The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

I wrote my book Becoming Bulletproof, and I think the essence of that was I'm trying to become more than.

The day you think you know everything is the day you become obsolete.

I highly recommend everybody goes and checks out this incredible book Becoming Bulletproof

your book bulletproof about the nature of the human condition and what we need to understand about the human condition to be more effective in our lives and our relationships and our work

Ladies and gentlemen you're about to meet the man whose book changed my entire life as it relates to money and finance

My brother who's an investment banker said Steve there's one book I need you to read about wealth, investing and money and finance and he passed me a book called 'The Psychology of Money'. That book changed my fortunes. It is the reason I've been a successful investor and it's the reason I've been able to hold on to my wealth and build it.

What I would consider to be the greatest book on money and finance ever written. I say that because I remember when I came into money when I was 25, 27, 28 years old and my brother turned to me and said there's one thing I ask of you. He said you have to read this book or 'The Psychology of Money'. It will stop you losing all of the money you've just earned from your career and it changed my life.

Let's start with The Psychology of Money. What is the benefit to my life if I understand the things that are written in The Psychology of Money?

I think the common denominator between all the three of books that you're holding is the idea that we talked about... The Psychology of Money sold almost 10million copies and had a profound impact.

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My book is How to Raise a Healthy Gamer.

Reading through your book, I think phone addiction, which you talk about in chapter seven, is maybe the thing that none of us see as an addiction, but we're probably addicted.

I've read in your book as well that those people are typically exposed to pornography at a younger age.

Chapter five, the first conversation. The hardest thing about talking to someone about an addiction they have is that the first conversation has to be open without it affecting their gaming addiction, in this case.

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I knew when I wrote the book that I had a formula that worked because I had spent 10 years in my practice using it with women.

And I don't know if every YouTube creator does this, but I would always ask questions and I would say to people, give me answers as to how this is working for you.

We looked at patterns and that's how the information in Fast Like a Girl was born is it was not just an idea.

But you never really know until you put a book like that out into the world how it's all going to unfold and how it's going to be received.

In a year and a half worldwide, 717,000 copies of that book of on all styles with that's audio, audible and e-book and hardcover.

An Immigrant's Love Letter to the West is the title of your book. I love this title for a variety of reasons. The word love is really intentional.

Because it's how I feel. You know, when you've come to a place from outside, it's easier to see what makes it special.

I've seen that the world is not like this everywhere. I've seen also that societies don't necessarily last forever. Cultures don't necessarily last forever. Civilizations don't necessarily last forever.

I have no interest whatsoever in the false dichotomy of right versus left. If there is one thing my Soviet childhood taught me, it's that subscribing to someone else's ideology will always inevitably mean having to suspend your own judgment about right and wrong to appease your tribe

And so the moment you buy into a pre-packaged set of ideas about what you're supposed to believe, you very quickly find yourself having to believe things that you don't actually agree with, so that you get to stay in the tribe. I don't care about the tribe. I care about the truth.

Immigrant's Love Letter to the West ... the book that you wrote it was a smash hit and a Times bestseller, and it gets more accurate every day.

And I think that that is part of my message to everybody, that the human brain, that is the one in your head right now, is the most complex structure known to humankind. Not Einstein's brain, not Marie Curie's brain, but the one in your head.

And I so needed it at that moment.

It matters because a big, fat, fluffy brain is a healthy brain.

And my whole first book, Healthy Brain, Happy Life, was about how I learned to use all the tools and tricks and magic of neuroscience and psychology to make my brain work better.

This is where I turn to a main theme in my book Healthy Brain, Happy Life, which is self-experimentation.

I turn to a main theme in my book, Healthy Brain, Happy Life, which is selfexperimentation.

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So How to Stay in Love has been out longer. So it's done quite well over the period of time. It's in its fourth printing right now.

when I wrote Scary Smart. And, you know, Scary Smart was entirely about technology and where technology is going.

In your book, That Little Voice In Your Head, you describe how ... the little voice in your head, you describe how we can retrain our brain for maximum happiness.

It says on the back of the book, it says, retrain your brain for maximum happiness.

This is something from my book that I liked it, but it's really blown up.

Because I feel like people really use it.

They take a picture of it on their phone.

They take a screenshot from my Instagram and they ask themselves after the date.

And it really changes the way they show up on the date.

And I wrote this book, How to Not Die Alone.

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this is something from my book that I liked it but it's really blown up because I feel like people really use it

because a lot of these books in this category that talk about relationships and love and dating they are built on vibes it's like gossip, vibes and like you know kind of like I don't know how to explain it there's just no sort of basis underneath the advice that they give

your book is based on science and it even says that on the front the surprising science that will help you find love and the lens of science and that is why this book is so important

The book we wrote Eight Dates which gives you conversations to have that are really really important as you are establishing a long-term relationship or if you're already in one but you haven't had conversations like these in a while.

And even when I wrote, Should I Stay or Should I Go, that was 2015, common one.

Even when I wrote Should I Stay or Should I Go, that was 2015, I think it was. We're still in the beginning phases. There were just maybe about a dozen books out there taking this on.

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The central message was that you had to remember what life was like at the time. It was that women had to have a career. That was the movement. It was a reaction to women not having careers and being stuck at home.

The central message was that you had to remember what life was like at the time. It was that women had to have a career. That was the movement.

So then what you do is you put your values in terms of these three life domains. I look at them as concentric circles. At the center of these three life domains is you.

I'm a big fan of Nir Eyal's book. Indistractable.

So now here comes Robin Baker, actually a British scientist, who wrote a book called Sperm Wars, where he argued in his book, some have said it's contentious, others said that it's tight, that the morphology of human sperm-

One is when you overcome that fear of rejection, that fear of failure, we are much more likely to take bold moves.

I had bought into this delusion that in order to be super founder and super mom, I didn't have the luxury to take care of myself.

It was unnecessary suffering.

But as I talked to a lot of scientists, it became very clear that there are five daily behaviors that makes everything you're doing even more successful.

taking care of yourself it doesn't mean you don't work with intensity in fact when we launch Thrive and we're interviewing people to hire we realized early on that there are people who thought oh they could go work for Thrive and it would be like chilling under the mango tree so we had to explain to them no no we're a very ambitious high charging company and if you want to chill under the mango tree that's not a good place to be and we tell everybody there will be times when you have to deliver a product or meet a deadline and you may have to work late or work and we can but what we do then we give people Thrive time immediately after like if you've worked extra hard to meet a deadline then take Thrive time to recharge and you know Stephen that's actually good for the business because very often people get sick or make their biggest mistakes when they are completely depleted so it's not about lack of intensity it's about taking time to refuel recharge and be at your best

I mean, that's the story of your life. You got into Cambridge when only three colleges accepted women. You become the president of Cambridge Union and the third woman ever to lead the debating society.

It's like you may want to focus on your career and then have children later or you may want to have your children and then focus on your career. That's really what's changing that there isn't one way to find fulfillment and contribute.

I believe you can have it all but maybe not at the same time and I believe that there isn't one right way to do it.

So my message was really what's pretty much accepted now but was pretty radical at the time which is yes if you want to have a career fantastic everything should be open to you equal opportunities equal pay everything but if you want to bring up your children and you can afford to do it on one salary that should also be given equal respect.

in your book you write about these four pillars and you start with the self right and you quote Leonardo da Vinci and so many of the wise men and women we admire talk about that you know know thyself the unexamined life is not worth living.

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that book is only what you need to know. I made it on purpose, not really long, not overly intense. It is exactly what you need to know.

I've pre-ordered I think 10 or 20 copies of it, maybe a couple more.

but that's like 30 bucks and you learn almost everything you need to know about doing deals to start.

I've been lucky enough to take a look at the initial copy of your book, the sort of first draft of it and it was exactly what I think 99% of people that are listening to this right now need to...it's the gap that they have in their thinking.

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that book is only what you need to know

It is exactly what you need to know.

I'd highly recommend everyone go and pre-order it.

I spent three years writing it.

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You ever read the gift of fear? Gavin De Becker book really great book it was published like 30 years ago or something I think Oprah made it quite a big deal and uh it's about it's by a um I think he used to be a body guard he's like a personal security expert and he tells all these stories it's mostly about women and maybe this applies to men too um where women basically ended up getting um attacked by men who they did actually have bad vibes about in some way but they ignored those and it cost them right and his argument is that um fear is a gift and that you should listen to your instincts because often again highly you know very uh evolved to be very very attuned these instincts right there's a reason why we are descended from people who listen to their instincts in this regard um and often your unconscious will spot things that your conscious brain hasn't spotted and maybe you'll be worried about being impolite or being weird or whatever you know so I can't remember all of the stories but I remember there's one of a woman who a man offered to help her carry her shopping up to her flat and he was really insistent about it and she was like okay so she let him and then as soon as he was in the flat he shut the door and attacked her and she was lucky to survive she she said later that it was weird he like he didn't feel like he was just being nice she got she got bad vibes from him she got the ick whatever there was something like going on but her conscious brain said he's just being nice and so she ignored her instincts and she let him into her flat and that's the sort of example where actually I think that our unconscious brains know are actually very wise about a lot of these things