The Jordan Harbinger Show

when I wrote my book don't be at yourself. The whole premise of that was going to ego is a really powerful thing.

it's a short book and you know the last thing in the world that a new entrepreneur wants to do is buy themselves a job so you make 80 grand a year now as a technical guy somewhere so now you open up your own tech company you're working 10 hours more per day right you got the burden of taxes and and now you're making 60 grand yeah if you're lucky so you bought yourself a job you know you had the same income without the liability before so that's what entrepreneurs really need to and and Emeth really it categorizes people into these buckets really well and I think it helps people identify if in fact they fit that entrepreneurial model or not

when I wrote my book don't be at yourself. The whole premise of that was going to ego is a really powerful thing.

I always say this you'll smile that you ever notice the guy with the biggest ego has the thinnest wallet.

when I wrote my book don't be at yourself. The whole premise of that was going to ego is a really powerful thing.

it's the ultimate betrayal to yourself is when you do that stuff because if you're not honest with yourself then how do you ever move your life in a positive direction because you're starting from a point of fantasy.

the book is about is about how do you have good communication develop these skills where your present folks with your loved ones to have a really strong relationship so that when it gets tested you're in the best position to be successful

how do you stay focused on work say you can build up a business or work hard say you become such good employee that your work will be supportive if something happens to you and then finally how can you improve your fitness to a point where if you can't work out for months you're still okay

I also think that through that we recognize the importance of family right that the family support allowing my wife and I to go out for day nights during that time and like family becomes even more and more important to me and I think that anybody who doesn't at least worked try and create a relationship with their family should maybe try a little bit more because you never know those are the people that are going to have your back when it happens

and then finally I think the biggest thing that it taught us was that the world has a lot of different challenges for a lot of different people and I think at the time we think that whatever is happening in our days like the biggest problem in the world but I think we need to have a little bit more perspective that there's a lot of people going through much worse and we need to be grateful for what we have in focus on the positive things and not just the negative

I mean like I mentioned the book like the first night that it was diagnosed you know Ashley just said hey look you go tell the family this was going on but from this day forward like when people walk into the room it's gonna be nothing of positivity because we believe that positivity breaded positivity and we wanted that surrounding her

And so I think that was one big takeaway from being in the hospital so much is that we had done a good job of developing this set when this news did come we able to focus on one thing and one thing only which was getting her better.

How do you stay focused on work say you can build up a business or work hard say you become such good employee that your work will be supportive if something happens to you and then finally how can you improve your fitness to a point where if you can't work out for months you're still okay.

I also think that through that we recognize the importance of family right that the family support allowing my wife and I to go out for day nights during that time and like family becomes even more and more important to me and I think that anybody who doesn't at least worked try and create a relationship with their family should maybe try a little bit more because you never know those are the people that are going to have your back when it happens.

And then finally I think the biggest thing that it taught us was that the world has a lot of different challenges for a lot of different people and I think at the time we think that whatever is happening in our days like the biggest problem in the world but I think we need to have a little bit more perspective that there's a lot of people going through much worse and we need to be grateful for what we have in focus on the positive things and not just the negative.

is about how do you have good communication develop these skills where your present folks with your loved ones to have a really strong relationship so that when it gets tested you're in the best position to be successful.

I also think that through that we recognize the importance of family right that the family support allowing my wife and I to go out for day nights during that time and like family becomes even more and more important to me and I think that anybody who doesn't at least worked try and create a relationship with their family should maybe try a little bit more because you never know those are the people that are going to have your back when it happens

how do you stay focused on work say you can build up a business or work hard say you become such good employee that your work will be supportive if something happens to you and then finally how can you improve your fitness to a point where if you can't work out for months you're still okay and so I think that was one big takeaway from being in the hospital so much is that we had done a good job of developing this set when this news did come we able to focus on one thing and one thing only which was getting her better

I think the really the biggest takeaway there was a few takeaways from the whole so she went through treatment for two and a half years we spent months in hospital I see you name it right I think the major takeaways are because summarized like these two and a half years and like a few things is like is that you should do everything in your power today to build a hedge financially emotionally and physically so if something does take you out of your loop you're best prepared to attack it and that's what the book is about is about how do you have good communication develop these skills where your present folks with your loved ones to have a really strong relationship so that when it gets tested you're in the best position to be successful

If you want something bad enough you can control the direction of your life with decisions focus on the very next decision

I think that your words that to be backed up by action I'm a huge believer in this like if I want to do something like I'm just going to go out there and do it like we're sitting in this room I really want to put foam on the ceiling I just ordered it and did it like because I just think the problem with it is is that oftentimes you get caught in this trap there's always another thing you want to try and do but you never actually start anything and so for me when I was coming out of college I was looking at the business like if I wanted to do something I need to tell myself to go out there and do it

quick questions you wouldn't have you ever read the book it's very recent Disrupted by Dan Lions i don't think so no okay hysterical so this guy used to work at newsweek he's like a 50 something old school old media guy so kind of more relevant to our last question but he got fired from newsweek because of course it's a magazine they're laying everybody off and what did he do he went and he worked for hub spot out of Boston so this new up and coming cool hip-young company and he talks that whole book is about his journey through that so let me just tell you from reading that book and now his next book on the topic as well as super interesting he just came out with the second one people are miserable there too they're miserable at hub spot there are mean horrible people there at this up and coming internet company and there are mean horrible people corporate America

you wouldn't have you ever read the book, it's very recent, Disrupted by Dan Lyons?

he talks that whole book is about his journey through that, so let me just tell you from reading that book and now his next book on the topic as well, is super interesting.

people are miserable there too, they're miserable at HubSpot, there are mean horrible people there at this up and coming internet company and there are mean horrible people in corporate America

quick questions you wouldn't have you ever read the book it's very recent Disrupted by Dan Lions i don't think so no okay hysterical so this guy used to work at newsweek he's like a 50 something old school old media guy so kind of more relevant to our last question but he got fired from newsweek because of course it's a magazine they're laying everybody off and what did he do he went and he worked for hub spot out of Boston so this new up and coming cool hip-young company and he talks that whole book is about his journey through that so let me just tell you from reading that book and now his next book on the topic as well as super interesting he just came out with the second one people are miserable there too they're miserable at hub spot there are mean horrible people there at this up and coming internet company and there are mean horrible people corporate America

In Global Dexterity you provide this six-dimensional approach that helps people essentially diagnose cultural differences in challenging situations.

There's so much more in the book Global Dexterity how to adapt your behavior across cultures without losing yourself in the process.

And I find that that this this six dimensions really captures the core differences between cultures.

So the dimensions are directness enthusiasm formality assertiveness self-promotion and personal expressiveness.

I've actually for my book Global Dexterity, I interviewed an American who went to Germany and he became a manager there and he had to start adopting the German way and he felt awful doing it.

There's so much more in the book Global Dexterity how to adapt your behavior across cultures without losing yourself in the process

I had a actually for my book Global Dexterity. I interviewed an American who went to Germany

So the dimensions are directness enthusiasm formality assertiveness self-promotion and personal expressiveness

There's so much more in the book Global Dexterity how to adapt your behavior across cultures without losing yourself in the process.

In Global Dexterity you provide this six-dimensional approach that helps people essentially diagnose cultural differences in challenging situations.

I had a actually for my book Global Dexterity. I interviewed an American who went to Germany and he became a manager there and he had to start adopting the German way and he felt awful doing it.

She's the author of Market Mind Games and frankly this book is the Rosetta Stone of trading psychology.

And as a former trader and trading desk manager I'm wondering how did you then go alright I'm trading oh let's start to apply neuro economics and psychology to my work at this trading desk it seems like a very random connection unless you've been watching billions in the first place which is based on your work so how did this even happen.

the worst decision you make is always from acting out some feeling you don't know you have.

the worst decision you make is always from acting out some feeling you usually don't know you have.

the book title is Market Mind Games

She's the author of Market Mind Games and frankly this book is the Rosetta Stone of trading psychology.

The worst decision you make is always from acting out some feeling you usually don't know you have.

The worst decision you make is always from acting out some feeling you usually don't know you have.

...the worst 5% of our decisions last year what would our bottom line look like...

...Market Mind Games...

Denise Schull...She's the author of Market Mind Games and frankly this book is the Rosetta Stone of trading psychology.

She also was the inspiration for Wendy, the character Wendy, the performance psychologist that is in the show Billions...

and today we'll discover why understanding what we feel and why we feel it...is the source of power to create change and transform...

...and has created mental models and strategies for solving otherwise unsolvable mental blocks...

...the worst decision you make is always from acting out some feeling you usually don't know you have.

You've got the kids book. You've got the field manual. You've got the other kids book coming out in a couple of months.

At the book I read was way of the war, your kid, which is a, which is a kids book.

But the lessons that what's great about that book is that the lessons they're written so that a eight year old can understand them.

And if an eight year old can understand them, then every adult that reads it and believe me, adult tell me this all the time. It's, it's a great book for anyone to read because the lessons from Uncle Jake in the book are so simple and so clear and they make so much sense that it's hard to deny that it's a good way to go about living.

You've got the kids book. You've got the field manual. You've got the other kids book coming out in a couple of months.

At the book I read was way of the war, your kid, which is a, which is a kids book.

But the lessons that what's great about that book is that the lessons they're written so that a eight year old can understand them.

And if an eight year old can understand them, then every adult that reads it and believe me, adult tell me this all the time. It's, it's a great book for anyone to read because the lessons from Uncle Jake in the book are so simple and so clear and they make so much sense that it's hard to deny that it's a good way to go about living.

And I'll tell you why I got this letter that said, hey, I was, you know, 38 years old and I was drinking all the time and I was out of shape and I was doing bad at work. And basically my life was not going well.

He goes, then I read your book and he said, and I started waking up and I started doing this and I started working out and I stopped drinking every night.

And then I started eating healthier foods and I started paying attention to work.

At the book I read was way of the war, your kid, which is a, which is a kids book.

But the lessons that what's great about that book is that the lessons they're written so that a eight year old can understand them.

His upcoming Marc's Mission: Way of the Warrior Kid (A Novel) will be out soon.

And I got another book, another kids book coming out called Mark's Mission.

It's you can pre-order it right now.

His upcoming Marc's Mission: Way of the Warrior Kid (A Novel) will be out soon.

And I got another book, another kids book coming out called Mark's Mission.

It's you can pre-order it right now.

But more challenges for so the kid in the book, you know, he can't do any pull-ups. He doesn't know his time, he's tables. He doesn't know how to swim and he's getting bullied at school.

And he's all bummed out last day of school, goes home crying. And he remembers that his uncle Jake is coming into town. His uncle Jake was a seal and his uncle Jake when he finds out about all these problems that young Mark is having. He says these aren't problems we can get him solved.

You've got the kids book. You've got the field manual. You've got the other kids book coming out in a couple of months.

And I got another book, another kids book coming out called Mark's Mission.

It's you can pre-order it right now.

But more challenges for so the kid in the book, you know, he can't do any pull-ups. He doesn't know his time, he's tables. He doesn't know how to swim and he's getting bullied at school.

And he's all bummed out last day of school, goes home crying.

My favorite three books is The Richest Man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

My favorite three books is The Richest Man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

My favorite three books is The Richest Man in Babylon by George Clancy, thinking go rich by Napoleon Hill and as a man think by James Allen.

Molly's Game: The True Story of the 26-Year-Old Woman Behind the Most Exclusive, High-Stakes Underground Poker Game in the World

the name Molly's Game ended up not only being the code name of these high stakes tables, but also the title of her best-selling book and a feature film by Aaron Sorkin.

I really appreciated that about the book because I could tell that it wasn't fictionalized that at least not that much you anonymized people and things like that but the idea that you would walk into a store and have that sort of pretty woman experience where they're like ugh what do you want because you're like visibly more too poor to shop there I was like how I know that feeling

I'm a convicted felon I'm millions of dollars in debt my reputation is destroyed you know like I need a massive rebranding campaign

I'm gonna get Harper Collins to publish this book and I'm gonna get Aaron Sorkin to write a movie

Molly's Game ended up not only being the code name of these high stakes tables, but also the title of her best-selling book and a feature film by Aaron Sorkin.

I really appreciated that about the book because I could tell that it wasn't fictionalized that at least not that much you anonymized people and things like that but the idea that you would walk into a store and have that sort of pretty woman experience where they're like ugh what do you want because you're like visibly more too poor to shop there I was like how I know that feeling.

I can't remember if I read this in the book or if it's just something I noticed but you were able to sort of disarm other women by taking the lead and showcasing humility or vulnerability in a very strategic way.

you're well practiced with this and I love the insight into the psychology of how this all worked and then of course later didn't work but at least how you ran this I think is fascinating because we're all about the practicals here and it's great that you can take kind of a no pun intended sober look at this past and go here's what I did right and here's what I did wrong.

the book title is Molly's Game I told you this was a crazy story I thought that she did a great job super smart obviously really candid and not trying to front that's what I appreciate about Molly Bloom especially just she could easily sugarcoat this whole thing.

Molly's Game ended up not only being the code name of these high stakes tables, but also the title of her best-selling book and a feature film by Aaron Sorkin.

I really appreciated that about the book because I could tell that it wasn't fictionalized that at least not that much you anonymized people and things like that...

I can't remember if I read this in the book or if it's just something I noticed but you were able to sort of disarm other women by taking the lead and showcasing humility or vulnerability in a very strategic way...

you're 27 you're running two million dollar tables at the most exclusive hotels in Los Angeles...

you're great storyteller of course you're well practiced with this and I love the insight into the psychology of how this all worked and then of course later didn't work but at least how you ran this I think is fascinating...

check out Sam Harris's book Unlying I think it's actually called lying it changed the way that I look at untruths white lies and now I look at truth and untruth in a totally different way I look at lying like self-defense in a way that you would use physical self-defense so there's a lot in that book that I thought was really good and it's a quick read we'll link it in the show notes

check out Sam Harris's book Unlying I think it's actually called lying it changed the way that I look at untruths white lies and now I look at truth and untruth in a totally different way I look at lying like self-defense in a way that you would use physical self-defense so there's a lot in that book that I thought was really good and it's a quick read we'll link it in the show notes

check out Sam Harris's book Unlying I think it's actually called lying it changed the way that I look at untruths white lies and now I look at truth and untruth in a totally different way I look at lying like self-defense in a way that you would use physical self-defense so there's a lot in that book that I thought was really good and it's a quick read we'll link it in the show notes

The question posed by the book is are you a manager or a movement starter?

And there's many stories and Purposeful that give that example

There's a whole section in the book about making it easy to say yes and kind of the combination of data and storytelling and understanding the people that matter to that person are all key.

And there's a great story in the book about a woman named Mary Lou Jepsen who...

The book title is Purposeful. Are you a manager or a movement starter?

The question posed by the book is are you a manager or a movement starter?

And there's many stories and Purposeful that give that example

So there's a chapter in Purposeful called lead your crew and it breaks down into these three categories

The book title is Purposeful. Are you a manager or a movement starter?

I've got the book, I read the whole thing, I went through the workbook that doesn't exist yet and Jordan's worksheets we don't exist yet.

The question posed by the book is are you a manager or a movement starter?

Managers are people who do the best with what they're given, they say you know we're doing everything we can and movement starters are the ones that push beyond the status quo who say there must be more that we can do.

There's many stories and Purposeful that give that example.

One of my favorite examples which is also in Purposeful is a woman named Luanne Calvert who was the CMO at Virgin America when it was still a brand.

The book title is Purposeful. Are you a manager or a movement starter?

If you haven't had time read my book con body is well by Amazon.

If you haven't had time read my book con body is well by Amazon.

If you haven't had time read my book con body is well by Amazon.

He is the author of the number one best-selling book on behavior and influence The Ellipsis Manual.

The Ellipsis Manual will be linked up in the show notes as well as your website ellipsisbehavior.com

The Ellipsis Manual one of the books that you just have to have on your bookshelf

He is the author of the number one best-selling book on behavior and influence The Ellipsis Manual.

The Ellipsis Manual will be linked up in the show notes as well as your website ellipsisbehavior.com

The Ellipsis Manual one of the books that you just have to have on your bookshelf

He is the author of the number one best-selling book on behavior and influence The Ellipsis Manual.

The Ellipsis Manual will be linked up in the show notes as well as your website ellipsisbehavior.com

The Ellipsis Manual one of the books that you just have to have on your bookshelf

he mentioned that some of his charts and things that are in the book have been printed out blown up huge and are on the wall at like FBI headquarters and stuff like that because it's just the stuff works

If you're looking to learn from someone who actually knows what they're doing with Side Hustles, I recommend Chris Gullabo, a friend of mine, super sharp guy.

If you're looking to learn from someone who actually knows what they're doing with Side Hustles, I recommend Chris Gullabo, a friend of mine, super sharp guy.

If you're looking to learn from someone who actually knows what they're doing with Side Hustles, I recommend Chris Gullabo, a friend of mine, super sharp guy.

Chris is a very successful entrepreneur and author of niche down as well as Play Bigger both our worthwhile read if you're in business, especially if you're running a small business or you're in business for yourself.

Publisher any agent do no marketing for you all the marketing is on you Harper Collins published my first book and we did all the marketing so to think that your agent or your publisher is going to market your book is a fantasy now what they do do is.

Chris is a very successful entrepreneur and author of niche down as well as Play Bigger both our worthwhile read if you're in business, especially if you're running a small business or you're in business for yourself.

from my first book Play Bigger Harper Collins published in the US but we have different publishers in the UK and in Japan and China except.

The Art of Tough is her book fearlessly facing politics and life

when I sat down to write the book you know your memoirs which by the way I hope everyone will do it doesn't matter how old you are you have a story to tell and you have many stories to tell

which is called The Art of Tough

when I was researching you and prepping for the show was you you do recall your mother's advice all the time

The Art of Tough fearlessly facing politics and life

when I sat down to write the book you know your memoirs which by the way I hope everyone will do it doesn't matter how old you are you have a story to tell and you have many stories to tell you know I realized that of course given my age I had lived through so many unbelievable times you know the World War II the Holocaust the 50s the fight for equal rights by African Americans then for women the environment and on and on and all those things which are baked into my my worldview and how I saw I saw life and I always had this sense of outrage inside me

it was interesting that you probe that because I always said if I lose that I'm just going to stop doing you know my work which I'm still doing by the way even though I'm not in the Senate I still have the outrage I I pour it out on my podcast and my guests help me deal with it

I got up to give somebody a seat in the bus in Florida in Miami in 1950 and the somebody happened to be African American woman and she gave me a look as if what are you doing getting me a trouble and she marched the back and my mother again not educated just had the best heart in the world and the best values she said honey don't offer her your seat I said well why not you always taught me when I saw someone older so she must have been you know 50 and I was 10 she said this is Florida and this is the south and there's segregation what what does that mean well that they say black people have to go to the back of the bus and I was so upset and she said do you want to go to the back of the bus I said yes and so we did and we stood and my mother rubbed my neck which is what she did when she saw it was concerned and I looked at the woman and she kind of looked away and look that's how you learn your values and how proud I was in later years when I sat down to write the book about my mother who really took a chance in a way because you know my father was the educated one she had worked so that he could go to college and then he went to law school but she had the values you know

I think I discussed it in my book how if you look at Abe Lincoln if you look at Richard Nixon if you look at all the men who went to very high levels they lost maybe twice three times four times and it didn't impact their confidence in being able to try again but that women took it personally and the reason I mention it is you know when you do these podcasts like you do when you give people thoughts and ideas about how to incorporate these ideas in their lives you make a difference

I saw what they did to black people on the bus and to Jackie Robinson I saw what they did to me a woman all I wanted to do was help the company get customers right yeah so you know when you see all that you know when you see the oil spills that happen in the dead birds when you see you know kids being mistreated all of that adds up to passion I would hope in most of us and to me it led me then to pivot

She's also the host of fight back with Barbara and the cold boxer on podcast one I gotta give her credit she's done a whole heck of a lot in her time Jason The Art of Tough is her book fearlessly facing politics and life and so long career and government

And all those things which are baked into my my worldview and how I saw I saw life and I always had this sense of outrage inside me

it was interesting that you probe that because I always said if I lose that I'm just going to stop doing you know my work

which I'm still doing by the way even though I'm not in the Senate I still have the outrage I I pour it out on my podcast and my guests help me deal with it

I got up to give somebody a seat in the bus in Florida in Miami in 1950 and the somebody happened to be African American woman and she gave me a look as if what are you doing getting me a trouble and she marched the back

another one is called when men battle women which is by Jacob Sin and Gottman Neil Jacobson and John Gottman

another one is called when men battle women which is by Jacob Sin and Gottman Neil Jacobson and John Gottman

Another one is called When Men Batter Women which is by Jacob Sin and Gottman Neil Jacobson and John Gottman