10% Happier with Dan Harris

and I think it was in Joseph's book Heartful of Peace where he said something to the effect of a feeling is being known so not identifying with that as you being the one who generated

Emily Nagoski has a PhD in Health Behavior and is the author of the hit book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life.

I published a book called Come As You Are which is about the science of women's sexual well-being and because the best predictor of a woman's sexual well-being is surprise, her overall well-being. There's a chapter in that book about stress and feelings and emotion processing

but you know the one chapter that changed everything for me was that one chapter about stress and emotion processing and I was surprised and I said that to Amelia

Together Emily and Amelia are the co-authors of the New York Times bestselling book Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.

You have said that and I'm quoting here we wrote it meaning this book because it's the book we needed ourselves.

What the book is, is we brought all those far flung resources together of biology and sociology and psychology and philosophy and music and art and stories and Disney princesses.

I'm not sick I don't need help and the issue with someone's reality is that when you look at someone and say hey you know what the sky is blue and if you can't start going along with the fact that the sky is blue this is causing some real issues you're gonna terrify that person because that's their reality that's really real to them

Somehow, John Kabat's in book landed in my lap. He was Full Catastrophe Living.

I read a bit of it and started listening to the cassette tapes.

Nedra Tawab is a social worker and the New York Times bestselling author of set boundaries find peace which became so popular this past year that she has now followed up with an accompanying workbook.

I have a book it is set boundaries fine piece I have a workbook The Set Boundaries Workbook

after I published Ten Percent Happier a couple years ago, I started getting all these tweets, like a massive amount of tweets about the fact that some guy named Elvis Durran was talking about my book on his radio show.

So I actually found a book at the bookstore called Eight Minute Meditation by Victor Davich.

Where you really learn the basics is basically a very skinny version of meditation for dummies.

I Am Perfectly Designed is because my son came home one day and was like I wish I was somebody else

I gave him the mantra you are perfectly designed as a reminder that you are and that's what we wrote the book as

in fact Robert Wright was an evolutionary psychologist I believe I'm getting his title right is about to come out with a book called by Buddhism is the truth and I think it's a small it's not a capitalized tea you know it's more like yeah this thing is true

In this episode, Robert Putnam and Shaylyn Romney Garrett discuss the recent book they co-authored, The Upswing: How America Came Together a Century Ago and How We Can Do It Again.

Putnam is the Malcolm Research Professor of Public Policy at Harvard. He's the author of many many books including his latest which is called The Upswing How America Came Together a Century ago and how we can do it again.

they was preceded by Healing a woman's journey from doctor to none [01:06:14.920 --> 01:06:22.440]

He is the co-author alongside Cass Sunstein of a book called Nudge, The Final Edition.

You could come Amazon and you want to find a copy of a good book to read, say, Nudge, the final edition just to pick an example.

So as long as we're defining terms, let's introduce one that's new to this version of the book, the final version I might add. We called it that to make sure we never do it again.

When we decided to rewrite this book which our publishers have assured us no one has ever been stupid enough to do this before. Take a successful book and for no good reason rewrite it.

Well the book is called Nudge, The Final Edition and it's about two thirds new. We're really written from cover to cover and we hope people enjoy it because we wanted it to make it fun.

He wrote a book, it's a letter to his wife and you're going to hear him speak about why he did it and you're going to hear some, as I said, it's really an honor, it was an honor to sit with him and talk about this stuff and I think it's going to be very useful to anybody who listens to it so I give you Joe DiNardo.

And I wrote the book and what happened is one my wife passed away. Of course there was a dare so between that and the funeral. And usually had a funeral like that. Nises and nephews are asked to each say a few words about the rant. And that's great. And that's a wonderful way to do it. But for some reason I felt that something, my wife, I wanted to do something different for her.

I thought of maybe I put a little book together, call it a letter to my wife would be the letter.

Medears love, I write this letter tonight on tear-stained paper. My heart lies in pieces on our bedroom floor but I wanted to share something with you before you go on your journey.

And I knew then that I wanted to be and would be there every step of wherever this journey might take you. I never knew how much I loved you and in that moment I knew and experienced the love I had never shared or experienced before.

So I'm reading a book right now by Desvin Tutu and the Dalai Lama. And it's about joy. And the fact that both of them experience a sense of joy that is different from having ice cream at night, your favorite ice cream, or all these temporary experiences that we have of happiness, but that they both, both of them have suffered greatly in their lives.

She's come out the other side of it and she's written a book called Anti-Diet and today she's here to talk about how to transform your relationship with food and your body.

In your book Anti-Diet you talk about the diet culture and its pernicious impacts.

But the real turning point I think for me was discovering the book intuitive eating by Evelyn Tribalyn and Elise Ress and I know you had Evelyn on the podcast before and she's a friend of both of ours and just wonderful person and I discovered the book because I was starting to research my own book that I never ended up writing about emotional eating because at the time I identified as an emotional eater felt like you know I'm just out of control with food whenever I get access to certain foods I just eat them in this emotional way where I can't stop and what's the deal with that what are the origins of that and so through that research I discovered intuitive eating I brought that into my own therapy with a therapist who was really more specialized in like anxiety, somatic experiencing sensory motor psychotherapy and a lot of mindfulness and so that's where I really first discovered meditation and self-compassion and I think intuitive eating just sort of plugged right in with those practices and made a lot of sense to me both as someone who had been an intuitive eater growing up and sort of practiced that for 20 years in my life and as someone who was newly discovering self-compassion and meditation and mindfulness like it just really resonated with where I was.

She's written a very cool book called The Daily Face. She's about her makeup expertise.

She also has a doctorate from Harvard and she is the author of a brand new book called The Wakeful Body, Somatic Mindfulness as a Path to Freedom.

In this conversation we talk about what somatic mindfulness actually is, the three levels of your body, earth, subtle and awareness specific exercises for getting out of your head and crucially how to meditate without all of the effort.

Yeah, my book is The Wakeful Body, Somatic Mindfulness as a Past of Freedom. And it explores these layers of embodiment that we've just been discussing here in the podcast.

There's some Everyday Dharma which is a very sort of initial if you want to start a meditation practice and you don't know much about meditation, that's one place to start.