Option B Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy

I can't remember the name of the book, but we'll link to it.

And then I say the only thing that I know that's true, you're not going to go through this alone.

I stole that from Adam Grant and Sheryl Sandberg who wrote Plan B, Option B,

For Tom and Allison option B the book Facebook executive Sheryl Sandberg wrote in the wake of losing her husband has been a comfort.

It really helped um a lot I mean it talks a lot about loss and devastating loss and um um so just that you're not alone and different things she went through that we could certainly relate to but there's the one part of it where um she had her daughter was going to I think a father-daughter dance and her friend was over and she was like I want my husband here and he was like well we don't have that as option you know that is an option so we have to kick the shit out of option B and that really resonated with me because we have Alexis who we love more than anything I mean and we're grateful for the 17 and a half years that we had with Blake but Alexis is super super amazing and we can't get stuck I mean we can't we have to get out of bed every morning we have to you know and we have so much joy with her still so much laughter and we all three of us miss Blake terribly um but he's with us and we need to continue on.

she even bought cheryl sandberg's book option b for in case things didn't work out her son walked by it saw it one day and said you don't need a plan b mom let's throw this book away which she did

I have lived 30 years in these 30 days. I am 30 years sadder. I feel like I am 30 years wiser.

resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity. And we can build it. It isn't about having a backbone. It's about strengthening the muscles around our backbone

Our child dies a second time when no one speaks their name.

How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.

I don't believe this happened for a reason But it has given us all a reason to be more present parents, more loving spouses, more supportive friends, and more caring leaders

I have lived 30 years in these 30 days. I am 30 years better. I feel like I am 30 years wiser.

Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity. And we can build it. It isn't about having a backbone. It's about strengthening the muscles around our backbone.

Our child dies a second time when no one speaks their name.

How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.

I don't believe this happened for a reason but it has given us all a reason to be more present parents, more loving spouses, more supportive friends and more caring leaders.

I have lived 30 years in these 30 days. I am 30 years sadder. I feel like I am 30 years wiser.

resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity. And we can build it. It isn't about having a backbone. It's about strengthening the muscles around our backbone

Our child dies a second time when no one speaks their name.

how we spend our days is how we spend our lives.

I don't believe this happened for a reason, But it has given us all a reason to be more present parents, more loving spouses, more supportive friends, and more caring leaders.

I have lived 30 years in these 30 days. I am 30 years better. I feel like I am 30 years wiser.

Resilience is the strength and speed of our response to adversity. And we can build it. It isn't about having a backbone. It's about strengthening the muscles around our backbone.

Our child dies a second time when no one speaks their name.

How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.

I don't believe this happened for a reason but it has given us all a reason to be more present parents, more loving spouses, more supportive friends and more caring leaders.

one of the things that helped me the most was focusing on worst case scenarios

are you kidding me how could this be worse

Dave could have had that same cardiac arrhythmia driving your children wow