Burnout The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

It's called burnout, the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.

It's called burnout, the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.

It like the first three chapters were basically the last 10 years of my life versus thing where when you think you're in danger or you, you, you go into the stress response, you know, our, our old brains that are basically caveman brains need to either when, when the fight flight freeze response comes up, you either need to run, you need to go find people and then have people make the feeling go away.

And the reason why we liked it was because it was helpful, but also because the authors who are friends of this pod, Emily Nagoski, who wrote come as you are and her sister, who is also an author, Amelia Nagoski, they are just kind of the antidote to like the self-help or self care that there's no suggestion of we can just fix, you know, burnout with a candle or a bath or a manicure.

So the book is burnout, the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.

You all should really pick up their book, Burnout.

And the Come As You Are workbook and the co-author with her sister Amelia of New York Times bestseller Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking The Stress Cycle.

By the way, I want to say, Emily, that I did not know you wrote that freaking book and I read it twice last year. I didn't know that you wrote it. Oh my gosh. And with your sister. It's so good you all need to get burnout.

When I came across your TED talk and your book, Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, I knew we needed you on Call Her Daddy.

So Amelia and I, Amelia is my twin sister and we wrote the book together and we defined burnout really simply as feeling overwhelmed and exhausted by everything you have to do and still worrying that you are not doing enough, whatever enough is.

Our motivation for writing this book is actually that Amelia was hospitalized when she was in grad school.

The conversation to burn out about burnout is very often about like, I can't get stuff done instead of about my body is slowly degrading.

I think it really is that it's, that it's like just burnout that you, you just sort of like give up on your job or you just are tired.

We wrote it meaning this book because it's the book we needed ourselves.

And that was when I was like, oh, yes, so we should write a book about that. So that's what we did.

And yet we are so different in the ways that we have responded to stress in our lives. Emily has always been a feeler who feels and I have always been not. I've always been super great at focusing and getting down to business and repressing anything that's inconvenient in the meantime because this was my natural response to stress was to ignore it and to repress it and to shove it as we have learned into my body to go hide.

It turned out I'm just fundamentally really great at repressing my emotions and I needed to learn the skill of moving through the cycles to allow them to complete so that all of that physiological response that is the nature of emotion did not get stuck in my body and cause inflammation and disease.

So we brought all those far-flung resources together of biology and sociology and psychology and philosophy and music and art and stories and Disney princesses.

I burnt out and then I wrote about it.

And started digging into that and ended up writing this essay about how millennials became the burnout generation, which went viral.

It's turned into a book. And the process of turning it into a book really gave me the space to read and think a ton about how did work get the way that it is?

There's a great there's an extraordinary book I recommend everybody read it it's called Burnout by Emily Nagatsky and her sister I think it's Amelia Nagatsky. It's excellent and it's written to professional women but I think men- I got a lot out of it and I've recommended it to men all over the place too but they still burn out down into three areas the feeling that number one nothing I do matters

I want you to get the book By the Nagatski sisters called Burnout It's beautiful and it's brilliant And it's written for women, okay I read it, I love it I give it to men all the time But it's specifically for Working women, okay

Wellness is a verb, not a place It's not a thing you get to It's a thing that you do

The best book I've ever, ever, ever read, seen, heard about on this topic is by the Nagatsky sisters and I'll link to it in the show notes. It's called burnout.

But using their framework, which I love, you can break down burnout into a couple of different things.

It is the result of unfinished business. You haven't completed the stress cycle.

Check out that book, Burnout.