On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Now, I had the joy to sit down with Todd about his book called The Alter Ego Effect last year when it came out and I really enjoyed this conversation and so I dove into more around this theme and seeing how we could use it.

In fact, in Todd Herman's book, Alter Ego, he describes a client who actually created an alter ego that was a giant magnet so he could channel and focus his own innate ability to attract new business.

...and really underpins a lot of the research and a lot of ideas that I've shared here today.

So if you enjoyed it, you can check out Todd Herman's book on The Alter Ego Effect too, which I interviewed him for when it came out...

Todd Herman, who I interviewed and wrote the book, The Alter Ego Effect, he talked about how Martin Luther King used to wear glasses because they made him feel more confident.

I've been reading a book called The Psychology Book. It's great. I really enjoy it.

And there's a psychologist named Herman Ebbinghaus who said that 24 hours after learning something, we forget two thirds of it.

Items forgotten can be relearned faster than new ones, which means that if you read something and forgot it, but read it again, you're more likely to remember it.

Meaningful things are remembered 10 times longer.

This is Herman Ebbinghaus in the psychology book.

And I'm reading this from a book called the Psychology Book, Big Ideas Simply Explained.

I would highly recommend, I would write, highly recommend a Millionaire Success Habits.

I would highly recommend, I would write, highly recommend a Millionaire Success Habits.

Gavin DeBecker, one of the world's leading security experts in the gift of fear, calls it a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards and guide you through risky situations.

There's this great Harvard researcher named Robert Putnam. He wrote a book called Bowling Alone.

I'm a huge fan of the book Thinking Fast and Slow. I don't know if you've read it. It's a great book.

Just understanding system 1 and system 2. If anyone watching hasn't read it I highly recommend it.

One of the things I love you talk about in the book, The Algebra of Wealth, is you talk about the challenge we have with our goals, like setting unrealistic, super longterm targets.

There was a book which was called Black, which was about, uh, gangs in Brussels.

And it was a Romeo and Juliet story between a Congolese girl, 15 year old girl that falls in love with the Moroccan guy from a rival gang.

And it was a very hard, very shocking story based on true events.

And, um, and when we read that book right away, we knew, okay, this is going to be our do the right thing.

This movie is going to be our ticket to Hollywood no matter what.

My Wife Radhi's Cookbook is launching on February 27th. It's called Joyful and will help you cook plant-based dishes effortlessly.

She's the author of Forever Strong and her new book, The Forever Strong Playbook.

Her groundbreaking work shows why muscle isn't just about fitness, it's the key to longevity, vitality, and preventing disease.

Today we're talking about Kasey's book, which is all about metabolic health called Good Energy. If you don't have this book, you're going to want to read it as you hear this conversation. Go and grab your copy right now.

And I think the easiest way to kind of really paint the picture of all of this and how I've come to this somewhat radical conclusion is actually to just share a personal story if you don't mind. It's actually about my mother.

And the point of this is that when it comes to chronic conditions, unfortunately the health care system does not deserve our trust because the treatment of these chronic conditions has been an abject failure.

And the beauty of why we can trust ourselves more in the healthcare system is because we have tools now to understand our metabolic health in great granularity for ourselves.

And that thing is what I present as what I call bad energy in the book, otherwise known as metabolic dysfunction, a fundamental problem with how our 40 trillion cells produce energy to let them do their work in the body.

This is the book that I want you to go and order, The Good Life, Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness.

I couldn't recommend this book more, Dr. Robert Waldinger or Bob.

One thing I love about this book is that it's practical, it's scientific, it's thoughtful, it helps us come back to our essence.

The book is called The Good Life, Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness.

I hope you go and grab the book.

This is the book that I recommend. If you're going to read about your health right now, this is the book I want you to go and get.

I want to dive into many aspects of the book, many topics.

I talk about this sort of model of trauma where wounded children become adaptive children And adaptive children are there to protect the wounded children

I think that the most important lesson for me in the past decade has been that all the health stuff that makes up most of that book, how do you reduce your odds of getting cancer? How do you reduce your odds of getting heart disease? How do you make sure your muscles work better in the last decade of your life? All those things, they're very important But if you're miserable none of it matters

The book is written basically it's 17 chapters, 16 of the chapters are me writing about it as the doctor, the scientist and then the last chapter, which is about emotional health, is me actually just writing about my personal experience and my own transformation

I remember I read a book called "The 4-Hour Workweek." It was really interesting because he had like a really different way of thinking about like work, and time, and how you maximize your time.

His other books include The Talent Code, which I haven't read yet, which I'm very excited to read, The Little Book of Talent, The Secret Race, Lance Armstrong's War and Hardball, A Season in the Projects.

If you don't already have this book, I highly recommend it. Whether you think you're a creative or not, this is a book that's going to help you tap inward into helping you access a part of yourself that you may not even know exists or refine and deepen a part that does exist.

And then I opened it up and I was like, wait a minute, this is not what I was expecting. And I'm seeing like poetry and I'm seeing like rhymes and I'm seeing just short reflections and some really beautiful, even exercises and activities that you suggest.

And it's like, that's something I would love to help people develop because I think it's a skill, it's a habit. And you talk about habits in the book and we're only as creative as the habits we keep, you say.

This book in itself breaks the construct of what a book is.

It's been performing incredibly well. It's been on the New York Times bestseller list for months now.

This book is literally just a series of topics that I feel like, you know, you could just throw in at a lunch, throw in at a dinner table, you know. Throw in if you're just sitting around on a plane with somebody and you want to have a conversation but you can't.

I've been telling half truths. I haven't been being completely honest. Like I've been telling, you know, just enough of a story to get just enough back, but that's not how you, you know, properly heal anything like you got to deal with it all.

I don't think there's anybody else I trust to share these things with. Not even a therapist, no matter how good the therapist is, no matter how great the therapist is like this individual that I've shared majority of my life with is the only person I feel comfortable, you know, putting all that on the table for.

Stop lying to yourself and stop volunteering those lies to other people. Every single day people wake up and just volunteer lies for no reason. And I'm not saying lies have to be negative. Like they just lie about their life. They lie about who they are. They lie about what they do. And it's like, nobody asked you for that.

I'm living proof. I talk about that in the book, you know, 'Get Honest, a guideline, um, why small talk sucks.' Shameless plug, but I talk about that in the book because in 2016, that's where I was at with it, you know. I'm six years in on 'The Breakfast Club.' I'm having more success than I ever imagined. I'm making more money than I ever imagined, like, you know, I put out my first book, 'Black Privilege,' it's an instant New York Times bestseller. Like we're moving, like things are great. Things are fantastic, but I'm not happy.