10% Happier with Dan Harris

red filled jackson's book Sacred Hoops as a young guy coach of the elie liquors and chaggo bold when they won their yeah championships

i remember watching videos and eventually getting the book and when he wrote it and that kind of jive with my coaches and everything

he had books that influenced him that he put in Sacred Hoops book and it was zen minds beginners mind

red filled jackson's book Sacred Hoops as a young guy coach of the elie liquors and chaggo bold when they won their yeah championships

so that was an inflow it's what's the stuff he's doing with his players you know what's michael jordan doing because there's a young kid growing up you think i want to be like them and i heard about it and then as i moved on in my life

So the reason I wrote the book is because I had a lot of self hatred. Which book you have too? The second book. Make Peace with Your Mind, which is a book about how mindfulness and compassion helps for you from the inequity.

In there, as you told me before we came on, after I sheepishly admitted to that, I hadn't read the book which makes me the worst podcast host ever, you very kindly pointed out that one of the things in there is an inner critic toolkit.

A brilliant guy has a new book out and as somebody who's been on the mindfulness scene for a long time had a whole life story about which I was unaware and has a ton of practical wisdom for dealing with the voice in your head, which I really found quite impressive.

The reason I wrote the book is because I had a lot of self hatred.

Make Peace with Your Mind, which is a book about how mindfulness and compassion helps for you from the inequity.

So there's a whole list of practices, probably, I don't know, 20 practices or so. The two basic baskets of the practice is one mindfulness, one compassion.

there was something at a certain point that a book called Meditation in Action a very slim volume about mindfulness meditation that just penetrated.

there was something at a certain point that a book called Meditation in Action a very slim volume about mindfulness meditation that just penetrated.

And his most recent book is called Love Hurt's Buddhist Advice for the Heartbroken, which is a really interesting book and actually the focus of much of this interview.

Love Hurts it's a choose your own adventure style book really which is new for me so because if you're a heartbroken you actually don't know how to just go through a ten step plan like you're not interested in that so the chapter titles are if you feel angry you go to that page okay if you feel depressed you go to the page if you feel like you will never love again and you go to that page and there's advice or a story or Buddhist practice or something great

And um the topic of heartbreak I think is not something we often talk about it's something that we often deal with in isolation so I wanted to just open up the conversation around that after all these other conversations I've been having to say that you're not alone

And his most recent book is called Love Hurt's Buddhist Advice for the Heartbroken, which is a really interesting book and actually the focus of much of this interview.

So Love Hurts it's a choose your own adventure style book really which is new for me so because if you're a heartbroken you actually don't know how to just go through a ten step plan like you're not interested in that so the chapter titles are if you feel angry you go to that page okay if you feel depressed you go to the page if you feel like you will never love again and you go to that page and there's advice or a story or Buddhist practice or something great

And so then you wrote the Buddha walks into an office into the office which was about applying the stuff at the office.

And so then you wrote the Buddha walks into an office into the office which was about applying the stuff at the office.

So that column got I kept going with it and it got made into a book which was Walk Like a Buddha.

That column got I kept going with it and it got made into a book which was Walk Like a Buddha.

I can barely came out 2013 and the other one came out last year. And then paperback just came out.

I actually left out one book that I have read that the title of which is evading me but it's about the Dalai Lama force for good which I wrote for the Dalai Lama's 80th birthday which is his vision of how people can use mindfulness and other methods to manage themselves better so they're calm and clear adopt an ethic of compassion caring and concern and then act

I wrote a book called Destructive Emotions it was one of the first to praise the study and publicize it.

But I wrote my book Never Broken because I think we all have these internal resources. If we're willing to look inside of ourselves for answers, instead of constantly outside of ourselves for answers, we come up with ingenious stuff and we're all capable of it.

It's called Never Broken.

And it tells you my life story and then tells you how I overcame them.

But I wrote my book Never Broken because I think we all have these internal resources. If we're willing to look inside of ourselves for answers, instead of constantly outside of ourselves for answers, we come up with ingenious stuff and we're all capable of it.

And then in the back, it sort of has my 20 axioms that I developed and lived by.

It's called Never Broken.

But just on the meditation as it were. You said and I agree that your mother's little maximum is amazing. You're wearing a hat right now that says make America gay again, which is an amazing hat. Do you think you could practice kindness with somebody like Donald Trump? Yes, I could. I mean, I think I... Because I feel that he's an example of the kind of person you absolutely should use kindness with.

Do you think that kind of approach would have worked with your dad who you write about quite movingly in your new book? You got to get bigger dreams.

I'm holding a galley copy, which is not... This isn't the way it actually looks.

so going back to it was really nice because I felt a little more confident and also I felt like I already written a book very revealing about my life and now this was a book that was more a bit a kind of more fun side of my life mostly

you got to get bigger dreams where does that come from that comes from something that Oprah said

I'm holding a galley copy, which is not... This isn't the way it actually looks.

And now this was a book that was more a bit a kind of more fun side of my life mostly

you got to get bigger dreams where does that come from

Your previous book, Not My Father's Son, which was in New York Times best seller, which you really talked. You really excavate that relationship.

with my father and my grandfather in 2010 and that's why I wrote Not My Father's Son

Your previous book, Not My Father's Son, which was in New York Times best seller, which you really talked. You really excavate that relationship.

Her name is Elizabeth Vargas. She's the anchor of 2020 and she's got a new book called Between Breaths, a memoir of panic and addiction.

It tells the story of a really harrowing personal struggle on her part.

As I said in my book, I don't know that I was born in alcoholic.

Her name is Elizabeth Vargas. She's the anchor of 2020 and she's got a new book called Between Breaths, a memoir of panic and addiction.

It tells the story of a really harrowing personal struggle on her part.

As I said in my book, I don't know that I was born in alcoholic. I don't.

I nearly lost everything.

Dan has written a book called Anxiety as an Ally. How I turned a worried mind into my best friend.

Yes and that is part of the reason I wanted to write that book is because while it is impossible to you know if you've never had a panic attack people tend to say like oh just chill out what are you worried about?

I wanted to describe that feeling you know what it was like when I had the first panic attack, what it was like going forward you know the book is not a how to and how to get better necessarily because I'm no expert whatsoever but I wanted to explain what it was like so if somebody had anxiety especially like you know guys that are my demographic gamers that there's not a lot of talk about stuff like this necessarily.

Dan has written a book called Anxiety as an Ally. How I turned a worried mind into my best friend.

This is a really raw memoir of Dan struggles with panic attacks and anxiety, all of which I can relate to this really of course. And then he also talks about how meditation really helped.

I wanted to describe that feeling you know what it was like when I had the first panic attack, what it was like going forward you know the book is not a how to and how to get better necessarily because I'm no expert whatsoever but I wanted to explain what it was like so if somebody had anxiety especially like you know guys that are my demographic gamers that there's not a lot of talk about stuff like this necessarily.

I actually will totally looking to both of them when I get back in town because yeah even that little advice of you're trying too hard I think about that a lot even though that wasn't personally directed towards me in the way I meditate but I'll catch myself getting frustrated like it'll be you know 30 minutes into a session now we think I'm like man I've just been elsewhere mentally this entire time like and I don't think I'm wasting that 30 minutes but it's like I have I could have been doing so much better and I'll kind of beat myself up about it for the next 30 minutes but then I'll remind myself okay I'm thinking about this too much I'm trying to hard like just just sit here that's all you got to do here.

I said, well, you know, it would be fun to do a young person's version of The Thin Man and try to create those characters but in their kind of late teens but have that kind of bantery kind of, I'm embarrassed.

The Thin Man, oh, Dashel Hammett, it's a couple of Nick and Nora Charles.

I said, well, it would be fun to do a young person's version of The Thin Man and try to create those characters but in their kind of late teens but have that kind of bantery kind of, I'm embarrassed.

The Thin Man, oh, Dashel Hammett, it's a couple of Nick and Nora Charles.

I was on vacation and I read Gary Tobs's book Why We Get Fat and it convinced me to go low carb.

So if you look at the book it's all about insulin and so without tobs Why We Get Fat so when I was in the bookstore I was slipping through it I saw that it was all about insulin and that was what got me intrigued because if you're a diabetic it's and especially type one diabetic it's like insulin is you know the thing that saves your life so I was I wanted to learn more about it.

I was on vacation and I read Gary Tobs's book Why We Get Fat and it convinced me to go low carb.

No, I met someone who found a book called Beginning To See by Sujata, had little one-liners about mindfulness and wrote to the address in the back for more information and found out that there was a retreat being taught in Bucksport, Maine just an hour and a half from where we lived at that very time.

No, I met someone who found a book called Beginning To See by Sujata, had little one-liners about mindfulness and wrote to the address in the back for more information and found out that there was a retreat being taught in Bucksport, Maine just an hour and a half from where we lived at that very time.

She's just written a book. It's called Why is the Dalai Lama always smiling in which she tells her story and also details some of these Tibetan practices which to those of us in the West who are practicing either secular mindfulness or insight meditation will be new and different and extremely interesting.

Congratulations on your new book.

I've only read about two thirds of it because I ran out of time. But it's really, really, really interesting.

throughout my childhood I felt lonely, sad and not very safe. I used to cry for no apparent reason and I was just waiting to graduate high school and leave home. The underlying tone of that time was a melancholic longing though I didn't even know for what.

As he knew from the beginning and I came to know much later our relationship had begun lifetimes ago and will no doubt go into future ones.

She's just written a book. It's called Why is the Dalai Lama always smiling in which she tells her story and also details some of these Tibetan practices which to those of us in the West who are practicing either secular mindfulness or insight meditation will be new and different and extremely interesting.

I've only read about two thirds of it because I ran out of time. But it's really, really, really interesting.

throughout my childhood I felt lonely, sad and not very safe. I used to cry for no apparent reason and I was just waiting to graduate high school and leave home. The underlying tone of that time was a melancholic longing though I didn't even know for what.

As he knew from the beginning and I came to know much later our relationship had begun lifetimes ago and will no doubt go into future ones.

Some practitioners have even transformed their bodies out of the material realm Altogether with rainbow colored light streaming out of their empty clothes As they attain complete enlightenment

You wrote a great book that I just finished reading called Right Concentration which explains, I'd heard of the jannas for years. I didn't actually know what they were until I read your book. Incredibly clear and compelling.

Without ever ever being boring. Okay. So you sit down on the cushion. What do you do?

You wrote a great book that I just finished reading called Right Concentration which explains, I'd heard of the jannas for years. I didn't actually know what they were until I read your book. Incredibly clear and compelling.

All right. So the first thing you need to do is generate a basic level of concentration. In the later literature it's called access concentration.

And we ended up putting out two books that became best sellers and then a film that did really well

Everyone knows that everything is fine in moderation, yet we all suck at it.

And so why is that?

I mean, I see the scarcity mindset as really being the view that you don't have enough of something.

If you think about a million years ago when everything we needed to survive was hard to find and we didn't have enough, if you were constantly hyper-focused on the next thing that you might need, you would survive.

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