Good Inside A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be

She says no matter what's going on in your life, there is good inside of you.

Dr. Becky is the brand new number one New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside.

I became fascinated by an undeniable connection...With the adults it was so clear where in childhood things went awry where a child's needs weren't met or behaviors were a cry for help that was never answered.

Our triggers are stories from our past.

And then your book has been amazing. And I think, you know, like, where I really wanted to get into this conversation from was, behind the book, behind the titles, behind the social media, is your purpose.

Like when I was reading through your book, I was thinking, man, many of the labels I even hold of myself were donated to me.

And you have this anecdote that you share in the book about being in Target, seeing this kid melt down. Like just a kid throwing a mega tantrum. We've all seen it.

The book that she is here to discuss is Good Inside, A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be.

But I loved this one.

And the audio version of Good Inside is available on Spotify audiobooks.

I loved your book. I hope everyone reads Good Inside. It's already known that you brought it up and she posted.

Good Inside has actually helped me tap into my own internal strength and intuition and selftrust.

The book that she is here to discuss is Good Inside, a guide to becoming the parent you want to be.

I loved this. Me too.

And the audio version of Good Inside is available on Spotify audiobooks.

Well, Dr. Becky, everyone should read Good Inside. It's just beautiful messaging and I think it could be seen as a very, very fun exploration between you and your kids and everyone in your house that you love really could benefit from this.

Babe, tell Dr. Becky what happened this morning at your big loud sweaty gym.

Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and mom of three - who's rethinking the way we raise our children - and named "The Millennial Parenting Whisperer" by TIME Magazine. Dr. Becky is the author of the #1New York TimesbestsellerGood Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Beand founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky's complete parenting content collection all in one place.

She's a Pod con. Helped me repair it myself. Yes. Um, she is the founder of the Good Inside membership platform and host of the chart topping podcast, Good Inside with Dr. Becky.

She is the author of the number one New York Times bestseller, Good Inside, a guide to becoming the parent you want to be.

She is the author of the number one New York Times bestseller, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be.

Dr. Becky is the author of the number one New York times bestseller good inside guide to becoming the parent you want to be

Dr. Becky Kennedy. You know how much we love Dr. Becky. She's the good inside person.

So I'm actually going to run this by Dr. Becky before, before I release it so that she can fix it if it needs to be.

So Dr. Becky said that guilt is what happens inside of us when we do something outside of our values.

Okay. Dr. Becky called it guilt and not guilt. Guilt is what I feel when I have acted outside of my values.

And now I have another thing that Dr. Becky said that is going to help this.

Dr. Becky is the author of the number one New York Times bestseller, Good Inside, a guide to becoming the parent you want to be

Dr. Becky is the author of the number one New York Times bestseller, Good Inside, a guide to becoming the parent you want to be

I started reading Dr. Becky's new book and I think that Dr. Becky is a Trojan horse.

I've been reading nonstop for the last week. You know this. I took her book on vacation and I didn't stop underlining of this highlighting the underlining, the sitting, the people down, the making them listen to all the things.

Dr. Becky is founder of the Good Inside membership platform, author of Good Inside, a guide to becoming the parent you want to be, which is out this month and the one I just read on vacation. So freaking good.

I felt that reading your book, like, oh, I'm figuring out why I am this way. Because hunger was a threat to my connection.

Example, a line in the book that was whenever you're triggered by somebody, don't try to shrink the thing in the other person. Try to grow the thing in yourself.

She wrote the number one New York Times best-selling book also called Good Inside and she hosts a podcast by the same name.

yes I do believe people are good inside that they have inherent good identity and to me what's really exciting about that besides the fact that I believe it is it creates this gap

I also bought her new book. I think it's called Good Inside.

We've been doing our best to follow her strategies and we've been noticing a huge difference with our kids.

In her wonderful book, Good Inside, yes, we love it. I know I've been raving about it, but if you haven't bought it yet, you should.

Dr. Becky Kennedy writes that on the surface, we see a behavior, but underneath we see a person.

Talking about children, but also unfortunately adults sometimes, Dr. Becky explains that the tantrum or the throne punch or the big mistake is not the main event.

It is a window into the main event, she writes. Behavior in all its forms is a window into the feelings, the thoughts, urges, sensations, perceptions, and unmet needs of a person.

Behavior is never the story, but rather it is a clue to the bigger story begging to be addressed.

Dr. Becky Kennedy, whose book Good Inside We've Been Raving About calls this emotional vaccination.

In our wonderful book Good Inside Dr. Becky talks about teaching this to children.

Children's often have the goal of getting rid of the urge she writes. What's wrong with you? Why would you want to hurt someone? But its better if we can try humanizing the urge and then shifting where we allow a child to discharge it.

Dr. Becky Kennedy, whose book Good Inside We've Been Raving About calls this emotional vaccination.

My child is just doing their job of expressing feelings. We're both doing what we need to do. I can handle this.

If you want to raise happy kids, you don't try to make them happy. You try to make them resilient and self-aware.

The wider the range of feelings we can regulate--if we can manage the frustration, disappointment, envy and sadness--the more space we have to cultivate happiness. Regulating our emotions essentially develops a cushion around those feelings, softening them and preventing them from consuming the entire jar. Regulation first, happiness second.

In a wonderful book about parenting, good inside which I've raved about a lot I know but it's that good and she has a great episode on the podcast.

Dr. Becky Kennedy reminds parents that it's impossible to simply remove your children's uncomfortable feelings.

You can't just as your parents couldn't tell them to stuff it down.

You can't gaslight them into thinking that the emotions aren't there.

You can't make life so wonderful and fun that they're never sad or angry or jealous or frustrated.

Regulation first, happiness second.

Sometimes you read a book and it's just exactly what you need at the moment that you need it.

when I read Dr. Becky's book Good Inside, a guide to becoming the parent you want it was one of those books just filled in those and the best kind of books where it's about one topic but it's actually about a bunch of other topics

the real theme of the book is emotional regulation dealing with frustration dealing with adversity it's just awesome I've loved the book I've been raving about it talking about it a lot

well I'm very excited to do this because I absolutely loved your book

people want their kids to be happy I would say most of us want to be happy that's what we sort of think we're aiming at but then you sort of say well actually maybe resiliency or dealing with frustration or having flexibility having a sort of self-aware that there are these other skills that actually allow happiness to happen and in fact if you are aiming at happiness you're probably not going to get it

And my wife told me to read this book. And I'm very much in her debt. Because it made me a better parent and a better human being.

But what Dr. Becky talks about here the most. Or what I took most from this book. Is that what we need to do is get better at repair. How do you own your mistakes? How do you apologize? How do you fix them? How do you come back after a disconnection? And find connection.