Set Boundaries, Find Peace A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

Nedra Glover-Tawwab is the author of the New York times bestsellers, drama free and set boundaries find peace.

Go pick up Nedra's books, Set Boundaries, Find Peace and Drama Free.

I loved your book, Nedra. And I was fascinated to know that so many of the things that so many of us are struggling with are in fact symptomatic of not being healthy boundaries.

Edra Tawab is a social worker and the New York Times best selling author of set boundaries find peace which she followed up with a workbook on boundaries.

This is her second appearance on the show we had around about a year ago to talk about her best-selling book about boundary setting.

I have another book called set boundaries fine piece and I have a workbook called the set boundaries workbook and on my website I have some free resources for people to check out I have some quizzes around boundaries and relationships and dysfunctional families

The healthiest relationships is when we can feel psychologically safe to communicate to others.

Often as I'm hearing people talk about their conversations with others, I have to ask the question, did you say that or did you think that?

Because so much of what we're displaying and saying to other people, it's our thoughts. It's not things that we actually said.

So there has to be a lot of practice around, okay, I understand what you think about this situation. Now how do you say it to this person in a way that hopefully they'll be able to understand?

So often it is us assuming or expecting someone to be upset, to say no, that keeps us from actually asking questions, speaking more about what we need.