10% Happier with Dan Harris

and then there's another one called Awakened Every Day that is uh has short uh passages for Every Day of the year that you can kind of read and give you something to contemplate during the day.

there's four books out in this series so far approaching the Buddhist path, foundation of Buddhist practice, samsara, nirvana and Buddha nature

there's four books out in this series so far approaching the Buddhist path, foundation of Buddhist practice, samsara, nirvana and Buddha nature

there's four books out in this series so far approaching the Buddhist path, foundation of Buddhist practice, samsara, nirvana and Buddha nature

I think the best thing is our well we did write a book called Listening to the Heart which we wrote together which gives a sort of overview of many of the points that we've been touching into today it's called subtitled engaged our Buddhism for our time something like that

The next volume is in praise of great compassion.

Living because it was published in UK and one title, Living with an Open Heart and in the States it was published as an Open Hearted Life.

I wrote a book called Time to Stand Up which is more focused on issues around climate and also resourcing ourselves and looking at the systemic challenges particularly within Buddhism of being able to really meet the times that we're in particularly around patriarchy

Living because it was published in UK and one title, Living with an Open Heart and in the States it was published as an Open Hearted Life.

Their new book on their journey, written with Carlye Adler, is called "Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics: A 10% Happier How-to Book," which is on sale Dec. 26 and available for pre-order now.

The idea is you know in Ten Percent Happier I told a funny story that I hopefully would get you to meditate but then I realized after the book came out and especially after I started the app that I really got a sense that people have trouble even if they want to meditate adopting the habit in an abiding fashion.

I didn't think through how much work it was going to be and it really almost broke me.

I mean it was this epic adventure, epic writing adventure, the production happened so fast and now it's a reality and I think about the first book I wrote which was like this you know it dragged out over multiple years with long edits and torturous back and forth with editors and this was very painless so I mean but quick and intense.

I will now steer the conversation back to me well but with the big dose of you because I want to talk about a way in which you really helped me it really starts because and this is this the this theme is big we tell the story in the book but it's worth talking about now too I think as you as we were on the road trip and living in this tin can together driving across the country often under great stress and with a lot of fatigue because the schedule was so crazy...

The idea is you know in Ten Percent Happier I told a funny story that I hopefully would get you to meditate but then I realized after the book came out and especially after I started the app that I really got a sense that people have trouble even if they want to meditate adopting the habit in an abiding fashion.

I had this naive assumption that people who read it you know would start meditating because I thought I made a reasonably good case but that is so yeah it's that is to completely miss the complexity of what it takes for people to form a good habit and the difficulty that people face when they're when they want to change aspects of their behavior.

She has written a couple of bestselling books including the amazingly titled book Mating and Captivity.

My first book is called Mating in Captivity, but originally it's a one of a kind.

She still heard to read Emilie Nagoski's book, Come As You Are.

Because one of the things that's very important in what Emilie talks about it's exactly that. The brakes and the accelerators, the inhibitors, you know, the thoughts, the inhibiting cognitions like I'm not some fat, I'm this, I'm old, I'm not attractive.

I guess the backstory is after I wrote Ten Percent Happier, I kind of thought and I yeavly that everybody who read it would start meditating.

His new book is called Face to Face and it's about what I was just talking about in terms of the underappreciated value of actually having face-to-face relationships

And we talk about the thesis of Face to Face which is the power of conversation, the power of having human connection

I'll admit she's holding up your new book. I was confused. I thought the new book was a curious mind because that was the book that my wife had bought and was sitting on our table so I started to read it in preparation for this interview. I didn't realize the new book is actually a Face to Face.

second Buddhism without Beliefs by Stephen bachelor Stephen is is a little different in that he well he's a very skeptical dude comes out of a Buddhist background was a monk in two different traditions I believe by the way I think Stephen's going to come on the podcast and I think I saw his name on our schedule in the next couple months he's fascinating guy but this is a slim volume that strips away all of the metaphysical claims from Buddhism and really talks about how you can practice Buddhism without having to believe in things that you can't muster the faith in

and then fourth the book that I read that really got me into the really convinced me to take a deep dive into Buddhism and meditation is GOING TO PIECES WITHOUT FALLING APART by Dr. Mark Epstein

He has a new book out called "The Lost Art of Good Conversation" which I think we can all agree is really important at this time of deep, deep divisions not only in the United States but around the planet.

And so it was like how can we, and especially this time because it feels like there's you know heartfelt communication and basic human communication is breaking down...

The core of what you're saying is the first and most important thing you can do in conversation is actually recognize that you're talking to another human being right now, that there's somebody who matters in the universe outside of you.

She has just written a book about Self-Compassion for Parents.

And I don't think you've had any self-compassion people on the podcast have you? So Kristen has done extraordinary research and this book really builds on the work of Kristen and Kris Germer.

So that's one of the practices in the book which is if you're having a bad moment in the context of your book it's a bad moment with your kid but if you're having a bad moment in any context for any human being kidless or apparent you can do these three steps of first just noticing that something sucks right now or this is a moment of suffering everywhere.

This book is called Self-Compassion for Parents and it's nurture your child by caring for yourself.

And the first book that came out was a very solid book called Mindfulness and Psychotherapy. It's now in its second edition.