The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

remember, tolerant with others, strict with yourself.

the impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.

Mark Surrealist talks about the common good, maybe 40, 50 times in Meditations. Um, you know, he says like, we're, we're put here for other people.

We know Marcus Aurelius' sort of last words, his last words in Meditations are about sort of, hey man, this is the play. It only got three acts. The curtain's coming down. Did you do a good job?

He has shown millions of readers how humans have evolved to where we are now, but what does the future hold for us as a species?

He is best known for his bestselling books, 'Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind', 'Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow' and '21 Lessons for the 21st Century'.

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I was thinking about sapiens and the role that stories play in engaging our brains.

And in America, obviously the same narrative of the wall and the southern border, they're crossing our border in the millions. It's their rapists. They're not sending their good people. They're coming from mental institutions has galvanized people together.

So my colleague at Stanford, Dr. Anna Lemke, who runs our dual diagnosis addiction clinic and wrote the wonderful book Dopamine Nation, described this best.

That trough is a state that can last a long time. And it's how long it's proportional to how high that peak in dopamine was. Not how long, but how high that peak in dopamine was. And when you're in that trough, that dopamine depleted state, typically what people do is they try and go out. Or access things that are going to reactivate the dopamine circuitry. And all it does is drive them further and further and longer and longer into that trough.

You wrote this iconic book about this word dopamine. Why does it matter so much?

Your book is the book to read, and your workbook as well is critical to read alongside it.

These books provide a really, I'd say, nuanced, empathetic, and shameavoiding set of ideas and solutions to some of the things that hold us hostage in our lives.

we are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience

it's just static. It's all just static. You've got to get the static out of your life

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

It's all just static. You've got to get the static out of your life.

Scott Galloway is a Professor of Marketing at the New York Stern School of Business and host of the 'Pivot' podcast about technology and business. He is also the best-selling author of books such as, 'The Algebra of Happiness', 'The Four', and 'The Algebra of Wealth'.

This idea in chapter four of your book of focusing less on yourself leads to happiness. How can you prove that's the case?

So there's a lot of experimental tests that actually show this using human subjects.

If you give money away, statistically, you're more likely to make more money next year.

The reason is because you see yourself as an agent of positive change.

You're empowered when you're helping other people.

My first book, The Happiness Hypothesis, addresses that question very directly. It says happiness comes from within, using ancient ideas from Buddhism and Stoicism and modern positive psychology.

There are changes we can all make in our lives. Obviously, I talk about this a lot in the book, Stolen Focus, about this.

Stolen Focus is an amazing somewhat linked sequel in many respects and on many topics to that book.

Anyone who wants to know where to get the audio book, the ebook or the physical book can go to stolenfocusbook.com and on the website you can listen for free to loads of the experts.

It's out right now, it's available in all good bookshops, you can even get it in...

So this book, The Myth of Normal Best seller internationally Published in 35 languages I should be happy No, the more I get involved with it The more I toured with it The more engaged with the outside The more miserable I became inside So the great success of the book It swept me away And I lost myself

And I talk about this in the myth or normal And really my wife came on stage at the troxium On the night and talked about this I asked her to

And then again in the myth or normal People tended to be Compulsively concerned with the emotional needs Of others rather than their own

So much so that in this book, The Myth of Normal, I actually talk about an experience with the psychedelic mushrooms with a therapist.

I think my understanding of trauma has forever been redefined by both this conversation today, but also by your book.

Thank you so much for giving me the platform to talk about my work and just the opportunity to meet you. It's written in such an accessible way, which is so important because that means it can reach even more people.

We can hope and pray for a ripple effect to move out into society and create more love out in the world too where we need it so much.

Making peace one family at a time.

I would tell my father would you please stay home at least one day a week instead of abandoning my mother every single day seven days a week.

I would tell my mother stop being critical stop being contentious try to look for what all of us are doing right and say that rather than only pointing out what we're doing wrong.

Conflict resolution knowing how to take on conflict knowing how to address it knowing how to be about a sparring partner in relationships so that it can be you and your partner versus the problem versus instead of you versus your partner.

That's why we wrote Fight Right,

It's really so important to not do that you, you, you, you. Blaming. That blaming.

Excuses will destroy you and take everything that you ever wanted from you if you let them.

Extreme ownership is this went wrong this failed didn't accomplish this and it's not the fault of my boss it's not the fault of my girlfriend it's not the fault of my parents it's not the fault of the weather it's my fault and i'm gonna take ownership of it and i'm gonna fix it that's what extreme ownership is and this is a very difficult thing to do because it hurts.

It's a pretty amazing thing it's a pretty amazing thing it's a pretty profound thing to look at from the outside and and and see it because when I was going through it it was just sort of I was young I didn't care I was gonna do it there was nothing that they were going to tell me that was going to make me quit I never thought about quitting if they told me to get back in the water again let's go they told me to put that log on on my shoulder let's go put the boat on my head let's go I I didn't care.

the reason i have all those problems is because of me that can hurt that can sting and a lot of times our ego rejects that and makes excuses and lies and then we don't have to change anything and then nothing changes

Extreme ownership hurts and is painful it's also liberating because now you have control over your fate and over your destiny and that is a glorious thing

I don't hire people so I can tell them what to do. I hire good people so they can tell me what to do.

He is best known for his bestselling books, 'Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind', 'Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow' and '21 Lessons for the 21st Century'.

it's a book I've read over and over and over. It's, it's, I don't want to say it's dated, but it's of a different era. The skills that allowed me to reach near the top of my profession aren't the tricks.

I was about 11 or 12 when I first picked up How to Win Friends and Influence People off my dad's bookshelf.

Think about all the books that women read, confidence code, I gotta learn how to do a power pose.

I gotta lean in.

All of it is about women thinking that you're wrong.

Think about all the books that women read, Confidence Code, I gotta learn how to do a power pose, I gotta, I gotta lean in.

Dr. Aditi Noraka is a Harvard physician, nationally recognized stress expert who is understanding and combating modern day burnout.

these are the five resets that are going to help you survive and thrive.

The Five Resets: Rewire Your Brain and Body for Less Stress and More Resilience',

In the five resets, I offer five mindset shifts, 15 science-backed strategies, and every step of the way, it's about two small changes at a time.

The book is filled with patient stories, real life people who've had lots of different experiences.

The Five Resets, which is a book we talked about before on the show, Rewire Your Brain and Body for Less Stress and More Resilience. It is for anyone who is struggling with stress, overwhelm, and burnout.

I love this for my favorite my absolute favorite phrase in Range was is a paraphrase from this woman.

Named her many a barra who's a professor at the London Business School and she studies how people make work transitions so her phrase was.

We learn who we are in practice not in theory, so the thesis of her work is that there's this idea that you can just introspect.

And go forth and know what you should be doing you know like like Clark Kent running into a phone booth ripping off isn't becoming comes out as Superman.

David Epstein, who's the author of a Range and sports genius, friend of mine.

The widespread emotional reaction I was observing is something I've come to call 'the pessimism aversion trap'

Containment is not possible

The Coming Wave represents the greatest economic prize in history

AI is more autonomous than any other technology in history

Containment must be possible

Simon Sinek is a renowned leadership expert and the founder of 'The Optimism Company', which provides programmes for leadership development. He is also the best-selling author of the books, 'Start With Why', 'Leaders Eat Last', 'The Infinite Game', and 'Find Your Why'.

And then it occurred to me, like, I remember my own work in Leaders Eat Last. I talk about Alcoholics Anonymous, where they have 12 steps to help an alcoholic beat this disease.

the more discipline you have in your life the more freedom you will end up with

if you lack the discipline to exercise and eat healthy you will end up being being a slave to disease if you lack the discipline to work hard save your money you will end up a slave to finances if you lack the discipline to manage your time correctly you will end up with no free time if you have self-discipline if you have the discipline to save your money and work hard and invest your money properly if you have the discipline to manage your time correctly and not waste a bunch of time if you have the discipline to exercise and eat healthy you will end up with freedom

if you want freedom in your life you have to have discipline

Discipline is freedom the title of your um your book here Discipline Equals Freedom now that seems like it's untrue because when people think of discipline they think of rigidity and taking away their freedom having to be disciplined why is why does discipline equal freedom

if you have that kind of discipline right now you're gonna end up with freedom and if you don't have that kind of discipline and you keep eating those Doritos and you don't work hard and you don't exercise and you don't apply yourself you're gonna end up you're gonna end up shackled you're gonna be shackled by a boss that you don't like doing a job that you don't like to do with sicknesses and diseases that you don't want relying on people that you can't even count on alone and you don't have to but if you have discipline if you have discipline you will attain freedom