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and You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent.

My current book is called You Are Not a Shitty Preparent, How to Practice Self-compassion and Give Yourself A Break...

I've been really influenced by a guy who I'm sure you've heard of Ethan Cross who wrote a book called Chatter...

Her new book, A More Just Future, basically encourages us to do the whole Good-ish thing for America.

Yeah, well, I really love my country and in this book it is a love letter to a country I love that sometimes I don't like everything in.

Yes this really builds off of work by Isabelle Wilkerson in her book Cast where she offers the metaphor of an old house you know when we move into a house and if we own that house we accept that there's going to be stuff that's going to happen there's going to be some unexpected leak in the basement and we are going to be the ones that are going to have to deal with the leak in the basement not because we caused the leak in the basement but because we now own the house

The key idea there is anti-fragility.

And I believe it's because we vastly overprotected them to pride them of normal adversity while at the same time, putting them on social media or giving them phones that they then beginning around 2012, they all got on social media and boom within a year, the girls, the rate of depression is up 50% within a year or well, two years, 2012 to 2014, 2015.

I love you know Robin Wal-Kimmer wrote this brilliant book Braiding Sweetgrass that like everybody should read everybody does read it and everybody should read it and there's a huge section in there in this chapter that I think is called learning grammar of animacy I think it's what it's called

You know, I had written this other book called The Nature Fix which is about how being outside makes us happier and healthier and more creative.

Her book is called Platonic.

wanted to write Platonic because I felt like it was vital for people within an outside of romantic relationships to level this hierarchy that we place on love.

The book I've been checking out lately is called Devil Makes Three, it's by Ben Fountain.

I just wanted to make it a lot more complicated than we seem to make it out to beat like positive vibes only join a meetup group because I just think that that's just like not real it's like we're humans we're scared we've had baggage we've been betrayed we've you know we're nothing threatens us more than other humans and yet we need them how difficult of a dilemma are we in all of the time and I just like really wanted to acknowledge all of that complexities and find ways just like like what you shared just like acknowledging positive moments where we can change our relationship with our body in order to make friends and make connections

The book is called Platonic how the science of attachment can help you make and keep friends

I have another book called set boundaries fine piece and I have a workbook called The Set Boundaries Workbook and on my website I have some free resources for people to check out I have some quizzes around boundaries and relationships and dysfunctional families

It's extraordinarily well written and it takes you into Haiti in the 1990s. And obviously the narrative has a lot of extra punch right now given what's happening on the ground in Haiti as we speak. Highly recommend this book, Ben Fountain, this incredible writer.

a little bit more about my issue before we get started here she's the author of a book called This Is Supposed to Be Fun how to find joy and hooking up settling down and everything in between.

my book This Is Supposed to Be Fun how to find joy in hooking up settling down and everything in between is now available where most books are sold and maybe buy it from your local mom and pop bookstore just little plug for local booksellers out there that have it

She's written seven books, including her latest, which is called Listening in the Dark: Women Reclaiming the Power of Intuition.

The last one that was really written was decades ago was women who run with wolves which is a phenomenal book and any of the other books I had read about intuition were written by men and they were in specific genres like self-help or psychology.

This book is called Listening in the Dark women reclaiming the power of intuition and it is an anthology with incredible writers activists doctors teachers politicians women across industries who talk about their relationship to their gut trusting it or otherwise distrusting it distrusting the self and really harnessing it and using it as a tool to go through our lives and to make decisions by and seeing it as a very important part of our intelligence to be utilized in our everyday lives.

I wrote this poem for Brittany which was originally called about the body and then it ended up in a book called Dark Sparkler which looks at the lives and deaths of child star actresses it came out in 2015 it took me about seven years to write and it absolutely was an exorcism of everything I had been through in Hollywood.

some other books I really love are Catherine May's Wintering I quoted that a little bit in this book which I think is just such a brilliant it's also I love reading it around this time of year towards the winter because I believe the solstice is really important and we have to honor it our two solstices we have and it's a time to get quiet it's a time to respect the darkness to not be afraid of it.

We wrote a book together called Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics.

He and I co-wrote a book called Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics.

I just reread Ursula against the dispossessed which is a brilliant book about different utopian society and how it relates to a capital society in the future and so it's a way of reflecting on your current time that is to me very just a very exciting genre I've always loved it

She wrote a massive best-selling book about that experience called My Stroke of Insight

which she has now followed up with a book called Whole Brain Living, where she lays out exactly how to understand your brain and how to work with it.

That's why, to me this book is so important on Whole Brain Living.

yeah my plug is a Whole Brain Living the anatomy of choice and the four characters that drive our life and if you let it it absolutely will change the way you look at the world