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And so this comes from some work that my colleague Eli Finkel who wrote a book The Aller-Nothing Marriage has done.

I want to start with a children's book archa bald's morning always started off the way it would end in an egg.

It's called archa bald's next big thing archa bald woke up deeply frustrated that he hadn't figured out his next big thing.

the book tells a story of archa bald a cartoon chicken who's desperately trying to find what he refers to as his next big thing I've got to find my next big thing often missing out on exciting moments that were right there if he just took a moment to notice a dinosaur riding a roller coaster is pretty big so what you're searching for must be huge it is said archa bald I know it.

the book ends with archa bald realizing that big things are sometimes right in front of our noses or our beaks as it were.

the author of archa bald's next big thing knows this lesson all too well he wrote the book for his daughter to help her learn what he'd gotten wrong so often before that if you only concentrate on the next big thing you'll miss the chance to be happy right now.

His new book which he co-authored with Mark Scholes is called The Good Life.

You've just written a book about the findings and how we can apply them to our own lives.

I would love to encourage people to buy the book because we put our hearts and soul into what I wrote it with my colleague and friend Mark Schultz it's called The Good Life it's just been published

my grandfather gave me a book in the 90s I think called adaptation to life which was a sort of based on their findings of this study.

Barbara Fredrickson, great researcher, came on the show. She wrote a book called Love 2.0 and she talked about many things but one of her big points I'm going to probably get this term wrong but it's something like the importance of the micro interactions we have throughout the day

Born to Be Good and we did interview around Born to Be Good we'll post a link to that previous interview with Dacker in the show notes

He's also the author of The Cure for Money Madness.

His book is being re-released this month, with a slightly new title Living Kindness: Metta Practice for the Whole of Our Lives.

So my book Living Kindness kind of goes through this is what was the Buddha really talking about and are we getting it right and in what ways are we getting it?

So yeah the book I've been talking about is Living Kindness who does teachings for a troubled world

Our conversation really is going to center around a book that Kevin wrote called Living Kindness, Buddhist Teachings for a Troubled World.

I recently read a book, I wish I could get the title, I'll get it back to you. I think it's called the unforgivable or the unforgivet and it was someone who worked with people who were incarcerated for committing murders and some of the most terrible things.

I'll let him explain that. Before we dive in here two notes, this is actually the first episode of a two-part series we're doing this week right here on forgiveness.

It's possible to live with a free spirit and I think about Victor Frankel, the author of man search for meeting and this great existential philosopher and writer who said we who live through the concentration camps as he did can remember those who walk through the huts comforting others and giving away their last piece of bread.

She's also the author of The Blind Spot Effect, How to Stop Missing What Is Right In Front Of You.

What Kelly means by The Blind Spot Effect

What do you mean by that term and how does it relate to everything we've been talking about today?

I think of the term as kind of the impact of these unconscious impulses that we have that are related to core beliefs that we're holding or attendant emotions that are driving us unconsciously and that make kind of messes in our lives where we're kind of living out these patterns that we don't even consciously see other people around us can see or maybe we see some of the effect but we don't quite know the core.

We wrote a book together called Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics.

Coshan is now the author of a new book called Untangled which centers on a classic Buddhist list called the Eightfold Path.

To put it in lay terms, the Eightfold Path is the Buddha's recipe for enlightenment in eight steps or as Coshan puts it, it's the most awesome combo platter.

The new book is called Untangled walking the eightfold path to clarity courage and compassion

we got to talk to the author of a book called How to Hold a Grudge that Sophie Hannah

There is kind of a like deliciousness in holding a grudge like a sword in your lap that you just sharpen you know aimlessly but usually they don't really feel good it's like the swords in our lap not in somebody else's lap so every once in a while you just you trying to just postures and you nick your leg which is a brutal description.

She's also the author of Get It Done, surprising lessons from the science of motivation.

In your book you say the first step is to choose your goals which may sound obvious but actually choosing goals is not uncomplicated.

A fun fact is that as I was exchanging potential covers for my book with my editor one of the suggestions was it to do list and I was telling her well, that would be a terrible thing to put on the cover of my book giving that I never recommend that people will have it to do list.

Absolutely by book is Get It Done and the full title is Get It Done Surprising lessons from the Science of Motivation.

Together Tokni Rinpoche and Danny Goldman have just produced a book called Why We Meditate which will be out in a few weeks and is currently available for pre-order.

Yes, at the beginning of my tour to US I give a lot of teaching to cognitive based understanding and I thought it went very well.