10% Happier with Dan Harris

She's the founder of The Huffington Post as I'm sure you know she's written 15 books including the number one New York Times bestseller Thrive and more recently and this is the book she's come here to discuss.

I talked about how we are going beyond the two metrics of success and measuring a successful life in a money and power status to include the third metric which starts with well-being.

She's written 15 books including the number one New York Times bestseller Thrive and more recently and this is the book she's come here to discuss.

I think in Thrive, I talked about how we are going beyond the two metrics of success and measuring a successful life in a money and power status to include the third metric which starts with well-being.

She is one of the most popular TED Talks ever, more than 32 million views. Her name is Amy Cutty. She in her TED Talk and in her new book called Presence which has become a New York Times Best Seller.

She is one of the most popular TED Talks ever, more than 32 million views. Her name is Amy Cutty. She in her TED Talk and in her new book called Presence which has become a New York Times Best Seller.

So the book is called How to Be Yourself, Quiet Your Intercritic and Rise Above Social Anxiety.

The book is called How to Be Yourself, Quiet Your Intercritic and Rise Above Social Anxiety.

I remember reading the art of happiness and i something to the the tune of uh i think the the dolli llama said something about imagine yourself in a casket every day when you wake up

I remember reading the art of happiness and i something to the the tune of uh i think the the dolli llama said something about imagine yourself in a casket every day when you wake up

I'm like super ambitious thinking about things that I want to do today or what some how I'm gonna game something out with my boss or whatever next book I'm gonna write some grand plans for taking over the world to 10% happier and I'm like oh that's Sammy right what's up man yeah welcome to the party drop it

I call Sammy which is named after I don't know if you ever heard the book What Makes Sammy Run which is a book about an obnoxious striving Hollywood agent

Isn't there some evidence though that having healthy pursuits what Alex Su-jung Kim Park might call, he's a writer, he wrote a book called Rest.

So social health is the dimension of your overall health and well-being that comes from connection.

So if you think about it at the most basic level, physical health is about your body. Mental health is about your mind. And social health in contrast is about your relationships.

But oftentimes, connection gets lost in the conversation on mental health. We think that spending time with loved ones is something that improves our mood without necessarily recognizing that it does a lot more than that. It actually influences our risk for things like heart disease and dementia and diabetes. And at the extreme end, it influences how long we live.

you said something, can I remember the exact words, but you said social health is your connection, your relationships is as important as something like physical exercise. But couldn't you argue that it's more important?

I think you could argue that connection is more important than any of these other health behaviors. But I take a bit more of a modest approach in trying to help people understand that we already know that it's important to be physically and mentally healthy. Social health is on par with those aspects of our overall well being.

So social health is the dimension of your overall health and well-being that comes from connection.

But oftentimes, connection gets lost in the conversation on mental health. We think that spending time with loved ones is something that improves our mood without necessarily recognizing that it does a lot more than that.

And so thinking about social health separately from physical and mental health is a really useful way of understanding that we need to prioritize the actions that can help make us socially healthy, just like we prioritize behaviors to be physically and mentally healthy.

So if you think about physical fitness, it's exercising your physical muscles as a means to improve your physical health. And so in that same way, social fitness is about exercising your social muscles to improve your social health.

So literally just putting it on your calendar at 2 p.m. every day, send a text message or an email to someone saying, hey, I'm thinking about you or expressing gratitude for something they've done recently or something you appreciate about them.

right because Love and Rage had just come out which was my last book and I said okay what's next and this idea of a new saint hood like a new understanding of sainthood based on the Buddhist understanding of sainthood which is called the Bodhisattva tradition or the Bodhisattva ideal right.

and is the author of the book Love and Rage.

You've written a lot about the issue of rage, of a great book called Love and Rage.

if you're out there thinking about every mistake you've ever made don't you did it exactly the way you were supposed to get excited about what you'll try next time because there will be a next time.

I was punishing myself over and over and over again for mistakes that I thought I had made in the past and I wasn't able to comfort that woman in that moment because I still didn't really have the tools but I was so happy to be able to write that in the book because I'm saying it to myself as much as I'm saying it to everyone reading it.

Sarah Cooper has just written a whole memoir called Foolish Tales of Assimilation, Determination and Humiliation.

I can't stand white guys with podcasts so is this going to be tough for both of us?

My dad was absolutely terrified of any of us failing because he was walking the tight rope. He and all immigrants walk feeling one wrong move and it would be over. That's not an environment conducive to taking chances and that terror lives inside of me too but my opportunity to take risks is actually my parents legacy.

There's a chapter called pick me pick me which is about being a pick me girl which if you don't know what a pick me girl is it's basically a girl who will literally do anything for you to pick them like just pick me.

if you're out there thinking about every mistake you've ever made don't you did it exactly the way you were supposed to get excited about what you'll try next time because there will be a next time.

He's written a whole book about this. It's called No Time to Panic in which he lays out the physiological and the evolutionary causes of panic and then he takes a whole epic journey to treat panic disorder through therapy, medication, all kinds of psychedelics, breathing exercises, meditation and more.

One of the seminal questions at the start of this book for me was Am I broken?

So the book is called No Time to Panic how I curved my anxiety and conquered a lifetime of panic attacks book I wrote before that is called The Boys in the Cave deep inside the impossible mission in Thailand about the rescue of the 13 boys from the cave in Thailand but No Time to Panic just one more thing about that I talk about conquering a lifetime of panic attacks it's not that I've vanquished panic and I will never have a panic attack again it's that if it happens I'm going to be okay with it I'm going to know how to deal with it and I'm going to be able to forgive myself and that is one of the most important things that I want to impart on listeners is that sense of self forgiveness and self compassion and also a sort of healthy version of self reliance

We're talking to my friend and former colleague Matt Gutman, ABC News, a national correspondent who just wrote a really revealing and fascinating book about panic.

one of the best Buddhist book titles is by a teacher named Jack Cornfield incredible meditation teacher and he wrote a book called After the Ecstasy the Laundry

He's also written 16 books including no time like the present and the awesomely entitled After the Ecstasy, the Laundry.

I'll just plug one of your books specifically because it has one of the greatest titles of all time which is after the XC the laundry

But with people like Jack Cornfield, the Path With Heart, Sharon Salzburg, Levinge Kindness.

they'd read one of my books path with heart or something

She's the author of a book called The Sleep Fixed Practical Proven and Surprising Solutions for Insomnia, Snoring, Shift Work, and More.

So I eventually ended up writing the book that I wish had existed when I was struggling.

I've been reading it on some sleepless nights and it's helpful to hear you describe accurately what I'm experiencing.

And my book is only one of many. I'm not saying you have to go out and buy my book, but my book does detail. And I wrote that guide with the help of two different behavioral sleep specialists, and it will take you through exactly how to do this step by step and exactly what to take into consideration.

So the book is called The Sleep Fix. You can find more information at sleepfixbook.com.

She's the author of the new book The Sleep Fix: Practical, Proven and Surprising Solutions for Insomnia, Snoring, Shift Work, and more.

So I eventually ended up writing the book that I wish had existed when I was struggling and my hope is that by writing this that I can save other people from going through what I went through.

I've been reading it on some sleepless nights and it's helpful to hear you describe accurately what I'm experiencing.

And so that's where things get complicated and that's part of the reason why The Sleep Fix and lots of other books by clinicians exist to try to help people in the areas where you can do this at home because there are lots of solutions that can be done at home.

The book is called The Sleep Fix. You can find more information at sleepfixbook.com.

She's written several books her most recent is called Flowers in the Dark

Her most recent is called Flowers in the Dark. [00:01:44.480 --> 00:01:47.800]

and also Mindfulness as Medicine

and also Mindfulness as Medicine so go check out those three books [01:06:14.920 --> 01:06:29.640]

there's a previous book called Almost Anxious there's a previous book Almost Anxious and it's the parallel of Dan Sandina Vanilla and Kermann is every said that was the Vanilla Lulwana so

That's why I wrote Almost Anxious this idea that there's a tipping point on anxiety and performance and that curve shows us exactly what that looks like.

My colleagues Sylvia Borstein, who has been teaching meditation for many decades and has written several books, including Pay Attention for Goodness Sake, practicing the perfections of the heart.

Once referred to the Eightfold Path is the Eightfold Dot, to help us move away from being stuck in a highly linear sense of a path.

my favorite of the books I've written is called Pay attention for goodness sake

the thesis of that book is that if you really paid attention it would so convert your heart to goodness

Have you read The Case Against Sugar by Gary Thompson?

have you read The Case Against Sugar by Gary Taubes

and are not limited to radical acceptance, True Refuge and trusting the gold.

True Refuge which was 2013 which is when I got really sick and how do you find a way to face when life is most difficult and find peace and join freedom in the midst and then most recently radical compassion just a few weeks ago which is really learning to love ourselves and each other into healing and it's really for the rippling out for our world

She's also the author of the book, Mindfulness Meditation for Beginners: 50 Meditations to Practice Awareness, Acceptance, and Peace.

the book can be found there as well which is called Mindfulness Meditation for Beginners

She's also the author of a book called Mindfulness Meditation for Beginners.