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The Dance of Anger A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Harriet Goldhor Lerner

Based on the author's clinical experience and workshops she has introduced, this guide helps women understand the causes and patterns of their anger while providing specific alternatives for forging more powerful relationships

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Huberman Lab

This book was recommended by Esther Perel for analyzing apology and the concept of sincerity that shows the other person that you truly care about them and not just about restoring your dignity.

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There's a beautiful book by Harriet Lerner about apology that I often recommend in these situations because she really analyzes, if you ever do apology, this concept of sincerity of the apology that a...

— Episode: Esther Perel: How to Find, Build & Maint...

Episode: Esther Perel: How to Find, Build & Maintain Health...

This book was recommended by Esther Perel for analyzing apology and the concept of sincerity that shows the other person that you truly care about them and not just about restoring your dignity.

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There's a beautiful book by Harriet Lerner about apology that I often recommend in these situations because she really analyzes, if you ever do apology, this concept of sincerity of the apology that actually shows that I care about you and not just about restoring my dignity and my pride and all of that.

My Favorite Murder with Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark

Karen mentioned this book as a good breakdown of how angry people use anger to control others and discussed how her upbringing involved anger as a form of communication, often used to shut down others' concerns or perspectives.

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There's a great book called The Dance of Anger. Not to be totally weird. No, we need a foot. This is a thing.

— Episode: 68 - Q&T&A

Episode: 68 - Q&T&A

Karen mentioned this book as a good breakdown of how angry people use anger to control others and discussed how her upbringing involved anger as a form of communication, often used to shut down others' concerns or perspectives.

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There's a great book called The Dance of Anger. Not to be totally weird. No, we need a foot. This is a thing.

Well, this is a book I read and it's because it's this amazing breakdown of how people who are angry or use anger, what they're actually doing.

Episode: 68 - Q&T&A

Georgia described this book as an amazing breakdown of how people who are angry or use anger, what they're actually doing, especially in regards to controlling others through intimidation.

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There's a great book called The Dance of Anger. Not to be totally weird. No, we need a foot. This is a thing.

Well, this is a book I read and it's because it's this amazing breakdown of how people who are angry or use anger, what they're actually doing.

Episode: Rewind with Karen & Georgia - 68: Q&T&A

They mentioned it as a great book that explains how angry people behave and how to manage anger.

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There's a great book called the dance of anger. Well, this is a book I read and it's because it's this amazing breakdown of how people who are angry or use anger, what they're actually doing.

The Mel Robbins Podcast

The podcast host discussed Harriet Lerner's research on overfunctioning and underfunctioning as responses to stress, highlighting how these patterns impact relationships. The host used Lerner's concepts to analyze her own stress response and that of her husband.

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Harriet Lerner has this phrase that I love because again, we want you to get out of the trap where you do this on automatic.

— Episode: Are You an “Over” or “Under” Functioner?...

Episode: Are You an “Over” or “Under” Functioner? A Hilario...

The podcast host discussed Harriet Lerner's research on overfunctioning and underfunctioning as responses to stress, highlighting how these patterns impact relationships. The host used Lerner's concepts to analyze her own stress response and that of her husband.

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Harriet Lerner has this phrase that I love because again, we want you to get out of the trap where you do this on automatic.

Under and over-functioning, these are terms that she first coined as a way to describe the way people respond to stress and how it impacts their ability to function in those situations.

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