On Purpose with Jay Shetty

I just read this book I don't know if you've heard this book The Weirdest People on Earth have you?

I was thinking about one of my books that hasn't sold as well as the other books. Which one is it? Lives of the Stoics is different than my other books, but I personally used, and then also have reused stuff that I learned while writing that book almost every single day.

I have a book called Mastery, which I discuss the process of creating something.

If you haven't read it, I highly recommend that you go and grab it.

And there has never ever been a time when the average opinion of faceless unaccountable strangers should be valued over our own judgment.

Oh, this is meditations by Marcus Aurelius. You see, this is letters to Seneca.

Churchill wrote a book called Painting As a Pastime.

I highly recommend that you go and grab your copy.

What gets you what you want is your daily habits.

Every day is a meditation, and it's kind of structured in the beginning to help you go through your career, mostly things from mastery, about finding your life's purpose, what I call your life's task, and how to achieve a level of mastery in whatever you do.

I love Start with Why by Simon Sinek.

I applied it to businesses because I applied it to my life and even today I'm constantly refining my why that's all I do everyday my deepest morning routine and practice is to refine why I do what I do

Now, today I'm excited to talk to Ebi about her amazing new book called Becoming Bulletproof. Protect yourself, read people, influence situations and live fiercely.

And inside, she shares the lessons from protecting presidents, as well as insights and skills from the oldest and most elite security force in the world to help you prepare for stressful situations.

I'm really excited for everyone who's just tuning in and watching or listening right now. We are talking about Evie's new book called Becoming Bulletproof, which is all about protecting yourself, reading people, influencing situations and living fearlessly.

We're going to put the link in the comments section so you'll be able to buy the book if you're loving this conversation.

If you want to build up a mental shield, if you want to read people, understand body language, influence scenarios, and most importantly, live fearlessly. This is a book that you want to go and grab, full of incredible stories, insights.

Arnold served as the thirty-eighth governor of California and his new book, *Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life*, takes readers on an inspirational tour through Arnold's tool kit for a meaningful life.

And so this is why I did the book

I'm glad that you put it in that order because I think for everyone who is listening and watching a lot of people will say I do work hard I'm working my ass off I'm doing everything I can but I think what's really important is that in the book you start with have a clear vision and I agree I think there are a lot of people who are working really really hard and if you have a clear vision as you say then that hard work pays off because otherwise a lot of people are just working hard getting stressed putting on pressure but there isn't that vision

I've always found that if you're proud of what you're selling, if you really believe in it, then it's easier to sell it. But generally people have a challenge with like the word sell. But you say one of your lessons is sell, sell, sell. So walk us through how you were able to, I mean, obviously even all the movies the franchises you've created, it requires promotion, it requires selling. And of course they were highly entertaining. But tell us what you learned about how to sell effectively but also authentically

I tell you, it was really fun doing this book because I really had to kind of drill down and think about a lot of the things that comes natural for me to tell stories about. Because each one of the rules, you want to be able, even the sub-rules and the sub-sub-rules, you want to be able to tie it to a story so that people can relate to it. Like I was talking about infrastructure. You can talk to people about infrastructure all you want. They can relate to it. But as soon as you tie it to getting stuck in traffic, making it to the recital in the school and you come late an hour because of the traffic and all this, then they can relate to that. And the same is with any of the rules. I kind of had fun doing it. It was sometimes frustrating because you want to do 10 rules and the publisher then says, no, you can only do seven because this book should only have 268 pages rather than 350 pages and all of this crazy stuff you go through. But it was a really, really great process and never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would occupy this space at all. And it really happened just totally coincidentally where more and more people, you know, when you finish with the governorship, I was asked to do public speaking engagements like ex-presidents and stuff like that. And so I'm traveling around. I think one time someone said, can you pump up our crowd? We have like a thousand real estate people. We want you to just pump them up. So you do a little bit of success story. And all of a sudden it took off like wildfire. Every one of the public speaking engagements they've had since then, they want to go and have me talk about success, the rules to success and all of that stuff. So it's like something I didn't even think about because I always was a motivator. You know, if it's the Special Olympics or for after-school programs or to be just my buddies around in the gym that became my training partners because I always have this kind of energy, right? Come on, let's do a set. You can do another set. But wait a minute, you're stopping me 10 reps. Give me five more reps and let it pain. Let it give pain, you know, and you just pump, pump, pump. So I have this energy. So I never thought that this would be used then for seminars and eventually for a book like this. It's like crazy where life takes you.

The book is called *Be Useful*, 7 Tools for Life.

Arnold's a phenomenal storyteller.

I signed 17,000 copies.

There's this beautiful book by Elizabeth Gilbert called Big Magic. And she writes this really interesting, she says, the universe doesn't play favorites. It'll come and whisper in your ear.

What this whole book is about, it's called The Way of Integrity. And integrity doesn't mean what most people think it does, at least not here. It comes from the word integer, which means one thing. And being in integrity is being whole and undivided.

So when people get, when they're socialized to do something like seek a certain type of success, if that's not according to your true nature and your culture, pulls you toward it, you leave your nature to serve your culture.

And what that does is it splits you in two. So you're no longer in integrity, you're in duplicity, but you don't actually even know it with the conscious mind. You feel it in the heart, you feel it in the body and the soul, but the mind is clueless.

So yeah, being in whole and in integrity often means turning off cultural noises and tuning back into one's own true nature.

I've been using Dante's Divine Comedy as my own private self-help book my entire life.

I became a Buddhist because I hated my husband. That's not something you hear every day, but Buddhist nun and author of When Things Fall Apart, Pema Chodron, is only kind of kidding.

Her most recent book, Emotional Agility, describes the psychological skills critical to thriving in times of complexity and change.

Even though you wrote this book five years ago, so much of it is so integral to what we're experiencing today.

It's right here. I wanted to ask you this question, just not because I don't judge books by their cover, but I'm fascinated by choice and art and imagery.

If you want to dive deeper, can grab a copy of Susan's book, Emotional Agility, Get Unstuck, Embrace Change and Thrive in Work and Life.

Firstly, Jay has mentioned my book Emotional Agility.

If you don't have this book, it is a phenomenal read. I highly recommend it.

In Limitless, I talk about seven lies to learning...

It's such a great framework. And I love the way you break things down because, like you said, I think often we just spend too much time or we waste too much time just trying to figure out what the issue is. And it's one of those three.

And I know it's in the book Limitless.

The 3M model is in this book and broken down step by step, as you saw and heard.

This book is all about how she sold her business for millions but almost lost herself.

The Messy Truth is available right now. We're going to put the link in the caption so you can order it while you're listening to this conversation.

I highly recommend everyone goes and buys the book, especially if you're on your entrepreneurial journey.

And I think I have a chapter in the book called like the unlikely entrepreneur, something like that.

I've always considered myself like kind of this underdog and like not who you'd expect to succeed.

Elliot's critically acclaimed debut book, a memoir entitled Page Boy, was published around the world in June 2023.

The book became an instant bestseller, number one atop the New York Times bestseller list and receiving widespread positive reviews.

For anyone who hasn't already read this book, I highly recommend that you go and grab it.

Page Boy, please make sure that you go and grab a copy if you're enjoying this conversation.