The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Well, there's a couple of good books that I would recommend, Come As You Are.

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Her bestselling book, The Art of Gathering, is considered the most cited and renowned book on how to better come together with people around you.

And I want to read to you from your bestselling book, The Art of Gathering, How We Meet and Why It Matters. This is from the introduction.

Welcome back. It's your friend Mel Robbins. Today, you and I are here with the bestselling author of The Art of Gathering, Priya Parker.

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For more resources, including links to Jamie's new book Worthy, her website, and her social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page.

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And you mention your own struggles in your book, Hungry Ghosts, you mention your own struggles.

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When you're reading a fantasy novel like Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings or Fourth Wing, isn't it interesting that the main character has this ability to pass between worlds?

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I started reading books about people, memoirs, autobiographies, about people who had done extraordinary things... It was everything from Shoe Dog by Phil Knight to Bird by Bird by Anne Lamont to Becoming by Michelle Obama to Open by Andre Agassi.

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The Firm was the first pageturning thriller novel I ever read; I stayed up all night reading it during my first year of law school, and it showed me that a lawyer could write fiction and change my life.

John Grisham's backstory is unbelievable - he sold 300million books, failed at baseball, struggled in school, and after being rejected by 28 publishers he finally published A Time to Kill and then The Firm.

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She's the author of two groundbreaking books, Roar and The Next Level.

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the DSM, which is the Diagnostic Statistical Manual, which is, we joke, it's our Bible in psychology.

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I started reading books about people, memoirs, autobiographies, about people who had done extraordinary things... It was everything from Shoe Dog by Phil Knight to Bird by Bird by Anne Lamont to Becoming by Michelle Obama to Open by Andre Agassi.

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That book is called The Defining Decade, Why Your 20s Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now.

I want to read to you from your bestselling book, Defining Decade. The world of work has officially been disrupted, which means there are more choices but more confusion too.

I want to read from page 207 in your bestselling book, The Defining Decade. Being single while you're young may be glorified in the press, but staying single across the 20s does not typically feel good.

I read your book for my kids and realized it was exactly the book that I needed as a 40something.

Your bestselling book, The Defining Decade, includes a chapter called 29 conversations that helps people clarify what they want before dating.

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I talk about this in the book with one of my patients, a slice of chocolate cake every single night at 11 o'clock.

And then it starts affecting your, you know, your cholesterol and all of these other things.

And then you're saying, okay, wait a second, I got to get a handle on this.

So really trying to focus, be practical in what you eat.

writing the five resets and sharing my personal story, I have to tell you, Mel, I might start crying, but you were an inspiration for sharing that story because you share so much of your own personal stuff to help people.

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She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, a book that has sold over 3 million copies and been translated into more than 30 languages.

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She is also the New York Times bestselling author of multiple books, including The Awakened Brain, The New Science of Spirituality, and Our Quest for an Inspired Life.

you write about this in your bestselling book, The Awakened Brain.

you write in The Awakened Brain, this is on page four, we live in an age of unprecedented mental anguish.

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You have to listen to his audiobook.

If you don't know his story, it's freaking incredible.

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Your book is entitled Finding Meaning.

I want to read to you from your best-selling book, Finding Meaning, about this topic.

In chapter 12, page 191, you have this beautiful section.

In Finding Meaning, you write about how anger is pain's bodyguard.

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She says no matter what's going on in your life, there is Good Inside of you.

Dr. Becky is the brand new number one New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside.

I became fascinated by an undeniable connection...With the adults it was so clear where in childhood things went awry where a child's needs weren't met or behaviors were a cry for help that was never answered.

Our triggers are stories from our past.

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He's written a number of bestselling books, including his most recent, Collective Illusions, which reveals the biggest lies that you and I have been told about ourselves and what other people believe.

You feel like there's this big cost if you just don't go with the flow ... And you write a lot in your bestselling book, Collective Illusions, about the fact that we are fundamentally wired to conform.

One of the terms I'd love to have you talk a little bit about is this term Collective Illusions. It's the title of your bestselling book.

Well, you know, Todd, you wrote the book on this.