The Mel Robbins Podcast

She's also a bestselling author of the book The Source and the host of the podcast Reinvent Yourself with Dr. Tara.

And it wasn't really until I started doing my research to write The Source that I realized how together these things could be.

But now that you've explained science, I'm actually doing the steps that I've heard of before, actually, but that you've repeated in your book.

And I specifically said in a windproof childproof that proof place um and then come back the next day after having slept on it and if you're sure that it's correct then glue it into place and then I start speaking to people who say to me yeah I've done all that but I just haven't glued it yet and and so I said oh you know did you do it yesterday no months ago and I just can't bring myself to glue it down I don't understand why and I had you know having been an experienced coach now for 15 years I just had and the answer to that just came into my mind through my gut and it was you don't want to glue it down because you don't really believe that you deserve it and the tears just came you know and it was it was the truth so it was these are the things that I want but if I glued them down I'm saying that I actually think I should get them and deep down I don't believe that and that's why I haven't glued them down so you might be listening now and think oh yeah I've done that too but I didn't really know why so hopefully it will help

There are first of all books you can read about getting through social anxiety,

You are the kind of person that just screams, I don't care what you think. I'm doing what I want to do. You are so confident and just yourself that you're probably intimidating to a lot of people.

She is the co founder of Quest Nutrition which sold for over a billion dollars she is also the co founder and the president of impact theory studios and she's here today talking about how you can become unapologetically you.

Her book is Radical Confidence and she is teaching us about this relationship tool I freaking love this thing it's called frame of reference.

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So you can find a link to her incredible episodes, 11 Crazy Facts About Laundry, showering, getting the little stuff done because it turns out, and this is what we learned from Casey Davis, the little stuff ain't so little.

And his New York Times bestselling book, which is the handbook on how to create limitless capacity in your brain, now has a new expanded edition and is here to teach you absolutely all the tricks and tools that you need to know.

So Jim, what are they?

And in Jim's book Limitless, he gives a ton of tips on reading faster, many of which I'd never heard before.

You start with the book, Still Procrastinating. Awesome.

He's the author of the best selling book Trauma, the invisible epidemic, how Trauma works and how we can heal from it.

You want to know who wrote the forward of that book? Lady Gaga.

Because she's worked with them. And she credits Dr. Conti with quote, single handedly changing her life.

And today, there is no doubt in my mind that what he is going to share with you and me, it's going to change your life too.

She is here to make the case that you CAN stay in power no matter how toxic the people are around you. And by following her 4-part plan, you can even win when dealing with narcissism.

And Rebecca literally wrote the book on this topic. The book is called SLAY the Bully, How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win.

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I became an engineer and a doctor, and I blamed my parents like, oh, my parents made me do this until a very smart coach once said to me, really Neha? Who applied to engineering school? Who did all the problem sets? Who took the exams? Who did the 36-hour shifts in residency? I'm pretty sure it was you. So you want to tell me what you wanted more than they wanted? Like, you're the one who did it.

I speak about it actually in, in talk or acts, how I use this and help them get to the root of what was going on.

She has written a brand new book, The Messy Truth, How I Sold My Business for Millions but Almost Lost Myself, where she tells you the whole story of growing this $100 million business from scratch, the cost of it, the messy things behind and most importantly, the very simple actionable takeaways that are gonna inspire you and get you started on whatever itch it is you need to scratch, whatever idea it is that you've been putting off.

You can get Alli's book 'The Messy Truth: How I Sold My Business for Millions but Almost Lost Myself' here:

The title of the book is The Messy Truth, though. So let's talk about the messy part. Because all this came at a very big cost.

And we're going to get into those messy details when we return. So stay with us.

And she's released a book and the title is The Messy Truth. And we're going to get into the messy part because what's interesting about Allie's story is that she really trusted her gut when it came to business and she was super decisive and she knew what she wanted.

His book, Addicted to Drama, is filled with science and psychology and tools and strategies that will help you identify where there is unnecessary drama in your life. He's going to explain why we create drama and why we keep ourselves on edge and why we find ourselves picking fights, gossiping, and staying in these relationships where drama is present.

Her new book is Smart Sex, How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure.

And I've got a lot of tips in my book Smart Sex and in my podcast.

And I was saying the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings. We all say that 8,000 got 8,000 nerve endings. The circumcised penis has 4,000.

When I was in the middle of writing my book, Smart Sex just last year, for years, I've been doing this for 20 years.

I have a desire inventory in my book Smart Sex that can help people understand this and hack this because most of us have zero clue Mel what what we like what we don't like because we've never talked about it or thought about it.

And she said the entire book is about something called grind culture and the way that we are prioritizing what this author calls toxic achievement, how parents have gotten super sucked into it, how we've gotten super sucked into it.

And I got a copy of this book, Never Enough. I dug into it, and I just want you to get ready because we're not only going to talk about how you break free from the grind culture and how you can get your life and your peace of mind and your control back.

Grind culture to me is a set of messages that tell us we are only as good as our productivity, our performance, what we make, the grades we get, the college we get into. So it is your worth is contingent upon your performance.

Toxic achievement is running for the next goal because you feel like you are not worthy until you hit that next goal.

So I talk about this in the book that when my oldest was born almost 18 years ago, I thought about going back to graduate school to get a PhD in psychology so that I could be the perfect parent with the latest research.

I picked up a book in the library when I couldn't control the voices and the information that was coming at me. I needed to find some information on this and there wasn't much, but there was a book called The Link, L-I-N-K. I bought this book on Amazon. I have it. I opened to a random page, nothing is a coincidence.

And the page said that most mediums have found that prior to the age of 10, they were hit with high doses of electricity, such as being struck by lightning, electrocution.

I learned so much from Dr. Mindy, and as with all episodes, this is a free resource where you get to learn straight from somebody who has literally written the book on this topic.

I would definitely send this to absolutely anyone that needs to hear it.

And I'm assuming that's not breaking the fasting protocol.

I leave the science there so they can understand it so that they can be in collaboration with their patients.

In my book, in Fast Like a Girl, I have a 30 day fasting reset.

And it's a metaphor that I used in a project that we did with Audible called Reinvent Your Life. I like to think about life as one long road trip.