The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

I just started, how am I gonna say this? The subtle art of not giving a fuck-eek.

I'm very lucky that I'm reading a book right now that's kind of helping me, you know, prioritize and be centered around what's important.

And right now what's important is that my district feels like they have a voice here in Congress. But yeah, I'm reading Mark Mason's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

I'm very lucky that I'm reading a book right now that's kind of helping me, you know, prioritize and be centered around what's important.

And right now what's important is that my district feels like they have a voice here in Congress. But yeah, I'm reading Mark Mason's The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck.

The guy who wrote the subtle art of not giving a fuck.

The subtle art I'm not giving a fuck. Okay. And I'm in and I'm on page 44.

If you want a real life hack, the subtle art as it was said by that comedian guy who's not even a conservative by the way, the subtle art of not giving a fuck is a real thing.

How to be a bad bitch in the business world, sitting poolside, a subtle art of not giving a fuck.

It's co-written with Mark Manson, who's a subtle art of not giving a expletive.

If I see a book like The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, I'm going to read that book.

And then here comes The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Mark Manson, sold goddamn over two million copies.

You know, I'm the type of person if I see a book like The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, I'm going to read that book.

And then here comes The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Mark Manson, sold goddamn over two million copies.

And there's books out now, the Settle Art of Not Giving a Fuck and Girl, Wash Your Face. And these are all books that say don't mind what other people are saying.

I read 'Models' by Mark Manson, which is probably 10 years old now, so most people will know Mark for 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck', really great book, but he actually wrote a, I guess we call it kind of like ethical pick-up artist history, but toward the back end of the Neil Strauss era in 2013-14.

Mark Manson wrote a book on dating. That was his first ever book before he did the subtle art.

I'm never going to write a book that does more than the subtle art.

And some of the other greats, of course, Mark Manson did a marvelous job with, you know, subtle art...

I think it succeeded so insanely highly, I honestly felt like there was no, where do I go from here? ... I spent probably half a decade with that as like my map... And then all those things are achieved and literally three to six months after the book came out, I was just completely at a loss for about six months.

That was the smash hit best selling book that blew up, and it made me depressed because the velocity of the success was so drastic that I didn't know what to do next for about six months.

I use the example in Subtle Art of like, if somebody left a newborn baby on your doorstep, it's not your fault that there's a baby on your doorstep. But, but it sure, shit is your responsibility. Like you have to do something. Like you can't, you can't just shut the door and be like, not my baby.

And so it was with subtle art it was kind of I wanted to provide the right questions for a layperson you know somebody who's not going to go read each or somebody who's not going to study existentialism to ask the right questions that will kind of help them do the same thing.

One of my favorite ones that I did read would be the sub to art of not giving a fuck.

Mark Manson did that. He wrote the book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Now all of his personal branding, all of his socials, all of his YouTube, all of his Instagram is just more of that book over and over and over again.

Mark is the bestselling author of many books, including The Subtle Art of Not Giving an F, and was also on my show way back in episode number 65 during the early days of the pandemic.

I talked about this in my first book, Subtle Art. I said that if you think about the most important experiences of your life, probably three out of four of them were negative experiences.

I read a book, Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson. In it, he mentions the stoics.

So, I mean, the book is about 220 pages, and the first, you know, if you're going to turn a book into a movie, the first question is, okay, just to read this book out loud, it's probably about six hours to get through the whole thing. And we got to get that down to, like, 90 minutes, maybe 100 minutes at most. So we immediately have to cut out, like, 70% to 80% of this and figure out what are we going to keep.

In a movie, people need a person to sympathize with and to relate to. And so he was the one who was like, we need to put you front and center and make your story kind of the central focus of the film. Because in the book, it's like I use my own stories as a way to as examples for the concepts I'm talking about. Whereas in the movie, it's kind of the other way around.

And I think one of the reasons why people like the book so much is that it broke convention a lot. Like for decades, people, if you bought a selfhelp book, you kind of knew exactly what you were going to get. It was a lot of feelgood, fluffy, nice stories about success and happiness, and then three steps to achieve this. The book intentionally messed with people's expectations, was irreverent, funny, and mixed difficult stories with light ones.

When I was originally pitching Subtle Art to a bunch of different publishers back in 2015, I went to HarperCollins and met with my editor, Luke Dempsey. He put the manuscript on the table and said, I'm a cancer survivor. It's the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm going to publish your book. I don't care what it takes.

If you haven't read the book, I highly suggest watching the movie.

they got that yeah who was it who was sitting there reading the uh reading the book about the subtle art of not giving you katey porter the subtle art of not giving a fuck

I was actually talking with Mark Manson, author of "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" in his new book, "Everything is F*cked", of course, rolling with that theme.

and we're friends so I ask him all the time like hey how's the book with Will Smith going and stuff and he's like well I mean aside from the crippling anxiety and the fact that I'm working with somebody that has impossibly high standards and is like richer than all of my friends and family combined and like you know expects all this crazy stuff.

He invented putting that on the cover. I know what you're thinking like, go, one of those, no, this is he originated it. Everyone else followed suit because of the success of this book.

Like it's two-year-old horned. No one's going to judge you.

I mean, so it's at the time of this recording, I think it's around seven and a half million copies. That's bonkers.

And it's been number one in 13 countries. And it's just, it's like a once-a-decade type book.

Yeah, and so yeah, obviously everybody's like, dude, just do it again.

Like what makes the title good is subtle art, you know, because fuck is just such a bold like yeah, godly like ugly in your face word.

it's actually not good to ask for advice and then offer to give something in return the sort of if then relationship makes things transactional

if you found the show valuable for three years why haven't you reviewed it also I'm not gonna I don't really want that care because it cheapens the tree makes this a transactional situation

it's kind of like saying hey look if you do all this work for me I'll like you well wait a minute what hold on you know it doesn't it doesn't sit right

if you've got a give and you know it's acceptable just give the give like if you're like all reviewers show because I love it but help me with this one just give the give and don't expect anything in return

don't have the attachment if you want to say hey I reviewed the show I love it by the way I've got a couple questions about this it's still better than saying I'll do this if you do what I want you to do

It's a subtle art if not giving a fuck it doesn't mean you run around telling everybody that you don't give a fuck that that part that is the subtle part let it come out naturally.

one of the best selling authors of the decade with his previous book, The Settle Art of Not Giving in F.

He invented putting that on the cover. I know what you're thinking like, go, one of those, no, this is he originated it. Everyone else followed suit because of the success of this book.

Like it's two-year-old horned. No one's going to judge you.

You know, subtle art was so huge.

I mean, so it's at the time of this recording, I think it's around seven and a half million copies. That's bonkers.

And it's been number one in 13 countries.

And it's just, it's like a once-a-decade type book.

It's a subtle art if not giving a fuck it doesn't mean you run around telling everybody that you don't give a fuck that that part that is the subtle part let it come out naturally.

I was actually talking with Mark Manson, author of "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck", in his new book "Everything is F*cked", of course rolling with that theme...

and we're friends so I ask him all the time like hey how's the book with Will Smith going and stuff and he's like well I mean aside from the crippling anxiety and the fact that I'll I'm working with somebody that has impossibly high standards and is like richer than all of my friends and family combined and like you know expects all this crazy...

I'm like oh okay so it's not just like every day kicking it with Will Smith and like being being fun right he's like no not really I mean he's loving it right but not because of the wild thrill ride that is every amazing day of typing out this book...

He invented putting that on the cover. I know what you're thinking, like, 'Oh, one of those?' No, this is he originated it. Everyone else followed suit because of the success of this book.

subtle art was so huge. Like it's two-year-old horned. No one's going to judge you.

it's like a once-a-decade type book.

I'm not just going to cram fuck into it just to have fucking into it.

Like I'm not just going to try to keep beating the same horse.

I think it's deeper. It's it's more thoughtful. I think it's a better book.

what's that not not giving a fuckbook what's his name the subtle art of not giving a fuck mark he's great yeah well I think it people think about the last part of the title like not giving a fuck but like actually that the weight in that title is the subtle art because it's like there's some stuff you should give a fuck about and other stuff that you shouldn't care about at all it's really knowing the difference that is the whole thing or as he says where to put your fucks yes

The Settle Art of Not Giving The Fuck Was a freak an enormous success millions upon millions of copies sold so too was the sequel everything this fucked a book about hope

My friend Mark Manson, who wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, he has this rule, or he talks about, he says it should be 'hell yes' or no.

when mark manson put the subtle art of not giving a fuck then all books had to have blanked out curse words on the cover

Mark Manson's The Settle Art of Not Giving A Fuck

you know i've i've had mark manson on the podcast before you know the subtle art of not giving a fuck is not not caring about anything it's about finding the right things to care about and things not to care about so that sort of discernment is really essential to managing our emotions and our perceptions which is the theme in the journal this month

Well, funny because both our mutual friend Mark Manson and I use this story of Dave Mustaine in our I did an Ego's the Enemy and he did it in the Subtle Art.