The Dr. John Delony Show

There's a phenomenal book, it's called Balanced and Barefoot by Angela Hanscom.

I read this really cool thing in a book called Opt Out Family, which isn't out yet, but might be out by the time this is out, by Erin Lachner.

And she wrote a book also called Chasing Slow, which is, I'm going to set you good preface, we have to chase this.

So when you do the same thing over and over again, Mike Recker talks about this in a book called The Fun Habit.

There's a phenomenal, a phenomenal book, John, about bullying. It's called Emotionally Resilient Teens and Tweens by that Kim John Payne.

I also bought her new book. I think it's called Good Inside.

We've been doing our best to follow her strategies and we've been noticing a huge difference with our kids.

His name is John Holt and he wrote a book called Learning All The Time.

My other kids, I use this book, it's called Teach Your Child How To Read In 100 Easy Lessons.

I'm gonna send you that book, Building An Onyxist Life, that'd be my gift to you, man.

Listen, you and me and everybody else on the planet has felt anxious or burned out or chronically stressed at some point.

In my new book, Building An Onyxist Life, you'll learn the six daily choices that you can make to get rid of your anxious feelings and be able to better respond to whatever life throws at you so you can build a more peaceful, non-anxious life.

Let's let third grade come and by the time third grade comes you're gonna have read the No David books have you read those?

They're hilarious they're amazing I forgot the author they're called No David they're just so great but the character is like a crudely drawn drawing and they only have like four or five teeth and I want you to show like not in it you're gonna look at it and be like well that's not it's it's gonna feel offensive that I just I just brought them two together your son who I don't know I've never seen in this character but I'm that's the character that came to my mind you could go he's got teeth like you and he got a book and what we're doing is we're just norming this is the way you look and you are handsome to me.

One of my favorite stories in a book I've ever read is in Terry Real's book he went and talked to a warrior tribe one that was untouched by modern thinking on masculine and femininity and he noticed two things one these was a warring tribe that had no problem jUst slaughtering their neighbors and they were really really affectionate with their sons big time, like holding their teenage son's hands and being very affectionate in ways that we don't do in the western world and as they were talking about it he was asking this leader of this tribe what is masculinity? Is it this or is it this? and he said that the guy paUsed and says it's both and being a true man is knowing which one in which situation and I remember that was a light bulb for me oh it's both, it's both it is being able to take care of the people that you love if something was to, if it all goes down you gotta know how to take care of yourself and more often than not you gotta know how to be present at your dinner table so your family feels safe so they can laugh you can be the first to laugh and I think we get it backwards and I think as dads we don't know how to teach our sons how to feel so we jUst say suck it up we don't know how to teach our sons how to experience pain and be uncomfortable and then go finish the job and so we either holler at them for feeling or we take the job and we'll do it, we'll do it nope that rock when you were mowing it kicked up in a hitch and it hurt real bad we gotta finish this yard becaUse we started the project and we committed to getting it done I'll help you for a little bit and then you're gonna be back on your own I believe in you right it's both in it's both in and that's the path forward for men so that's where that post came from and it was probably based off something I did where I screwed it up on one way or the other I told my son like suck it up or I told my son like it's alright I'll jUst finish it and I was like no true masculinity is both, it's both in it's right up the middle there love you guys, stay in school get off social media bye

There's a, there's a book called Promises I Can Keep which is a, it's basically a qualitative inquiry into single moms.

And why it's a deep dive to my Catherine Eden and Maria I think it's Kaffalas. I think it is Kaffalas.

They talk about this thing called a magic moment where couples that find themselves pregnant they've broken up or they're separated.

It has a, like this pregnancy that have in the baby, the hold in the baby often not always but often brings people back and seems to the light around this event is so bright.

It covers up all the shadows everywhere else.

I also purchased Questions for Humans for Couples for my boyfriend and I.

Our relationship has been rather rocky over the last year, and we have been earnestly looking for harmony.

We started doing the questions several evenings this week and are amazed at the conversations we've had. Some are funny, some are serious and some are sad.

I know this book has helped bajillions of people and I don't necessarily have a problem with the ethos of it, the five love languages book, but the problem is that book has become etched in concrete. You will do this for me because this is the way and I don't like that language. I don't think it's accurate.

Hey, if you are watching this, um, or listening and you haven't had the body part conversation, there's a great book by Julie Federico. It's called Some Parts are NOT for Sharing. Some Parts are NOT for Sharing by Julie Federico. Um, it's a tiny, tiny little book, but it is a fabulous book to walk through. Um, really, really excellent, excellent book.

She's got a brand new book out Calm Your Mind with Food. Calm Your Mind with Food and it's it's a discussion of the connection between anxiety and what we eat.

I mentioned it briefly in my book this this connection between what we eat and how our body responds.

And another book that was revolutionary for me and it is not a mental health book. And I told him to his face. The book Discipline Equals Freedom by Jaco Willing.

Oh my goodness. It's John. CACCI PPO. Cassiapo is that how you say it? Wrote the book called Loneliness.

And I read that book as a scientist and I remember it was like reading a book about the damages of smoking or reading a book about, you know, particular nutrition stuff. Like it was a bellwether moment.

This book was by John Valiant. And the book is called The Tiger, True Story of Vengeance and Survival. It may be in the top 10 books of all time. It was extraordinary.

It's a book about The Tiger and it's a geopolitical book about Russia where Russia connects with China and life there. And it also is the story of a particular tiger that seeks vengeance on somebody. It is a tightly woven masterpiece.

This story, like I would knock off work a little bit earlier so I can get in the truck and go listen. Or I would just mow a little bit longer so I could keep listening. This book was incredible.

The Tiger, True Story of Vengeance and Survival. I recommend everybody read it. It's a masterpiece.