"A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” —
An affair: it can rob a couple of t...
The host expressed strong enthusiasm for the book, noting it explores the meaning of cheating for both the cheater and the cheated, emphasizing its focus on delving into the motivations behind affairs.
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I really love the book The State of Affairs By Esther Perel
— Episode: Why people cheat
Episode: Why people cheat
The host expressed strong enthusiasm for the book, noting it explores the meaning of cheating for both the cheater and the cheated, emphasizing its focus on delving into the motivations behind affairs.
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I really love the book The State of Affairs By Esther Perel
She really talks about the importance of delving into what the cheating meant for the person who cheated
Esther Perel's book, 'The State of Affairs' was mentioned as it relates to infidelity, a topic often explored in her work. The book was highly recommended by Jay Shetty.
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Her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages.
— Episode: Esther Perel ON: Finding Love & the Real...
Episode: Esther Perel ON: Finding Love & the Real Reason Co...
Esther Perel's book, 'The State of Affairs' was mentioned as it relates to infidelity, a topic often explored in her work. The book was highly recommended by Jay Shetty.
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Her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages.
As I said, this is one of my favorite books that you've written. I highly recommend it to anyone.
Everyone, Esther Perel, the author of The State of Affairs, Rethinking Infidelity and the author of Mating in Captivity.
This book delves into infidelity, exploring the complexities of affairs and the various reasons behind them, which were discussed at length in the podcast.
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I put much of this in the state of affairs because I had spent 10 years studying affairs and infidelity
— Episode: Esther Perel (Love & Sex Expert): Why M...
Episode: Esther Perel (Love & Sex Expert): Why Men Love Po...
This book delves into infidelity, exploring the complexities of affairs and the various reasons behind them, which were discussed at length in the podcast.
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I put much of this in the state of affairs because I had spent 10 years studying affairs and infidelity
The book was written by Ayaan Hirsi Ali, who came from a difficult background in Africa and achieved incredible success. Despite her achievements, she's regarded with enmity among progressives.
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Oh, it must be 15 years ago. And I thought, oh my God, this woman, she's just unbelievable. She's so tough. She's so forthright.
— Episode: 467. Plagiarized by Harvard's President...
Episode: 467. Plagiarized by Harvard's President | Dr. Caro...
The book was written by Ayaan Hirsi Ali, who came from a difficult background in Africa and achieved incredible success. Despite her achievements, she's regarded with enmity among progressives.
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Oh, it must be 15 years ago. And I thought, oh my God, this woman, she's just unbelievable. She's so tough. She's so forthright.
Author Esther Perel's groundbreaking work, The State of Affairs, was frequently highlighted across multiple episodes featuring the renowned therapist. The hosts celebrated the book as a global phenomenon and major bestseller that has been translated into nearly 30 languages. Specifically, Glennon Doyle cited the book as one of Perel's works that profoundly impacted her perspective on relationships, stating that it "rocked my worlds." The book was presented as essential reading for rethinking infidelity and modern relationship dynamics.
Highly Recommended
Episode: 42. ARE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ALIVE? with Esther Pere...
It was mentioned as one of Esther Perel's bestselling books that had a significant impact on the podcast hosts.
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And her bestselling book, Mating in Captivity and State of Affairs, both of which rocked my worlds, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages.
The book was repeatedly referenced as part of Esther Perel’s credentials, noting that it had become a bestseller, been translated into dozens of languages, and sparked widespread conversation about infidelity. The host herself and other guests highlighted its impact and encouraged listeners to explore it further. Overall, the podcast treated the title as a key resource for understanding relationship dynamics.
Highly Recommended
Episode: Impotent is No Way To Define a Man
The narrator mentions that Esther Perel is the author of this book.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating and Captivity in the State of Affairs.
Episode: There's You, There's Me, There's US
Esther Perel, the host of the podcast, is the author of the book "The State of Affairs." The book was mentioned as part of her bio at the end of the podcast episode.
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Esther Perrell is the author of Mating and Captivity in the State of Affairs.
Episode: Esther Perel on New AI - Artificial Intimacy
Esther's books were mentioned in the context of their popularity and how they generate conversations and debates. It was stated that they had been translated into over 30 languages.
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Her TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her best-selling books, mating and captivity and the state of affairs are just kind of phenomena. They've been translated into over 30 languages and they have been the source material for some of the greatest conversations and debates that I've ever been in with friends and family.
Episode: I Can't Give You a Child
Esther Perel was mentioned as the author of 'Mating in Captivity'. This book was brought up in the podcast, and she was described as the author of it, and the book was described as the 'State of Affairs'.
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Esther Perel is the author of mating and captivity in the state of affairs.
Episode: Sexlessness
It was mentioned as a book by Esther Perel, the podcast host, on the subject of relationships.
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Esther Perel is the author of mating and captivity in the state of affairs.
Episode: Tell Me I'm Not Alone
"The State of Affairs" was mentioned as a book written by Esther Perel, along with "Mating in Captivity".
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating and Captivity in the State of Affairs.
Episode: The Addict
Esther Perel was also mentioned as the author of "The State of Affairs".
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs.
Episode: I've Had Better
Esther Perel, a renowned couples therapist, mentioned "The State of Affairs" as one of her books. It was mentioned in conjunction with her other book, "Mating in Captivity", and her podcast, "Where Should We Begin?"
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity in the State of Affairs.
Episode: Love In War with Esther Perel: Ukraine
Esther Perel was mentioned to be the author of 'The State of Affairs' alongside 'Mating in Captivity'. The book is a testament to Perel's expertise in relationships, particularly in the context of infidelity.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs.
Episode: We Started As An Affair
The book The State of Affairs was mentioned as one of the books authored by Esther Perel.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs and also the host of the podcast How's Work?
Episode: My Orgasm Is Not Just For Me
Esther Perel was mentioned as the author of this book, though the book itself was not directly discussed.
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Estera Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs and also the host of the podcast, How's Work?
Episode: Twice Married, To Each Other
Esther Perel is the author of this book, and she's also the host of the podcast How's Work?
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs, and also the host of the podcast, How's Work?
Episode: I Can Be Strong and Be Taken Care Of
Esther Perel is the author of the book The State of Affairs, which was mentioned in the podcast episode.
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Estera Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs and also the host of the podcast, How's Work?
Episode: I Don't Mean to Be Mean, But...
Esther Perel was mentioned as the author of this book during the podcast. The podcast's host, Esther Perel, gave advice based on her expertise and experience.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs and also the host of the podcast, How's Work?
Episode: Where Are They Now - A Romantic Revival
The book was mentioned as a work written by the host of the podcast, Esther Perel.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs
Episode: Friendship - My Reliable Gift
Esther Perel was also mentioned as the author of "The State of Affairs".
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Esther Perel is the author of mating and captivity and the state of affairs and also the host of the podcast housework
Episode: Trapped in Their Own Story
The book "The State of Affairs" was mentioned by name, along with "Mating in Captivity", as one of Esther Perel's books. The podcast host recommended listeners check out the show notes for more information about the podcast.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs and also the host of the podcast, How's Work?
Episode: When I'm Manic I Cheat
The book, "The State of Affairs" by Esther Perel, was mentioned as being one of her works.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs and also the host of the podcast How's Work?
Episode: In This Relationship What Is "I" and What Is "We"?
This book was mentioned alongside 'Mating in Captivity' as another work by Esther Perel.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs
Episode: You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out Wit...
The book "The State of Affairs" was mentioned alongside "Mating in Captivity" as another work by Esther Perel.
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Esther Perel is the author of "Mating in Captivity" and "The State of Affairs" and also the host of the podcast "How's Work?"
Episode: What Would It Take For You to Come Out?
Esther Perel, the podcast host, is the author of the book, "The State of Affairs", which explores the dynamics of long-term relationships.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and the State of Affairs, and also the host of the podcast, How's Work?
Episode: Couples Under Lockdown: Lagos, Nigeria
Esther Perel is also the author of 'The State of Affairs,' which was mentioned during the discussion of the couple's relationship struggles. Perel's work on relationships was referenced as a point of comparison for the couple's situation.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs She's also the host of the podcast How's Work Where Should We Begin beginning June 18th
Episode: Couples Under Lockdown: New York, New York
Esther Perel is the author of this book, which was mentioned in the context of discussing couples therapy and the idea of long-term relationships.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs and also the host of the podcast Hell's Work.
Episode: I've Had 100 Conversations with You in My Head
The author, Esther Perel, mentions this book as one of her works, but does not elaborate further on its content.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating in Captivity, Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, and her new book, The State of Affairs, Rethinking Infidelity.
Episode: Speak to Me in French
The author, Esther Perel, mentioned her book "The State of Affairs" as being available on Audible.
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And her new book, The State of Affairs, Rethinking Infidelity.
Episode: The Arc of Love - A Romantic Revival
Esther Perel, the podcast host, was mentioned as the author of 'Mating in Captivity' and 'The State of Affairs'.
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Esther Perel is the author of Mating and Captivity in the State of Affairs.
The podcast discussed Perel's book, focusing on infidelity, power dynamics, and how societal views have shifted. It explored the complexities of infidelity, challenging simplistic black-and-white perspectives and highlighting the varying contexts in which it occurs.
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Sex and power are interdependent. They are interconnected. There is power in sex and power can be sexy.
— Episode: Esther Perel - A More Nuanced Look at In...
Episode: Esther Perel - A More Nuanced Look at Infidelity i...
The podcast discussed Perel's book, focusing on infidelity, power dynamics, and how societal views have shifted. It explored the complexities of infidelity, challenging simplistic black-and-white perspectives and highlighting the varying contexts in which it occurs.
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Sex and power are interdependent. They are interconnected. There is power in sex and power can be sexy.
Infidelity has never been a gender-equal proposition. Men have practically had a license to cheat...and women have faced dire consequences...
What it tells you is that women have basically behaved by virtue of the dire consequences of what could happen to them: ostracism, pregnancy, destitution and even death. And so once she has more economic independence...she may be more...you may learn more about her desire than you actually have learned about her throughout history, which has been her compliance.
The argument is an age-old argument that says men are biological creatures in perpetual motion in search of an outlet. They can't control themselves and it is the woman who has to be his border, his boundary, and his full stop, right?
I wrote 'The State of Affairs' because I think that we need a new conversation for the oldest sin.
The host introduced the title as a deep dive into why people cheat and offered practical guidance for navigating the aftermath, noting that it helped listeners categorize their experiences and find meaning. Alex Cooper praised the book for providing insight into a topic everyone talks about but rarely discusses openly, and Esther Perel highlighted its basis in a decade of work with infidelity. The discussion framed the book as a valuable resource for anyone dealing with cheating, positioning it as highly recommended.
Highly Recommended
Episode: Esther Perel (Cheating 101)
It was discussed as a book exploring why people cheat and providing guidance on how to navigate the aftermath of infidelity, encompassing three phases: crisis, meaning-making, and rebuilding.
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A whole book on cheating
And reading your book is going to give people insight into The thing we all love to not talk about but also love to talk about
State Affairs is 10 years of working with infidelity And I don't think I'm at the bottom of it yet
I think that this book is helping Almost if anyone is getting cheated on Or even is cheating It almost helps to categorize it So that you have an idea of where you're at Because it can feel very debilitating When you're in the thick of it
And in the book you write that It is common to have sex In the wake of the discovery of the cheating
Episode: Esther Perel: Cheating 101 (FBF)
The book explores why people cheat and provides guidance on what to do after discovering infidelity; it was described as helping people categorize their experiences and providing insight into a topic many people love to discuss, but not talk about.
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Her most recent book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, explores why people cheat and provides guidance on what to do in the wake of discovering this ultimate form of betrayal.
and the book that we are here to talk about today, The State of Affairs.
I think it's because everybody has a cheating story, right? Whether you were cheated on, someone you know was cheated on, a family member, a parent and reading your book is going to give people insight into the thing we all love to not talk about, but also love to talk about.
I do think that this book is helping almost if anyone is getting cheated on or even is cheating. It almost helps to categorize it so that you have an idea of where you're at, because it can feel very debilitating when you're in the thick of it.
Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She has a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her TED talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her books, *Mating in Captivity* and *The State of Affairs*, are huge bestsellers.
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Her TED talks have more than 40 million views and her books, mating in captivity and the state of affairs are huge bestsellers.
— Episode: Esther Perel on the One Thing That Will...
Episode: Esther Perel on the One Thing That Will Improve th...
Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She has a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her TED talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her books, *Mating in Captivity* and *The State of Affairs*, are huge bestsellers.
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Her TED talks have more than 40 million views and her books, mating in captivity and the state of affairs are huge bestsellers.
Episode: Love In War | Esther Perel
The host mentioned this as another book written by Esther Perel, who was a frequent guest on the podcast.
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As Sarah Peral is the author of mating and captivity and the state of affairs she's also the host of the podcasts where should we begin and how's work
Episode: Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel
This book was mentioned as the follow-up work to Mating in Captivity. Perel explained that this book looked at what happens when desire goes looking elsewhere, using infidelity as a powerful window into modern relationships.
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I love it and then she filed that up with State of Affairs.
This is a book by Esther Perel that explores infidelity, specifically exploring the complexities of extramarital affairs. It questions the definition of infidelity and suggests that society's view of it may be outdated.
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And now she has this new book called State of Affairs.
— Episode: Ep 378: Preach & Jing Jong @AbaNPreach
Episode: Ep 378: Preach & Jing Jong @AbaNPreach
This is a book by Esther Perel that explores infidelity, specifically exploring the complexities of extramarital affairs. It questions the definition of infidelity and suggests that society's view of it may be outdated.
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And now she has this new book called State of Affairs.
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