The Jordan Harbinger Show

I'm getting a real Dostoyevsky vibe from this letter, Gabe, but it's like Daniel Steele wrote Crime and Punishment, but it's set inside the NSA or the CIA or something.

I'm getting a real Dostoyevsky vibe from this letter, Gabe, but it's like Daniel Steele wrote Crime and Punishment, but it's set inside the NSA or the CIA or something.

I'm getting a real Dostoevsky vibe from this letter, Gabe. But it's like Daniel Steele wrote Crime and Punishment, but it's set inside the NSA or the CIA or something.

I read Sydney Limets books and I read David Mammots books and I read William Goldman's book and Spike Lee's books like books by people who made work that I love and I was not at all interested in the work by people who just talked about it from a purge that they said that they'd earned but when I would look and see well what work have they produced there was no work produced

I read Sydney Limets books and I read David Mammots books and I read William Goldman's book and Spike Lee's books like books by people who made work that I love and I was not at all interested in the work by people who just talked about it from a purge that they said that they'd earned but when I would look and see well what work have they produced there was no work produced

my book is all about going to therapy and then that turned into a podcast because people were so curious about it

until my psychiatrist who I talk about in my book like will be the death of me the dog until he painted the picture and said the reason why you end relationships like that is because that's how you think they end

I read from the book and then I'm gonna do like an hour of stand-up

the book title is Life Will Be the Death of Me and you too

we're gonna sell the book uh option make the book into a TV show and I think I'm gonna be in it

my book is all about going to therapy and then that turned into a podcast because people were so curious about it

I just turned to my book and do a stand-up tour

I didn't want to do stand-up or write a book until I did have something to say and I do have something to say now

I read from the book and then I'm gonna do like an hour of stand-up

we're gonna sell the book uh option make the book into a TV show and I think I'm gonna be in it

my book is all about going to therapy and then that turned into a podcast because people were so curious about it

until my psychiatrist who I talk about in my book like will be the death of me the dog until he painted the picture and said the reason why you end relationships like that is because that's how you think they end

I just turned to my book and do a stand-up tour

this book is so much stronger in terms of my writing than it was then my last books

the book title is Life Will Be the Death of Me and you too

So ultimately this is a book that argues against nihilism.

So it's a fun read. By it today. Available it's a best seller on Amazon.

And I think we found a happy medium. You know, I'm super happy with the book. I feel like it's an extension and a maturation of what subtle art was.

I think it's deeper. It's it's more thoughtful. I think it's a better book.

Whenever you know how to notice when people go, oh, what's the title? I say, oh, it's called everything is fucked and they go, oh, okay. And I said, it's a book about hope. They universally they start laughing.

I feel like it's an extension and a maturation of what subtle art was.

Yeah. I think it's deeper.

It's it's more thoughtful.

I think it's a better book.

So it's a book about hope.

I'm super happy with the book. I feel like it's an extension and a maturation of what subtle art was.

So I think we found a happy medium. You know, I'm super happy with the book.

So I don't know if you did that on purpose. I thought that absolutely. Yeah, absolutely.

So it's a book about hope.

it's a book about hope.

Whether you're in HR recruiting sales corporate espionage or actual espionage, you'll get a lot of practicals and how to out of this episode as well as out of Robin's new book appropriately titled Sizing People Up.

And that's what I call some people call that trust I call it predictability because that's what this book's really truly about is about predicting the behaviors of others and we'll call them vectors for you.

You're going to term called stamp a fee what is that stamp a fee is something that I've been doing for a number of years and I didn't realize it.

It's a combination of stoicism and not the stoics as a cynics necessarily but stoicism from the point of view of just observing behavior and cause an effect so with human beings there's two truths I basically base everything on.

My books are my manuals on how not to be the moron I was born to be.

Whether you're in HR recruiting sales corporate espionage or actual espionage, you'll get a lot of practicals and how to out of this episode as well as out of Robin's new book appropriately titled Sizing People Up.

It was that people often lie to themselves and spread that lie around.

how many people are actually truly self aware?

sizing someone up equals measuring self interest and the predictability of them following that self interest

my books are my manuals on how not to be the moron I was born to be

Robin and I discuss how people in his line of work size people up, predict their behavior and decide whether or not others can be trusted.

appropriately titled Sizing People Up.

how many people are actually truly self aware.

that's what this book's really truly about is about predicting the behaviors of others

sizing someone up equals measuring self interest and the predictability of them following that self interest.

Seth Godin, one of my favourite authors, the book Purple Cow, it made me think...

Seth Godin, one of my favorite authors, the book Purple Cow, it made me think...

Seth Godin one of my favorite authors the book purple cow it made me think when you are out in France and you're on a train and you're seeing black and white cow after black and white cow they blend in you don't notice but if you saw purple cow you'd remark about it you'd talk about it and share it.

In Emotional Agility, one of the things that I talk about is how our emotions are absolutely fundamental and absolutely functional.

What sometimes happens is we start fusing with our emotions. And what I mean by fusing with our emotions is we might say something like 'I am sad.'

And what does that mean? That means all of me, 100% of me is sad. There's no other space for anything else.

So our emotions are data. Yes, they are signposted things that we care about and our values and they help us to adapt. But they're not directives.

I talk about in my book Emotional Agility is this idea that so often what happens is we land up being hooked, being on autopilot. We learn it becoming very rigid with eye motion.

I love her work on Emotional Agility. I think it's absolutely brilliant and answers questions like why do we have emotions in the first place, especially if they're unreliable.

You stayed in the book. What does that actually mean?

Well emotional rigidity what I talk about in my book Emotional Agility is this idea that so often what happens is we land up being hooked, being on auto pilot.

Well you know one of the things that I focus on a lot in my work is really what does emotional health look like and I don't mean emotional health simply from the perspective of mental health you know yes that but what does it fundamentally look like to be healthy with ourselves to be healthy with ourselves to be healthy with our thoughts our emotions and who we are we are to essentially breathe into the wisdom that exists in all of us about how we come to our lives and yet we live in a world in which we are constantly pulled away from that technology and so on as the most obvious example but where there are so many narratives that are you know you're unhappy in your job at least you've got a job so you should just get on with it or you feeling upset about something but don't be too upset because you might be toxic and if you're toxic I don't want to be with you or you know you're going through something really difficult but you've just got to be positive with this thing and so what happens is there's all these countervailing experiences that we have that are stressful for us because really what they do is they take us away from the essence of what emotional health looks like and what is so fundamental to all of us the way we deal with our inner lives drives everything how we love how we come to our relationships how we live how we lead how we parent and so this ability to navigate ourselves effectively is I think one of the most critical components to anything you know it doesn't matter how smart we are it doesn't matter how motivated we are it's this how do we navigate our inner worlds

and you mention in the book that taking this stuff at home bringing your cell phone to the table is your example but trying always really hard to be right or not being flexible and what you're doing. This shows up in our brains age ages are brain and that's a high price to pay it's not just like oh I fight a little bit more with my wife and kids which is bad enough it's and you're probably giving yourself what Alzheimer's or something like that I mean that's bad.

I love her work on Emotional Agility. I think it's absolutely brilliant and answers questions like why do we have emotions in the first place, especially if they're unreliable.

Well emotional rigidity what I talk about in my book Emotional Agility is this idea that so often what happens is we land up being hooked, being on auto pilot.

it's not just like oh I fight a little bit more with my wife and kids which is bad enough it's and you're probably giving yourself what Alzheimer's or something like that I mean that's bad.

in my book I talk about how often what we do is we learn of either brooding on our emotions we say I'm unhappy in my job but at least I've got a job I shouldn't be unhappy or I shouldn't feel this and you know we learn up having a type one emotions and type two emotions

I talk in Emotional Agility about what the funk and what I mean by what the funk is what is the function of your story or what is the function of an emotion that you're experiencing is the function to self protect you

It's actually interesting because the book that came out was all about how happiness must be an interconnected pursuit and I had already committed to some of the talk so I had 13 talks that were lined up that I had to do.

I kind of felt like this book was a culmination of a lot of things I really cared about. It was the research that I'd been doing but also it was a reconnection to some of the things that I cared about almost at a spiritual level about how the pursuit of happiness has to be done with other people and so when Zoe was born the same week as a book lunch I kind of felt like I had two babies being born at the same time.

I don't want to make money off of the book it's not what books even really do.

It was more that this was something if there was one thing I wanted to say to the world who was this because I'd actually experienced some depression in my own life. I had experienced some dark times and now I'm a happiness researcher and in the process of doing both of those things more and more I was starting to realize how important others were in this pursuit of something I thought was a self-help idea.

Big Potential actually ended up in the self-help section of Barnes and Noble.

It's kind of a fun little little bit there.

It was the research that I'd been doing but also it was a reconnection to some of the things that I cared about almost at a spiritual level about how the pursuit of happiness has to be done with other people and so when Zoe was born the same week as a book lunch I kind of felt like I had two babies being born at the same time.

I love the way you begin the book with this lightning bug story and analogy.

Big Potential actually ended up in the self-help section of Barnes and Noble.

My favorite experiment right now is the other one that starts Big Potential as well which is two researchers in Virginia found.

It's kind of a fun little little bit there.

I don't want to make money off of the book it's not what books even really do.

It was more that this was something if there was one thing I wanted to say to the world who was this because I'd actually experienced some depression in my own life.

Big Potential actually ended up in the self-help section of Barnes and Noble.

When I got depressed, I tried to do the same thing. I'd go think my way out of this. I don't need anyone's help. I'll be there for other people but I don't want to burden anyone and I went deeper and deeper into depression.

It's like dropping a bomb on your house to blow out a candle. It'll do the job but it won't only do that job.

It really felt that way I felt like I woke up and it was sort of funny because it was about three or so months after I had gone off of the pill and I was in the car I still remember this moment because over the course of that three months I'd sort of begun to feel like I had more energy and things just seem more exciting like life just felt exciting it felt like there was like opportunity kind of you know around any corner and I just felt energized and alive.

I feel like getting into trouble and he was like what does that mean? And I said I have no idea.

It's like college again or it's like my late 20s again I mean they're just really really different people and they're like yeah I think I want to get into boxing and I'm like who are you you played bridge last week and now you want to start boxing who are you.

It's almost in some ways you can think of it as being like the anti testosterone therapy because essentially what is doing is this suppressing women's you know sex hormones right so it's like suppressing their levels of estrogen progesterone and also in a huge way testosterone.

It's like dropping a bomb on your house to blow out a candle. It'll do the job but it won't only do that job.

It was sort of funny because it was about three or so months after I had gone off of the pill and I was in the car I still remember this moment because over the course of that three months I'd sort of begun to feel like I had more energy and things just seem more exciting like life just felt exciting it felt like there was like opportunity kind of you know around any corner and I just felt energized and alive.

I feel like getting into trouble

It's almost like you got younger

It's like dropping a bomb on a house to try to put out a candle like it'll do the job but a lot of other stuff is going to get messed up in the process.

The pill changes us because it changes the version of our personality that we express.

It's like dropping a bomb on your house to blow out a candle. It'll do the job but it won't only do that job.

It was like walking out of black and white into color.

I feel like getting into trouble.

It's like dropping a bomb on a house to try to put out a candle like it'll do the job but a lot of other stuff is going to get messed up in the process.

I really enjoyed this book and I thought it was very useful because it did change the way that I think about stress, which is kind of a big deal considering that stress is the guiding pillar in my life much of the time.

I wish I'd read this book 20 years ago.

the crux of the entire book or at least the first half of the book

the subtitle is why stress is good for you and what I always say is it's not that stress is good for you, it's that stress can bring out what is good in you or stress can also bring out what is good in communities.

it's a matter of what I think of sort of strategic attentional deployment yeah and the story that you're going to tell yourself particularly in moments where the stress is not so easy as like turning it off.

I really enjoyed this book and I thought it was very useful because it did change the way that I think about stress, which is kind of a big deal considering that stress is the guiding pillar in my life much of the time.

I wish I'd read this book 20 years ago.

again I really enjoyed this book and I thought it was very useful because it did change the way that I think about stress, which is kind of a big deal considering that stress is the guiding pillar in my life much of the time.

the subtitle is why stress is good for you and what I always say is it's not that stress is good for you it's that stress can bring out what is good in you or stress can also bring out what is good in communities and that's really where I'm trying to get people to point their attention not that like suffering is good for you.

the stress mindset effect and how we can control this because this is I mean that's the crux of the entire book or at least the first half of the book.

I really enjoyed this book and I thought it was very useful because it did change the way that I think about stress, which is kind of a big deal considering that stress is the guiding pillar in my life much of the time.

I wish I'd read this book 20 years ago.

it did change the way that I think about stress which is kind of a big deal considering that stress is the guiding pillar in my life much of the time with a nine month old kid in the middle of a pandemic and running a business.

the subtitle is why stress is good for you and what I always say is it's not that stress is good for you it's that stress can bring out what is good in you or stress can also bring out what is good in communities and that's really where I'm trying to get people to point their attention not that like suffering is good for you.

the title of the book we did for the show today was The Upside of Stress why stress is good for you and how to get good at it

this is actually a term that I borrowed from Dr. Daniel Aiman who is the famed brain doctor he's done over a hundred thousand brain scans and um and he wrote a famous book called Change Your Brain Change Your Life it raised like forty million dollars on PBS was a really big hit

this is actually a term that I borrowed from Dr. Daniel Aiman who is the famed brain doctor he's done over a hundred thousand brain scans and um and he wrote a famous book called Change Your Brain Change Your Life

This is actually a term that I borrowed from Dr. Daniel Aiman who is the famed brain doctor... and he wrote a famous book called Change Your Brain Change Your Life.

I'm a fan of Jack Ryan from back in the day because the first Tom Clancy Jack Ryan novel to turn into a movie was The Hunt for Red October, which I think is a perfect movie.

The first Tom Clancy Jack Ryan novel to turn into a movie was The Hunt for Red October, which I think is a perfect movie.

I'm a fan of Jack Ryan from back in the day because the first Tom Clancy Jack Ryan novel to turn into a movie was The Hunt for Red October, which I think is a perfect movie.

My favorite three books is the richest man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

My favorite three books is the richest man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

My favorite three books is the richest man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

That's what I compared it to. And he's like, yeah, that guy wrote the forward to my book or whatever. I'm like, yeah, that makes total sense. So and of course, it did take a toll on his mental health. It's a whole thing. That's what we talked about.

This guy was actually really interesting. So his job, Gabriel, was basically like if you're Gaddafi's son who tortures people as some kind of sport and you want to go to Las Vegas and have a fixer, he would do that kind of thing.

The purpose of this book was not to increase cynicism or skepticism, but rather to increase media literacy.

I deserve whatever the opposite of a Pulitzer is.

I'm not terribly interested in getting a reporter to write a story unless it does something kinetically out in the world.

I told him that my job was to get a positive piece of press for the Libyans that week or else we were in danger of losing our contract.

If you printed it out, it would have been four pages long and it was a list of demands from Matassim Gaddafi, who was one of the sons of Muammar Gaddafi, the brother leader.

The purpose of this book was not to increase cynicism or skepticism, but rather to increase media literacy.

The way I put it in the book is that I deserve whatever the opposite of a Pulitzer is.

I'm not terribly interested in getting a reporter to write a story unless it does something kinetically out in the world.

It was the first PR assignment I'd ever worked on.

I think I will be banned from ever working on another FIFA bid because I'm admitting this.

I'm even reading up online on the mind-body connection and how our thoughts do affect our biology. Bruce Lichten wrote a great book, The Biology of Belief that I'll Well-Done give me started on that.

Bruce Lichten wrote a great book, The Biology of Belief that I'll Well-Done give me started on that.

I haven't read it for 10 years, so I might have the same opinion you do now.

Bruce Lichten wrote a great book, The Biology of Belief that I'll Well-Done give me started on that.

And for anybody who hasn't read it, I highly recommend Ryan Holidays Perennial Seller because it's really about this idea of creating work that is timeless that stands the test of time.

And for anybody who hasn't read it, I highly recommend Ryan Holiday's Perennial Seller because it's really about this idea of creating work that is timeless that stands the test of time.

And for anybody who hasn't read it, I highly recommend Ryan Holidays Perennial Seller because it's really about this idea of creating work that is timeless that stands the test of time.

Well, that's what my whole book is about, it is the power, yes, but half of the book, the other half is on the other questions we're going to talk about next, so the China, China has some disadvantages and some advantages.

In Professor Harari's new book, I think he has become more optimistic, he talks about the same thing I talk about that maybe people have to go back on their human instincts, their compassion, things that machines can't do right.

So I think he has come around and certainly I say strongly in my book that AI cannot do a good job of emulating a human in the human's true sincerity and desire to help others.

And one of the reasons I am, the main reason I wrote the book is so that people know that the optimistic choice exists and it's up to us to make that choice.

the book title is AI Superpowers, of course, that's available everywhere

That's what my whole book is about it is the power yes but half of the book the other half is on the other questions we're going to talk about next so the China China has some disadvantages and some advantages so the US advantage is clearly US invented deep learning invented AI.

The book title is AI Superpowers of course that's available everywhere and if you want to know how I manage to book all these great guests well I manage my relationships using systems.

In Professor Harari's new book I think he has become more optimistic he talks about the same thing I talk about that maybe people have to go back on their human instincts, their compassion, things that machines can't do right because we're talking about people who can't do routine jobs better than a machine.

So I think he has come around and certainly I say strongly in my book that AI cannot do a good job of emulating a human in the human's true sincerity and desire to help others so whether it's an elderly care nanny nurse doctor teacher concierge these are jobs that first AI probably cannot do for the next 30 years maybe longer.

one of the reasons I am the main reason I wrote the book is so that people know that the optimistic choice exists and it's up to us to make that choice

Well that's what my whole book is about it is the power yes but half of the book the other half is on the other questions we're going to talk about next so the China China has some disadvantages and some advantages so the US advantage is clearly US invented deep learning invented AI.

the book title is AI Superpowers of course that's available everywhere and if you want to know how I manage to book all these great guests well I manage my relationships using systems

and one of the reasons I am the main reason I wrote the book is so that people know that the optimistic choice exists and it's up to us to make that choice

Yeah, there's some crazy stuff in your book Winter Is Coming, great title by the way, being a Game of Thrones fan.

Your life is like a James Bond movie with so far less shooting and explosions but not by too much.

Yes, yes, you know the culture well to which you speak for sure.

Great title by the way, being a Game of Thrones fan.

Yeah, there's some crazy stuff in your book 'Winter Is Coming', great title by the way, being a 'Game of Thrones' fan.

Yes, yes, you know the culture well to which you speak for sure.