10% Happier with Dan Harris

He came on a few years ago to talk about his other book, The Antidote, Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking.

I should credit the philosopher Ido Landau here who who influenced my thinking on this a lot he's wrote a book called Finding Meaning in an Imperfect World and a lot of it is about this kind of really unkind standard of meaning that we often and increasingly perhaps place on ourselves

And she is the author of a book called The Grieving Brain.

The Grieving Brain, it has this subtitle, The Surprising Science of how we learn from love and loss. And I think people reading the book will really see the ways that love gets encoded in the brain and what that means for how we understand loss as it's encoded in the brain.

And in 1969 she published that book On Death and Dying where she talked about these stages she described as a scientist does when they start working on a topic she described people's experiences of denial and anger and acceptance and depression but she was working in 1969 and science has come a long way since then

Catherine Schultz is a staff writer at the New Yorker who has a new book called Lost and Found, a memoir which is really about her processing a huge loss in her personal life and then a huge gain.

I remember feeling simultaneously heavy and empty like a steel safe with nothing inside.

What I remember most from those first hours after my father died is watching my mother cradle the top of his bald head in her hand. A wife holding her dead husband without trepidation, without denial, without any possibility of being cared for and returned.

The most important thing that had vanished when he died I realized in that instant is wholly unavailable to me life as it looked to him life as we all live it from the inside out.

The new book it's called lost and found as you heard it is partly a memoir about losing my father and falling in love but also very much a reflection on these categories of loss and discovery that all of us live within in so many complicated and interesting and wonderful ways.

Next Matthew, we're going to see right back here on Monday for a brand new episode with the phenomenally preternaturally talented writer, Catherine Schultzuz out with a new memoir called Lost and Found as a fascinating conversation all next week.

We're going to be talking about loss and grief and we'll be combining Catherine's personal story with a neuroscientist who looks at your brain on grief.

Over the Top, in which JVN went to public on some extremely private issues, including being HIV plus surviving sexual abuse and recovering from drug addiction.

And I was so nervous about Over the Top which was like about to come out like a month later when the accident with bug the second happened.

You brought up shame there shame is a recurring theme for you can you say a little bit more about the role of shame in your life and how you work with it?

I'm constantly trying to deepen my understanding of the world and acknowledge that good and bad can coexist and that we will never be able to just snap our fingers and put everything in its place...

Dr. Sarah Mednick is the author of the new book The Hidden Power of the Downstate.

And that's when the book idea came to me is to really say well why don't I tie all these ideas together because you can see up states and down states in exercise, in nutrition, in sleep, in circadian rhythms in our autonomic nervous system and in fact conceiving of yourself as being rhythmic and having these ideal times for output and ideal times for prioritizing restorative processes actually is the most natural way to live and the healthiest way to live.

you can read about my book The Power of the Downstate

and you can see my other book take a nap change your life which is all about how naps can be used as not just restorative system but also to make you smarter and happier and all sorts of stuff

one of my favorite books recently is Breath by James Nester yeah we're trying to get James Nester on the show

there really mind some powerful information there showing that we've become a society of mouth breeders and it's changed our anatomy it's changed our physiology and it's changed our disease risk

I also find that finding a book that is very dense and that you can find yourself really trying to read and it's a little beyond your capacity at the moment, like a good history novel, maybe something with a little bit of math in it or something like this, a little engineering or something of that kind. Something that will make your mind just kind of poop out.

And the second you're reading Wolf Hall or whatever it is that is driving you to drows, close the book, turn off a light and let it take you.

Among the many books and journal articles, he's written is one called Happiness Found in Translation which, bad that title.

I heard one of the co authors speak I heard a least rush speak at a like professional meeting organization and I sat down and I was like oh this makes a lot of sense.

I picked the book back up and i read it so quickly it would just like pop through and i'm not an avid reader right so it's rare that i go through a book very quickly but something spoke to me.

The book written by Elise Ress and Evelyn Tribbley Evelyn Tribbley has been on your show it was one of my favorite episodes and the book talks about 10 principles of how to heal your relationship with food.

there's also a great new book out I think it's called How to Raise an Intuitive Eater by Amy Severison and Sumner Brooks which is using the principles of intuitive eating and applying them to kids.

And she is the author of a book called Focused and Fearless.

And I think in my first book focused in fearless, I used the example of sharpening a pencil.

I recommend Focused and Fearless first.

Her books include Standing at the Edge: Finding Freedom Where Fear and Courage Meet, and The Fruitful Darkness: A Journey Through Buddhist Practice and Tribal Wisdom.

Her books include Standing at the Edge: Finding Freedom Where Fear and Courage Meet, and The Fruitful Darkness: A Journey Through Buddhist Practice and Tribal Wisdom.

Ashley Willens is an assistant professor at Harvard Business School and author of a book called Time Smart.

And the book Timesmart. Yes, they could also read my book Timesmart.

the author of Better Sex Through Mindfulness, which has a forward by a previous guest on this show, Emily Nagaski.

my book is Better Sex Through Mindfulness which is a distillation of the science of mindfulness as it's been applied to sex and then my workbook The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook is in press and coming out in September 2022 by Grace Stone and it goes into the how-to and the specifics of each of these exercises

Sarah also wrote her own book called Closer Notes from the orgasmic frontier of female sexuality which you should also check out.