On Purpose with Jay Shetty

I read an amazing book when I was like, I think I was like 16, 17 years old and I read a book called Predictably Irrational by Dan O'Reilly.

So for example, Dan O'Reilly, when I picked up his book, Predictably Irrational, the first thing before I picked up the book is I watched his talk and I loved his talk because I didn't know who he was and then I loved his book.

It is called Predictably Irrational by Dan O'Reilly. And the subtitle is The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions.

Why do our headaches persist after taking a cheap painkiller but disappear when we take a more expensive one? Why does recalling the 10 commandments reduce our tendency to lie even when we couldn't possibly be caught? And finally, why do we splurge on an expensive meal but cut out vouchers to save 25 pence on a tin of soup?

So this is all about a book all about how we make choices and decisions. And it's called Predictably Irrational because the author is suggesting that we make predictably irrational decisions consistently.

I probably read it around that time. I think I pretty much read it that year. And I'd read behavioral science before that. But I think this was a book that really got me hooked onto the genre because I really understood what it was about. And it just changed the game for me because I loved learning about why we do what we do, why we make predictably irrational decisions, and how we can train our mind to stop doing that.

So what's really happening behind the scenes is we think we're making a choice. But remember, you're choosing from the options presented and not only from the options presented, but the way they're presented. The way they're presented as well.

There's a chapter from his book, 12 Rules for Life. The chapter that best describes this teaching is rule two. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

He goes into detail about why people tend to take care of others and their pets more than themselves.

People are better at feeling and properly administering prescription medication to their pets than to themselves.

But with yourself, you just let it go.

The problem is we know so much more about ourselves than anyone else. We know the full range of our secret transgressions, our insufficiencies and inadequacies.

There's a chapter from his book, 12 Rules for Life. The chapter that best describes this teaching is rule two. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

People are better at feeling and properly administering prescription medication to their pets than to themselves.

The problem is we know so much more about ourselves than anyone else. We know the full range of our secret transgressions, our insufficiencies and inadequacies.

I truly recommend you go out and get the book,

There's a chapter from his book, 12 Rules for Life.

The chapter that best describes this teaching is rule two. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

People are better at feeling and properly administering prescription medication to their pets than to themselves.

When someone else has a health issue in your family or your friend group, you become a doctor, but with yourself, you just let it go.

The problem is we know so much more about ourselves than anyone else. We know the full range of our secret transgressions, our insufficiencies and inadequacies.

So the thing that I recently came across that is shocking is not going to be news to a lot of people. But have you read Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules for Life?

This is an activity that comes from the book When by Daniel Pink.

He's been on the podcast. You can listen to his episode as well. We talked about this book, and it's a book about the art of timing.

I'm going to put the answer to that in more of the mundane category. The reason for, the impetus for it was just frustration, more than anything else.

And so I said, well, there's got to be some guidance out there on, on like When we should do things.

And it turned out there was a huge amount of research on this question, but it was splattered all over the place.

It was in literally two dozen different domains.

And then more episodically, how beginnings affect us, how midpoints affect us, how endings affect us.

And actually I was really happy When I saw this in a brilliant book called When by Daniel Pink.

And he actually helps you figure out When you're most analytical, When you're most insightful, When you're best making an impression and When you're best to make a decision.

And actually I was really happy When I saw this in a brilliant book called When by Daniel Pink.

And he actually helps you figure out When you're most analytical, When you're most insightful, When you're best making an impression and When you're best to make a decision.

And in this book, he introduces a concept called decision fatigue.

In the book, Daniel Levitin gives an example about how Warren Buffett, when he's investing, he doesn't just sit there at his laptop and invest with all his distractions.

So the place I want to start here is a really, really powerful insight. And this came to me while reading the book, The Organized Mind by Daniel Levitin.

So the example that's given in that book, The Organized Mind by Daniel Levitan, is of Warren Buffett and how when he's investing in stocks, he'll simplify his life.

So the example that's given in that book, The Organized Mind by Daniel Levitan, is of Warren Buffett and how when he's investing in stocks, he'll simplify his life.

Ryan's books, like his new one, Discipline is Destiny, which is available right now. Number one New York Times bestsellers, multiple. Some of my favorite ones, The Obstacle is the Way, Ego is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic.

Marcus Aurelius, the story is Marcus Aurelius would walk through I guess the town and just have someone saying you're just a man when everyone was praising his name and kind of bowing to him and saying you're like this god right and it's having that accountability that you talked about.

Ryan is one of the world's foremost thinkers and writers on ancient philosophy and its place in everyday life. He's a sought-after speaker, strategist, and the author of many bestselling books and some of my favorites, including The Obstacle is the Way, Ego is the Enemy, and The Daily Stoic.

Kelly McGonigal in her book called The Upside of Stress talks about how we can deal with more stress when we experience purpose. We can deal with more stress when we have a clear intention.

There's a book called The Upside of Stress. And in it, the researcher talks about her name is Kelly McGonigal. And she talks about how when we feel purpose behind something, when we find meaning behind something, we can keep going and take on more stress and pressure than we ever have had in our lives.

I remember I was reading The Upside of Stress by Kelly McGonigal and she was talking about how actually when we're doing something meaningful, we can take on more stress and we can deal with more pain when we feel connected or mission or meaning.

Great book.

Great book.

And so today's guest is the author of my current favorite book, which is called The Culture Code.

His other books include The Talent Code, which I haven't read yet, which I'm very excited to read, The Little Book of Talent, The Secret Race, Lance Armstrong's War and Hardball, A Season in the Projects.

His new book is called The Culture Playbook, 60 Highly Effective Actions to Help Your Group Succeed.

I know I was talking about you everywhere. I literally was talking about you on my YouTube channel. I was talking about you on my Instagram.

Highly recommend you get The Culture Code and The Culture Playbook.

There's a great book called Culture Code by Daniel Coyle.

I'm giving you these comments because I have very high expectations, and I know that you can reach them.

Just 19 words. None of these words contain any information on how to improve, yet they are powerful because they deliver a burst of belonging cues.

Actually, when you look more closely at the sentence, it contains three separate cues, says Daniel Coyle. Number one, you are part of this group. Number two, this group is special. We have high standards here. Number three, I believe you can reach those standards.

I think it's The End of Mental Illness.

Essentially, the idea that the brain is the part of the body that like if you broke your arm, they would take an X-ray of your arm before they did anything to try and make it better.

But if you go to a doctor and you're struggling with mental illness or emotional issues, they don't look at your brain.

They just start prescribing things. And I'm a huge proponent of taking the medicine that you need and getting the help that you need.

Having your book, The End of Mental Illness, where I argue, you know, I've been a psychiatrist almost 40 years and I've always hated the term mental illness because it shames people.

And very few psychiatrists, psychologists ever talk about brain health. You need to eat right. You need to exercise. You need to take your supplements, because if the hardware of your soul, your brain is not right, it won't run the software program.

But Tana, you obviously just recently or about to release this incredible book called The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child. And I haven't had an opportunity to sit with the book yet. And I'm excited.

I would encourage everyone to go and get a copy of The End of Mental Illness to get that beginning journey of where to start in any of Dr. Amon's work.

And in The End of Mental Illness, I have a writing device where I just imagined if I was an evil ruler and I wanted to create mental illness around the world, what would I do?

And I'm so happy to have him on today's show and talk about his new book, The End of Mental Illness.

And of course, I highly, highly recommend you go and grab a copy of the book.

It's almost like that moment where Eckhart Tolle has on the bench in the beginning of The Power of Now, where I have this profound experience where I think, wait a minute, is this what happiness is?

But as this past year and past couple years have been happening, I got into The Power of Now book and just sort of just the whole ideology around just being present and started reading more into that whole theory.

For anyone who's listening, if you've not read that book, it's a brilliant book as well.

In Flow, the Psychology of Optimal Experience, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi writes, our current research with talented teenagers shows that many fail to develop their skills not because they have cognitive deficits, but because they cannot stand being alone.

I connected to a beautiful book called Flow.

Flow talks about how to experience a state of Flow, which musicians experience, which artists experience, which singers experience is when your challenge meets your skills.

And for anyone who doesn't know, Flow, the way it's defined in that book is where your skills meet your challenge.

I saw like a YouTube video. That was like enough for me. I should read the book though.

Like when I read it and you share the stories of so many of your friends, CEOs of large companies all over the world who prioritize sleep.

I even wrote a book, The Sleep Revolution, with all the latest science about why it is so essential because sleep is not optional. It's an incredibly active time for the brain. It's the only time when the brain can clean up all the accumulated toxins from the day.

I even wrote a book, The Sleep Revolution, with all the latest science about why it is so essential because sleep is not optional.

find a place inside where there's joy and the joy will burn out the pain.

My son in 2014 gave me a book, Joseph Campbell, and it was called Hero of a Thousand Faces.

My son in 2014 gave me a book, Joseph Campbell, and it was called Hero of a Thousand Faces.

And that's why I always say, I'm not afraid to say fuck my dreams. And in my first book, Black Privilege, you know, I have a chapter called Fuck Your Dreams.

And that's why I always say, I'm not afraid to say fuck my dreams. And in my first book, Black Privilege, you know, I have a chapter called Fuck Your Dreams.

Ryan's books, like his new one, Discipline is Destiny, which is available right now. Number one New York Times bestsellers, multiple. Some of my favorite ones, The Obstacle Is the Way, Ego is the Enemy, The Daily Stoic.

The Obstacle Is the Way came out just to just sort of illustrate this idea that nobody knows anything.

I had the idea for The Obstacle Is the Way and the publisher said that idea is half as good as your last idea.

It didn't hit the bestseller list, the wiki came out, it sold like maybe 30,000 copies in the first six months, maybe 60,000 in the first year, um, did not hit a bestseller list for the first five years of its existence.

And then ultimately has gone on to sell, you know, uh, about a million and a half copies.

And that's what The Obstacle Is the Way is really about.

Ryan is one of the world's foremost thinkers and writers on ancient philosophy and its place in everyday life. He's a sought-after speaker, strategist, and the author of many bestselling books and some of my favorites, including The Obstacle Is the Way, Ego is the Enemy, and The Daily Stoic.