We Can Do Hard Things

Nedra Glover-Tawwab is the author of the New York times bestsellers, drama free and set boundaries find peace.

Go pick up Nedra's books, Set Boundaries, Find Peace and Drama Free.

I loved your book, Nedra. And I was fascinated to know that so many of the things that so many of us are struggling with are in fact symptomatic of not being healthy boundaries.

Her name is Katherine May and she is the New York Times bestselling author of Enchantment, Awakening Wonder in an Anxious Age and Wintering, The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times, which has been translated into 25 languages around the world.

Her name is Katherine May and she is the New York Times bestselling author of Enchantment, Awakening Wonder in an Anxious Age and Wintering, The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times, which has been translated into 25 languages around the world.

Her name is Katherine May and she is the New York Times bestselling author of Enchantment, Awakening Wonder in an Anxious Age and Wintering, The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times, which has been translated into 25 languages around the world.

Her name is Katherine May and she is the New York Times bestselling author of Enchantment, Awakening Wonder in an Anxious Age and Wintering, The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times, which has been translated into 25 languages around the world.

Oh yeah. Yeah. In reverse. Yeah. It's interesting because I, I don't know, I understand you backwards.

But yeah, there's a bit in electricity that I write about being 14 and at a party.

I remember reading about it in The Electricity of Every Living Thing and it was like an imprint in this thing.

And I can't imagine a more offensive or other in question to ask anybody and to hear a whole hour of me speaking, and then to wonder if I was capable of something that our society values above all else is a good thing.

Oh yeah. Yeah. In reverse. Yeah. It's interesting because I, I don't know, I understand you backwards.

She ended up going to this event, which was a book club for Ta-Nehisi Coates book.

She ended up going to this event, which was a book club for Ta-Nehisi Coates book.

Besides How to Raise an Adult, which we've been reading for three years.

You would think that the show is sponsored by How to Raise an Adult because I've been reading it for six months because it's like 300 pages long and that's how long it takes me to read that month.

And she talks a lot about helicopter parenting.

Strayed is also the author of the critically acclaimed novel Torch

I'm just about to publish Forward the memoir that I wrote soon after I retired

They did not want you to include any of what you call your shadow side, which was really just all the real stuff in the book because they thought that would tarnish your Captain America reputation.

But the first thing you said to me was, you probably know what's going on because you had just gotten the DUI.

It's a seemingly normal event I have to go do. I'm just about to publish Forward the memoir that I wrote soon after I retired and I'm traveling with a manager kind of person.

They did not want you to include any of what you call your shadow side, which was really just all the real stuff in the book because they thought that would tarnish your Captain America reputation.

And when you touched me, you said, sweetheart, oh, sweetheart, we in the real world like real people.

You will remember Dr. Galit Atlas as the author of the international bestseller, Emotional Inheritance, a therapist, her patients and the legacy of trauma, which is freaking amazing and has been translated into 23 languages.

Dr. Galit Atlas is a psychoanalyst and clinical supervisor in private practice in New York City. Her new book, Emotional Inheritance was published in January and is already being translated into 17 languages.

And I think my research and the Emotional Inheritance book, as you know, is about an intermingling of nature and nurture because the epigenetic research can tell us something really important about how the expression of genes and how what we carry from generation to generation.

I talk in the book, for example, and I share my own experiences. My mother lost her brother when she was 10 years old and he was 14. In my family, there is a fear of water.

I call it secrets we keep from ourselves in the book, right? Secrets are many things. Some of them are things that we don't know about and nobody told us. And some of it are things we keep in some isolated place in our minds.

Everybody go get Emotional Inheritance. It's good, fascinating stuff. And it should be a TV show.

Dr. Brotto was recently featured in the Netflix series, the principles of pleasure, which we loved and is the author of better sex through mindfulness, how women can cultivate desire and forthcoming The Better Sex Through Mindfulness Workbook, a guide to cultivating desire.

And the other thing that I also recommend is possibly the best book on sort of libido and sex is Dr. Lori Brado's book, Better Sex Through Mindfulness.

Her first book, One Drop, love that book, Shifting the Lens on Race, challenges narrow perceptions of blackness as both an identity and lived reality to understand the diversity of what it means to be black in the US and around the world.

Everybody go get One Drop. Dr. Yaboble talks about this so beautifully. Sorry, go ahead sister. Yes, everyone read Dr. Yaboble.

The Joy Diet, I've read it.

Professional Troublemaker was just released in paperback.

And buy my books. I really infuse my heart into my books.

That reminds me, Lovey, of that part of Professional Troublemaker, where you're talking about your grandma to whom that book is a tribute.

And you were talking about in her late years, you know, this woman who had become so fiercely independent her whole life was allowing herself to be taken care of for the first time.

And you wrote the lifelong soldier had dropped the reins and allowed herself to be fully in the hands of someone else.

It was a show of strength. If love is a verb, is there a greater show of love than to abdicate your very being to the person you raised well enough to hold you up?

What is pride when we can have love shown to us instead?

And buy my books. I really infuse my heart into my books. So I have I'm Judging You, which is my first one.

And then when she got off the plane after she was reading it, she called me and said, I actually just peed in my pants on the plane.

Like pee came out. You know how you always say LOL, but really you're like just typing LOL.

You're like, I did not even a little bit laugh. I actually was laughing out loud on the plane. People were looking at me funny. It was amazing.

Yes. And so many people felt that way, which is why both of these amazing books became instant best sellers.

We are not going to waste any time today. We're going to jump right back in with our friend and author of UNBOUND, Tarana Burke.

And then you're just going to have to read the book to see Tarana's self who rejected that notion very clearly and beautifully.

And I'm going to tell you, and I feel like I can have this conversation with y'all because sometimes I feel like when I talk about being Christian or about God, people are like, okay. You know, it's like, I don't know. That's a nice hobby you have.

The next right thing is to have unbound. The next right thing is to put it in people's hands.

I imagine all of the little girls, little black girls who I know you wrote this book for who are you're there Maya Angelou now, like they're seeing you as, and they're seeing your pain, but they're seeing your joy.

It's already broken into the top, the number three on the New York Times list, right? And Oprah's crying over it over and over and over again.

People are comparing it to I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, which I'm sure is just no big deal for you at all, right Tarana?

Well, let's start at the start. Let's start at the beginning of Unbound and parts of the beginning of your life, which is sort of where the origin of all of your work begins, which is when you were sexually assaulted as a child.

I finished the book and kept what was now in my mind, our secret.

Can you talk about this? Because I feel like it's the, it's another double bind that you talk about, which is that for so many survivors, it's the very same bodies that are the portals through which we access this pleasure and sexuality are the same portals that were poisoned by our assaulters with shame and hyper-vigilance.