On Purpose with Jay Shetty

A psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author. Lori, Lori Gottlieb.

Bestselling author and host. The number one health and wellness podcast. On Purpose with Jay Shetty.

I'm speaking about the one and only Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, which has sold nearly 2 million copies and is currently being adapted as a television series.

Lori is the creator of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone workbook, a toolkit for editing your story and changing your life, and Maybe You Should Talk To Someone journal, 52 weekly sessions to transform your life.

If you don't have a copy of this, make sure you go and grab one while we're having this conversation.

I want to ask you this question because obviously we're talking today about your beautiful new journal that assists, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, which is the book that I interviewed you about a couple of years ago, which is such a phenomenal book. It's helped so many people. How and why is journaling valuable to everything we're discussing today?

I think that one of the things that happens when you journal is you go into this space that you don't go into when you're not writing it down.

And the way that I've structured this journal is there's a prompt that comes from, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone just to give you a little bit of structure, but it follows you through the 52 weeks of the year, like a therapy session.

I talk in the book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone about the stages of change and you can see them happen.

And I hope that you go and grab a copy of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, the journal, 52 weekly sessions to transform your life by Laurie Gottlieb.

And as I said, you can subscribe to our podcast. And if you haven't read, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, make sure you go and grab that book as well.

If you've not read her book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, please check it out.

This is my amazing friend, Laurie Gottlieb, who's an incredible, incredible psychiatrist and has an amazing book called Maybe You Should Talk To Someone if you've not read it, I highly recommend it.

So through my book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone through my weekly column at the Atlantic, your therapist, through my podcast, the dear therapist podcasts through my Ted talk.

I went on book tour for, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone before I went on stage person who was interviewing me.

Please go and check out Laurie's book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. It's amazing.

Laurie Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, which is being adapted as a television series with Eva Longoria.

We will put the link to the book into all the captions and comments, so make sure you go and grab a copy.

Her new Dear Therapist podcast produced by Katie Couric and co-hosted with Guy Winch helps listeners to see themselves more clearly and debuts this spring.

And I'm really glad that you didn't know how successful the book was going to be.

Go and grab a copy of the book. I promise you it's a fun read. It's entertaining. And as you've seen, it's deeply insightful and empowering as well.

I remember when they asked me to write my second book. Well, they didn't ask me to write one but they wanted me to write a second book and I was like, I really don't have anything to write about because at that point I was really just trying to figure my life out because you got to understand like when I started going to therapy, I'm 49, I might have started going to therapy around 38, you know, early 39.

Go grab my books, Shook One, Anxiety Playing Tricks On Me, and Black Privilege Opportunity.

And finally, I can't believe this is the first time we actually have her on On Purpose. I'm speaking about the one and only Mel Robbins.

Her work includes The Global Phenomenon, The Five Second Rule, and the upcoming book that we're talking about today, The High Five Habit.

Today we're talking about this incredible new book, The High Five Habit. Take control of your life with one simple habit.

This is a book that I want everyone who's listening right now to go and order.

The High Five Habit saved me. It was a ladder that helped me climb out of a hole I had fallen into emotionally, physically, spiritually.

And you can join the high five habit challenge through the link in our description.

But I, too, am happy today we're talking about this incredible new book, The High Five Habit. Take control of your life with one simple habit.

This is a book that I want everyone who's listening right now to go and order.

And you'll have to get the book to see this, is you have these beautiful pictures from your community and beyond of people actually practicing it.

I want every single person who's been listening or watching this podcast to go out and grab a copy of the high five habit. Take control of your life with one simple habit.

Robin's number one international bestsellers such as the 5 a.m. club, the everyday hero manifesto, the monk who sold his Ferrari, the greatness guide and who will cry when you die have sold over 25 million copies.

I remember a quote from Robin Sharma, which I read when I was very young. He wrote a book called The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari.

I first wrote about it in The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, and it just stuck.

If you haven't read Walter Isaacson's books on Steve Jobs, on Da Vinci, on Einstein, read them. Those guys have failed so many times.

What do you think was the most interesting discovery he made through your research?

I think his most interesting thing he did was connect the arts and the sciences And that's an inspiration for Steve Jobs who convinced me to write about Leonardo da Vinci

That's what Vitruvian man that naked guy doing the jumping jacks in the circle and square is supposed to symbolize As the connection of art and science and that's why the Mona Lisa has the most amazing smile It's because he studied optics. He studied nerves. He studied perspective and He was able to meld art and science to make the greatest painting ever

If there's one person you could have dinner with that's no longer with us, who would it be?

Leonardo

If there's one person you could have dinner with that's no longer with us, who would it be?

Leonardo da Vinci.

Because he was the person who most wanted to know everything you could know about everything that was knowable.

And it's like, whoa, tell me about it.

So I grew up in a very chaotic environment, as did so many of us. Very chaotic, very lots of trauma, lots of addiction, lots of mental illness or what we call mental challenges.

And I realized in that moment how judgmental I was. And I'm standing on stage and I don't like these people. I just don't like them.

And it just struck me that at one point in our lives, we were all the same. At one point, we were just all scared children.

And pain shared is pain divided. And right now, during this time when people are feeling isolated, this is so perfect.

Tana's new book is available for pre-order. It's not out yet. It's The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child.

So she grew up with a lot of trauma and I really liked her. She's beautiful. She's smart. She's sweet.

So she grew up with a lot of trauma and I really liked her. She's beautiful. She's smart. She's sweet. And how do you get someone to fall in love with you? This is a neuroscience strategy. You do something nice, important for someone they love.

Hey have you read Think Like A Monk or On Purpose or have you watched this interview or whatever that they're into you may introduce them to other insights, to other voices.

I'm a huge fan of your new book. It's wonderful to see it have so much success.

So my book that's available for pre-order right now, and it's coming out on the 14th of April next year in 2020, the book is full of relatable science that will really help you understand these concepts deeper.

Today I'm excited to talk with Kristen about her new book, The World Needs More Purple People and what it means to be a healthy relationship, a great parent, and why the world needs more of all of this incredible energy.

So two years ago, we were sitting around the kitchen table, our kids were running around together and we were, I'm sure talking politics and we're a group that believes the same things and we still sounded like we were fighting, right?

We sounded like there was divisiveness and it occurred to, Ben is a highly emotional creature as well and it occurred to us that our kids are actually getting two signals right now or getting one signal, it's us and them. It's blue or red.

Every time we turn on the television, there's who's blue, who's red and we just thought subconsciously that must not be good for them and you can't really sit down and say, well, it's because the country is fighting and some people believe this and some people believe that and you need to vote and sometimes the blue side is right and sometimes the red side is right.

Purple people ask really great questions. Purple people laugh a lot. Purple people use their voice. They don't lose their voice. They are really, really hard workers. And the final pillar in being purple is you have to be uniquely you because you're the only you we've got.

Today I'm excited to talk with Kristen about her new book, The World Needs More Purple People and what it means to be a healthy relationship, a great parent and why the world needs more of all of this incredible energy.

It is about respecting other people's opinions, but we came up with five pillars. Purple people ask really great questions. Purple people laugh a lot. Purple people use their voice. They don't lose their voice. They are really, really hard workers. And the final pillar in being purple is you have to be uniquely you because you're the only you we've got.

He's famously known to write the biographies of the biggest icons of all time. So he wrote the official biography of Leonardo da Vinci, Einstein, Steve Jobs, like, you know, just it's insane.

And he wrote a new book about a lady named Jennifer Doudna, who is the founder of Gene Editing. Now she's a female scientist who was told by her school teachers that women don't become scientists, right? Like women's can't be scientists.

She just won the Nobel Prize for her discovery. So amazing. And he just wrote a book about her life. It's called Codebreaker.

And this one has been the most intriguing read. I was not expecting you to do this, but thank you so much for doing the show.

I hope unfolds as if you're part of a drama that's unfolding for all of us in real time.

It's available right now when you hear this episode and I truly believe that you know Walter you're very humble and modest and I that makes me appreciate you even more But you have a really unique ability to be able to really get into people's lives in a really deep and intimate way and Take us on a journey through their life in a very 360 whole way I feel like you're great at telling us about the whole person rather than just the part That's often the most popular part and I I really really value your approach and the way you do that

Everyone Walter Isaacson a new book The Codebreaker available right now go and grab a copy.

I promise you you won't regret it and and to be honest, I do think this is probably the most Challenging challenging one for me in the sense that because it's happening right now It presents so many more interesting conversations and questions in a way that I've never been challenged before So thank you so much for all the work. You've done Walter I remain a fan and supporter and really loved meeting you today and appreciate your energy through the screen I look forward to have dinner having dinner with you. Hopefully one day and again, I appreciate you so much

And I think all of us have to have a feel for this technology, have a feel for our own humanity, for our own children or nephews or nieces or, you know, and say, all right, how do I feel?

It's a pretty simple system. Bacteria have been using it for a billion years and they're not all that smart.

So whenever a virus attacks a bacteria or some of these bacteria, the bacteria take a small mugshot of some of the genetic code of the attacking virus and the bacteria puts it in its own genetic sequence in these clustered, repeated sequences known as CRISPR.

And boom, that was an aha moment in the lab because they said it could be used as a gene editing tool on humans.

And it's a system to edit our DNA, a system to edit our genes.

And these key insights are shared in her New York Times bestselling book, Lessons, My Path to a Meaningful Life, which is an incredible read.

I highly recommend you read it if you haven't.

And I'm so excited today to talk to her about her new book, Lessons, My Path to a Meaningful Life.

It's brilliant. It's such a beautifully told story of mixing in your life and the Lessons from your life.

For anyone who's watching and listening, I highly recommend that you go and get Lessons, My Path to a Meaningful Life by Giselle Bundchen.

And I'm so excited today to talk to her about her new book, Lessons, My Path to a Meaningful Life.

It's brilliant. It's such a beautifully told story of mixing in your life and the Lessons from your life.

the life I've lived in public has very little connection to who I really am, or what matters most to me.

For anyone who's watching and listening, I highly recommend that you go and get Lessons, My Path to a Meaningful Life by Giselle Bundchen.

I'm so grateful that you're doing this. Oh, thank you so much. And I'm grateful that you're doing what you're doing. And I'm happy I got to be a part of this and really excited for you all to read the book. Make sure you get it. I really highly recommend it to every single person listening and watching.

I got this technique from my friend, Byron Katie. She wrote a brilliant book called Loving What Is.

And Byron Katie has written four major books, the best-selling Loving What Is, and I'm grateful to have two of them with me right now, so you can see them here.

It's brilliant. It's sort of a combination of cognitive therapy and Buddhism.

And it's I just I love it whenever I'm off or I'm sad or I'm stressed. I'll read portions of Loving What Is or listen into it because she read it and she has a beautiful voice.

But your book Born a Crime is a brilliant, brilliant book.

And I don't want to go through the whole book. I'd love for people to read it if they haven't.

And I thought that Trevor Noah's book, including the audio edition was just a great choice for high school students.

It's just a gripping story of this kid. And I think that what he is telling us gives us all kinds of insight into our world today.

And the reason for that is that is that Trevor Noah speaks multiple languages...his ability to do characters and accents is just extraordinary. It's just it's a virtuosic performance. And just a gripping read.

Now, I've written Mating in Captivity to say that fire needs air. This was Mating in Captivity, the quarantine edition.

It's a book that I believed when I read it, I just felt I was like, I can't believe someone's actually put this all into words. I connected so deeply with it.

It's a book that I believed when I read it, I just felt I was like, I can't believe someone's actually put this all into words.

And basically, you know, you and I love reading philosophy, whether it's the Greeks, the Vedas, the Stoic philosophers. And the bottom line is that what is the good life is a constant priority for philosophers trying to define the good life.

Matthew Walker's book Why We Sleep came out a few years ago. And I think society had a big awakening. Excuse the pun. At that point around sleep.

According to the sleep expert Matthew Walker, who's a professor of neuroscience and psychology at UC Berkeley and the author of the New York Times bestseller Why We Sleep, one out of three of us is chronically underslept.

If you've not read her book, Daring Greatly, I highly recommend it to understand more about this topic.

And I feel like the more I fill my life with positivity, you know, the more positive I am obviously. And so this was something I just kept hearing about. And every year I like to pick a word to work on. And last year as a result of kind of starting this gratitude journal, I decided I'm going to dive in my word for last year was gratitude. And it was really nice. And I think that's a really good way to approach new year's resolutions because you can make tons of little like goals, but they all, my all my goals always focus around my word for the year. So it's like, this is my big goal. And then I'm going to just make lots of little like things that will hopefully lead to that.

And so this was something I just kept hearing about. And every year I like to pick a word to work on. And last year as a result of kind of starting this gratitude journal, I decided I'm going to dive in my word for last year was gratitude.

Atomic Habits is a great book that I read.

And I think Atomic Habits talks about like keeping your identity small.

Robin's number one international bestsellers such as the 5 a.m. club, the everyday hero manifesto, the monk who sold his Ferrari, the greatness guide and who will cry when you die have sold over 25 million copies.

Today he's here to talk about his new book, The 5AM Club, which is all about owning your morning and elevating your life.

I love talking about the book because if you're watching at home, you're watching at work, wherever you are, if you like today's conversation, I really urge you to go and get the book.

I first wrote about it in The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, and it just stuck.

I've worked four years on the book, but it's really 22 years of my learnings and teaching in the book.

There's a line in the book, which it comes from the Spartan warrior credo, sweat more in training and you'll bleed less in war.

Today we're talking about your new book, Superhuman. The book came out a couple of months ago and I'm finally here with Dave, the Bulletproof plan to age backward and maybe even live forever.

And part of superhuman, the anti-aging thing. No, I've got the data. It shows I have a 20 year old's brain and it's awesome because I can keep up.

And that was one of the reasons I wanted to write this book. It might take a few decades, so you're going to need more decades or you might cheat.

Each of the books, the superhuman book would have been a lifetime of research in a library using microfiche and card catalogs on this crap.

And I go through really cool news science in superhuman 45 percent of the cell membranes in your body are saturated fats and the brain militantly holds that constant.

If I see a book like The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, I'm going to read that book.

And then here comes The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Mark Manson, sold goddamn over two million copies.

You know, I'm the type of person if I see a book like The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, I'm going to read that book.

And then here comes The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Mark Manson, sold goddamn over two million copies.