the new megabestseller Super Agers, an evidencebased approach to longevity.

I just want to start by congratulating you on a fantastic bestselling book, Super Agers. I absolutely devoured this.

Super Agers, your bestselling book, which is an evidencebased approach to longevity and using the science of aging to your benefit so that you age well.

We have a new book, Super Agers, that's brimming with optimism because we're going to be able to prevent diseases.

Super Agers has all the information and the simple changes that you can be making in your life to add years to your life.

His latest New York Times bestseller is called Super Agers. That book and his research in the book, research he's about to share with you has been endorsed by five Nobel Prize winners.

He ... flew here ... to launch his new mega bestselling book, Super Agers, an evidencebased approach to longevity.

Well, one of the things that I loved about reading Super Agers is, first of all, not only do I feel smarter now, but I also could feel the passion and your optimism that there are simple things that absolutely anybody can do starting today that will not only make you healthier, but more importantly, based on the science of aging, it will actually extend your life.

When I was reading your bestselling book, Super Agers, is that literally a third of this book is dedicated to diseases.

On page 42 of your bestselling book Super Agers you write despite their popularity and heavy marketing there's little to no hard evidence for the benefit of taking any vitamins or supplements especially in those who are following a healthy diet.

On page 263 in your bestselling book Super Agers the findings are further strengthened by a metaanalysis of 41 randomised controlled trials of exercise for major depressive disorder that markedly reduce symptoms of depression.

She's also a professor at both University College London and MIT and the bestselling author of three books, including the new book, Look Again.

And so my parting words is experiment in living.

We end our, the book that I wrote together with my co-author Kat Sunstein, we end that with a chapter that's called Experiments in Living.

And she's also the bestselling author of three books, including the brand new book, Look Again.

I was super excited to have you come on because every single one of us has somebody in our lives that we love, but we would love to have them change.

So, I mean, you have to pick your battles, right?

And so what are we getting wrong based on the research about trying to change other people?

Does fear ever motivate somebody to change?

Sean Aker is a friend, he's a New York Times best-selling author of The Happiness Advantage and Big Potential.

And you're going to learn why that's actually a very big deal a little bit later in her conversation.

She's also a certified culinary medicine specialist from Tulane University, bestselling author and author of the incredible brand new book, "The New Menopause."

She's also the bestselling author of the brand new book, The New Menopause, which is packed with all these accessible insights into navigating this journey.

But those scenes where it's super dark and the light is somehow there and the rain is falling and I'm in heels and a dress because I've dressed up for Chris.

And if you think about Harry Potter or any fantasy novel, owls are messengers.

They go between the human world called the Muggles in Harry Potter and the wizard world.

Are you hearing this, Faxon? I feel like we need to put him on a microphone because he's starting to chuckle. And not just any books. You want to know what? Three hardcover books, Faxon packed in his luggage to NewZealand and Australia? Three Harry Potter hardcover books.

He also had two filmmaking books. Robert Rodriguez. He met Once Upon a Time in Hollywood.

She gave me the Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. Oh, yeah. Uh huh. I'm sure you've read Alchemist.

there's a sentence in the book that says whenever you want something, the whole universe conspires in having it.

She gave me the Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

There's a sentence in the book that says whenever you want something, the whole universe conspires in having it.

The first book I ever wrote, Scattered Minds, was on ADHD after I was diagnosed.

I know you wrote the original book on childhood development and ADHD, Scattered Minds 25 years ago. It is still on the bestseller list when it comes to ADHD topics.

Monroeville Alabama is the community where Harper Lee grew up and wrote the story To Kill a Mockingbird.

Monroeville, Alabama is the community where Harper Lee grew up and wrote the story To Kill a Mockingbird.

He is not only a former monk, he is the number one New York Times bestselling author of Think Like a Monk.

I have this sucker right here. I have dog-eared it. I have post-it noted this sucker.

Jay Shetty is also the number one New York Times bestselling author of two books, Think Like a Monk and Eight Rules of Love, which have been translated into over 47 languages.

And I went to launch a book and 14 out of 17 imprints told me, don't call it Think Like a Monk because no one wants to Think Like a Monk. Five years later, the book sold millions of copies.