Podcast
10% Happier with Dan Harris
The book presented an empowering approach to feeling loved, arguing that it is largely within one's control by changing the conversation rather than changing oneself or the other person. It detailed five mindsets designed to help operate the 'relationship seesaw' and foster deeper connection.
In fact, that is the title of their book, How to Feel Love.
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The book presented an empowering approach to feeling loved, arguing that it is largely within one's control by changing the conversation rather than changing oneself or the other person. It detailed five mindsets designed to help operate the 'relationship seesaw' and foster deeper connection.
In fact, that is the title of their book, How to Feel Love.
One of the misconceptions that they're hammering away at in this book is that we often think that feeling loved isn't really in our control. It's up to the other person. But my guests flip this on its head, and they argue that there are, in fact, strategies to feel loved, and they're often not the strategies that many of us fall back on.
Feeling loved is really in your control because it's not about changing yourself. It's not about changing the other person. It's about changing the conversation.
You know, our book comes out around Valentine's Day and almost all Valentine's Day cards say, I love you, right? They all say, I love you, right? And so we wanted to change that to, you make me feel loved.
I think this book, How to Feel Loved, is the best work I've ever done in my career.