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and the other one I think is called A World Without Email those are both linked in the show notes as well

and his latest, A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload.

There's new research, new-ish, from Susan Cain who wrote the book Quiet, that explains why introverts connect better.

Introversion really here what this means is you need me time to recover.

This is Susan Kane's research from her book as well by the way, where introverts aren't people who are socially inept, they're people who need me time to recover, but they actually perceive others better than on the whole, better than extroverts do, because they're paying closer attention.

There's new research, new-ish from Susan Cain who wrote the book Quiet that explains why introverts connect better.

This is Susan Kane's research from her book as well by the way, where introverts aren't people who are socially inept, they're people who need me-time to recover.

there's new research new ish from Susan Kane who wrote the book Quiet that explains why introverts connect better and I love this because you no longer we no longer as a fellow introvert have a medical excuse to be Quiet or not socialize or knocking of talks or not network things like that that introverts supposedly can't do turns out that's just not the case

this is Susan Kane's research from her book as well by the way where introverts aren't people who are socially inept they're people who need me time to recover but they actually perceive others better than on the whole better than extroverts do because they're paying closer attention

And I know it has issues here and there. I'm not up on the specifics, though.

Yeah. I mean, I think that book has a ton of issues.

But as far as memory science goes, like I did a little digging and the panel that put together the DSM includes no memory experts and the definitions it lays out. They carry significant risks in clinical and legal settings.

So in 2013, that pesky DSM did not include the word repression or the phrase repressed memory, but defined dissociative amnesia as an event so traumatic it causes the, quote, inability to recall autobiographical information.

This is the book that lists all mental disorders.

Currently, porn addiction is not listed as any kind of disorder or condition.

if are you familiar with the diagnostics statistical manual of the American psychiatric association the DSM-5 kind of I know what it is anyway it's it's a book of listed listings of so-called mental illnesses or whatever mostly for insurance purposes there is I was just teaching this at a human traffic and conference in Texas there is a category 300.15 that's a dissociative disorder and it explicitly talks about brainwashing thought reform coercive persuasion as in cults sex and what so what we're talking about with mind control is a creation of a pseudo-self that suppresses your real self

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I had a feeling that you were a little bit more gregarious than slightly above average on the gregariousity scale.

I didn't fit the mold and it was a Jewish neighborhood very Jewish neighborhood it's called the five towns it's very famous suburb in the 60s and 70s it was the prototypical Jewish suburb in America so the Irish the few Irish that were in the neighborhood there was a section of town where the Irish and Italian lived and they were like firemen and cops.

I wonder if that's where you get your I mean you write in the book it's better to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission. I know neither you are I made that up but I'm figuring growing up as an outsider is a great way to develop that mindset right because you grow up going well if I don't fit in here and I don't fit in there I'm just gonna do whatever I want and if people get mad at me then I'll just fix it later.

I really enjoyed it I didn't think I'd like a book about a guy who started a shoe store which is what it initially seemed to me and now I'm like this guy's a good brand you know it's a good story to your good storyteller thank you.

I've done that so many times I can I don't even know what you're talking about but I stop people all the time in a supermarket in the street I see a girl wearing something and it looks great I'd even stop people and I said where'd you get that shoe and they say Steve Madden oh how about that one yeah so that's happened to me a few times but I like to see the the street the way they wear something and it gives me an idea and real turn on for me you know creatively to see a certain woman wearing a certain shoe.

I had a feeling that you were a little bit more gregarious than slightly above average on the gregariousity scale.

I really enjoyed it. I didn't think I'd like a book about a guy who started a shoe store which is what it initially seemed to me and now I'm like this guy's a good brand, you know it's a good story.

I wish I wasn't such a rule breaker and I'm not proud of a lot of things that I did.

It's better to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

Knowing what you don't know is a very big gift.

Having listened to the book I had a feeling that you were a little bit more gregarious than slightly above average on the gregariousity scale.

I didn't think I'd like a book about a guy who started a shoe store which is what it initially seemed to me and now I'm like this guy's a good brand you know it's a good story to your good storyteller thank you

I wish I wasn't such a rule breaker and I'm not proud of a lot of things that I did

It's better to beg for forgiveness than to ask for permission.

Knowing what you don't know is a very big gift.

My favorite three books is the richest man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

My favorite three books is the richest man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

My favorite three books is the richest man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

I read the book Bad Blood by uh carry you and I was like oh you know I can see how somebody our age would just get so swept up in it and then try to sweep the bugs under the rug and then you're like oh wait no con artist straight up fraud con artist like there's too much to ignore

I read the book Bad Blood by uh carry you and I was like oh you know I can see how somebody our age would just get so swept up in it and then try to sweep the bugs under the rug and then you're like oh wait no con artist straight up fraud con artist like there's too much to ignore

I read the book 'Bad Blood' by uh carry you and I was like oh you know I can see how somebody our age would just get so swept up in it and then try to sweep the bugs under the rug and then you're like oh wait no con artist straight up fraud con artist like there's too much to ignore

Dr. Hansen reminded us about a book called Educated by Tara Westover.

It's a memoir written by a woman who escaped her survivalist family in Idaho and ended up studying at Harvard and Cambridge.

She has an amazing story, very inspiring. We'll link to that in the show notes for you.

Stephen also recommended a book called Educated by terror west over it's a memoir written by a woman who escaped her survivalist family in Idaho and ended up studying at Harvard and Cambridge this one supposed to be pretty incredible

Stephen also recommended a book called Educated by Tara Westover... it's a memoir written by a woman who escaped her survivalist family in Idaho and ended up studying at Harvard and Cambridge. This one's supposed to be pretty incredible.

We literally went to every cabinet secretary with John Barry's book on the 1918 pandemic and sat with them highlighted in yellow the passages that we felt were the most important for them to pay attention to

I'm not a person that focuses on blame I'm a focus that's looking for learning and watching for evidence that as we experiment with what's the right thing to do we bring the best smartest people together to advise us and we observe what happens and we listen and pay attention to how it impacts people and we try to adapt and adjust as we go forward

I have John Barry's book sitting right next to me went back to read the 1918 influenza story because there's so much in there to learn from that has applicability today

We literally went to every cabinet secretary with John Barry's book on the 1918 pandemic and sat with them highlighted in yellow the passages that we felt were the most important for them to pay attention to so that for example the secretary of transportation understood that transportation had a role in a pandemic commerce understood its role state department understood its role and really tried to get all of government to come together and plan and exercise and prepare and invest.

I'm not a person that focuses on blame I'm a focus that's looking for learning and watching for evidence that as we experiment with what's the right thing to do we bring the best smartest people together to advise us and we observe what happens and we listen and pay attention to how it impacts people and we try to adapt and adjust as we go forward

I have John Barry's book sitting right next to me went back to read the 1918 influenza story because there's so much in there to learn from that has applicability today

We literally went to every cabinet secretary with John Barry's book on the 1918 pandemic and sat with them highlighted in yellow the passages that we felt were the most important for them to pay attention to

I'm not a person that focuses on blame I'm a focus that's looking for learning and watching for evidence that as we experiment with what's the right thing to do we bring the best smartest people together to advise us and we observe what happens and we listen and pay attention to how it impacts people and we try to adapt and adjust as we go forward

I have John Barry's book sitting right next to me went back to read the 1918 influenza story because there's so much in there to learn from that has applicability today

I mostly listened to nonfiction audiobooks introduced on the show such as the psychology of persuasion, captivate, how to win friends and influence people etc.

I mostly listened to nonfiction audiobooks introduced on the show such as the psychology of persuasion, captivate how to win friends and influence people etc.

I mostly listened to nonfiction audiobooks introduced on the show such as the psychology of persuasion, captivate, how to win friends and influence people, etc.

I go write a book. It's the most permanent extension of me I've ever put out.

It was 30% longer than it needs to be.

I grabbed the audiobook as I always do and it's like you really do need the audio version of this even if you're not an audiobook person because the way you tell the story is totally different.

The book is called green lights and it's kind of about this and having a bunch of green lights in front of you could actually be a big problem.

big thank you to Matthew McConaughey the book title is green lights

I go write a book. It's the most permanent extension of me I've ever put out. I don't know how much it's going to translate to people. I hope it does. It's very personal.

Thankfully, the books doing well. The ideas are obviously scaling out because individuals and everybody I'm talking about is a completely different conversation about similar topics.

I read an excerpt from the book in Newsweek or something. I would say, oh my god, I had no idea he was so abused by his parents and their relationship was so dysfunctional.

And then later in the book, you know, you know, from the audiobook that it wasn't like that or at least from the sound of it, it wasn't like that.

It was 30% longer than it needs to be. You don't get my end you endow, you don't get a you hair raised eyebrow or whatever that may be.

I go write a book. It's the most permanent extension of me I've ever put out.

It was 30% longer than it needs to be.

So you got to find the right word, you got to find the right sentence.

And as I talk about the book, you know you can engineer green lights for your future by the choices and responsibilities you take today.

The book is called green lights and it's kind of about this and having a bunch of green lights in front of you could actually be a big problem.

This new book, Shook One is about anxiety.

I really feel like this generation needs to read Shook One: Anxiety Playing Tricks on Me, which is my book on anxiety.

I use this acronym for fear, called Face Everything And Rise, or Fear Everything And Run.

I am at the point where I just don't care no more and the reason I don't care no more is because I know who I am and I know the work that I've put in to grow, I know the work that I've put in to evolve.

I've always had it, you know I mean I've always...I remember they were talking about always just stage fright, you know I mean, like things like that, when it was you know, came time to like speak in front of the class or you know, do...remember we used to do rock soup, it was a play called rock soup, I don't want to be on stage, like little things like that.

This new book, Shook One is about anxiety.

I really feel like this generation needs to read Shook One, anxiety playing tricks on me, which is my book on anxiety.

This new book, Shook One, is about anxiety.

I'm thinking how can you not have anxiety if you're thinking did I say something accidentally sort of maybe out of context could be considered racist in 1997?

And you know just meeting on my mental health and therapy and stuff like that and Cal Newport, Digital Minimalism, this book is so amazing because everything I was going through he put in this book.

I really feel like this generation needs to read Shook One: Anxiety Playing Tricks on Me, which is my book on anxiety.

I use this acronym for fear called Face Everything And Rise or Fear Everything And Run.

He was the commander for Seal Task Unit Bruiser, the most highly decorated special operations unit of the Iraq War in Baghdad and Ramadi, author of Extreme Ownership, Way of the Warrior Kid, and now Discipline Equals Freedom.

Discipline Equals Freedom, the field manual.

I saw that tweet when it came a long time ago you wrote Discipline Equals Freedom and I wrote it down and I thought great book title so good on you for that.

Well, if you want freedom in your life there's only one way to get there and that's through discipline.

In the book, in the field manual, you write, discipline is a root of all good qualities. The driver of daily execution, the core principle that overcomes laziness and lethargy and excuses.

and now Discipline Equals Freedom.

Discipline Equals Freedom, the field manual.

I saw that tweet when it came a long time ago you wrote Discipline Equals Freedom and I wrote it down and I thought great book title so good on you for that.

Well, if you want freedom in your life there's only one way to get there and that's through discipline.

In the book, in the field manual, you write, discipline is a root of all good qualities. The driver of daily execution, the core principle that overcomes laziness and lethargy and excuses.

He was the commander for Seal Task Unit Bruiser, the most highly decorated special operations unit of the Iraq War in Baghdad and Ramadi, author of Extreme Ownership, Way of the Warrior Kid, and now Discipline Equals Freedom.

Discipline Equals Freedom, the field manual.

I saw that tweet when it came a long time ago you wrote Discipline Equals Freedom and I wrote it down and I thought great book title so good on you for that.

And that's the album that beat psychological warfare on iTunes.

I read the book, Thirst, my wife did as well, we both loved it and you kind of, I mean, you acted out a little bit right, I mean, that's typical I guess, but it sounds like you were, you had a little bit of extra.

There's a lot of, I hate to say like you'll laugh, you'll cry, right, but it really has a lot of great stories in it and it's funny watching you now, knowing you now, being friends with you now, and seeing what you're doing and then hearing about like how you kind of bumbled through a lot of a lot of stuff earlier in the game and just some of the mistakes you made were very educational.

The book Thirst is really, there's a lot of, I hate to say like, you'll laugh, you'll cry, right, but it really has a lot of great stories in it and it's funny watching you now, knowing you now, being friends with you now, and seeing what you're doing and then hearing about like how you kind of bumbled through a lot of a lot of stuff earlier in the game and just some of the mistakes you made were very educational and I do think that your path is very unique.

I'm just so excited to share the stories that we're in and junior wife read it, there's, I tried to be vulnerable, I tried to tell stories that I hope would, would help people on a personal level, maybe actually get unstuck or maybe find their purpose, I think there's stories in there for entrepreneurs, there's stories of boneheaded failure, I've just all the times we did stupid stuff and screwed up and what we learned from that.

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I read the book, Thirst, my wife did as well, we both loved it.

I write about you know the actual details of this event a little more in the book

there was a little girl named let it curious hailu that I write about in the book who took her own life after spilling her water

the book Thirst is really there's a lot of I hate to say like you'll laugh you'll cry right but it really has a lot of great stories in it

the book title is Thirst

I read the book, Thirst, my wife did as well, we both loved it.

I write about you know the actual details of this event a little more in the book

there's a little girl named let it curious hailu that I write about in the book who took her own life after spilling her water

the book Thirst is really, there's a lot of, I hate to say like you'll laugh, you'll cry right but it really has a lot of great stories in it.

the book title is Thirst and if you want to know how I managed to make all these interesting friends manage all my relationships using systems and tiny habits in just a few minutes per day not dedicating my whole life to it check out our level one course

Ali was always asking if you have any magazines, you have any books... embassy was always bringing magazines and I had a bunch of books that the embassy was also bringing me... like they're like, this guy's gonna be here busy, so they brought me like two huge boxes of just books, which I would end up devouring and I would give them to Ali.

Ali would always send them back and everything, he'd read everything else, do you have anything else? I said, read this Harry Potter book, you're gonna fucking love it. It's Goblet of Fire. It's a huge book. I said, read this book, you're gonna like it. He sent it back, goes, I don't want to read. I said, promise you, you're gonna like this book, just fucking read it.

That's where I hid the cell phone... because it was so big, I was able to hide a cell phone in that book.

Ali was always asking if you have any magazines you have any books...I had a bunch of books that the embassy was also bringing me...like they're like this guy's gonna be here busy so they brought me like two huge boxes of just books which I would end up devouring and I would give them to Ali...I said read this Harry Potter book you're gonna fucking love it is a goblet of fire it's a huge book I said read this book you're gonna like it...he sent it back goes I don't want to read I said promise you you're gonna like this book just fucking read it that's where I hid the cell phone.

said read this Harry Potter book, you're gonna fucking love it. It's a goblet of fire. It's a huge book.

he sent it back, goes I don't want to read. I said promise you, you're gonna like this book, just fucking read it.

that's where I hid the cell phone.

I read The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday.

I read the Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday...

I read The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday.

How Henry David Thoreau's analog lessons from Walden can be applied to your 21st century digital lifestyle.

How Henry David Thoreau's analog lessons from Walden can be applied to your 21st century digital lifestyle.

And actually that analogy actually comes from the Michael Singer book 'The Untethered Soul', that's kind of where I heard that story.