The Kara Goldin Show

you can get a workbook for the total money makeover by Dave Ramsey, complete theft, complete piracy, sold on Amazon

I went on book tour for total money makeover and I was going 42 days.

And that book now, by the way, his soul 10 million copies.

Well, and I will say, because you were present most of the time. So that's it too. We weren't abandoned. You were not abandoned children with a workaholic father.

And I went on book tour for Total Money Makeover and I was gone 42 days.

So that little 42 day book tour worked out okay.

Christian will pick up we'll give you can call him in assessment and his book just to kind of you know get some again facts on paper about who Melissa is and then Christian throw in John's books as well building an on-naked-sys life and this.

and give her the Get Clear Assessment and find the work you're wired to do book and all of that will help because that's what you need to do sit down and make some lists a list of actually what is going on not what the feelings are about what's going on because you've been in just freaking survival mode for so long you haven't looked up and realized exactly where you are and Melissa go talk to those people like Dave said because you may find too gosh there's a position over here that I may not need as much over you know the degrees and this is a great fit and pays great and I can just kind of plug in here you never know so talking to people who you know is so key too

and give them both of those and give her the Get Clear Assessment

I'm going to send you kids to books, paycheck to purpose and proximity principle.

I'm going to send you Ken's two books, Paycheck to Purpose and Proximity Principle.

My cookbook "Food for Life" kind of has a lot of the recipes that I've been creating and over the years.

My first one was in my cookbook "Food for Life", my sassy seasoning blend.

New York Times best-selling author of Atomic Habits, James Clear,

So Carol Dweck is the mother of the growth Mindset concept. And this is a concept that people can grow. You can gain new skills, new knowledge.

And we have the author here, Charles Duhigg, who is the author of Super Communicators. It's actually called Super Communicators, How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, the full version of that title.

But Charles is a Pulitzer Prize winning reporter and the author of two other incredible books

I kept on finding myself in these situations. Like I was made a manager at work and I was really good at the logistics part of the job. But then people would come to me with problems and, and I thought I was hearing what they were saying, but, but they would walk away frustrated and I would be frustrated or, or I'd come home from work after a tough day. And I'd, I'd be talking to my wife and I'd say, you know, like my boss is a jerk and my colleagues don't appreciate me.

And she would give me this really good advice, which is like, why don't you just like take your boss to lunch and get to know each other.

And most of those conversations fall into one of three buckets. There's these practical conversations where we're talking about plans and fixing problems. There's emotional conversations where our goal is not to fix a problem, just to explain how we feel. And then there's social conversations, which is about how we relate to each other, both interpersonally and you know, through society.

And they said, this is what's happening with your wife. You're coming home and you're having an emotional conversation. You're upset.

And oftentimes the way that we, particularly if we're not practiced at reading someone's emotions, a great habit to get into is to first of all force ourselves just to pay attention and listen for when someone says something that seems emotional, that's that comes out of nowhere, right?

Somebody's walking into a situation where they need to become the super communicator. They're going to go out and buy your book for sure, but is there a cheat sheet for getting the best out there?

And think about how much you just told me in that answer, right? You told me that you're someone who values curiosity, that you value passion. You've told me that you're proud of the fact that you've done 500 episodes, right? Like you mentioned, the fact that you mentioned that means that like, that's an accomplishment for you. And so that creates a conversation and a feeling in there where they're gonna want to reciprocate, maybe not even write immediately, but I bet they're gonna go back to you at the office and the next time they see you ask something about how was your weekend, right?

Everybody needs to read this book for sure.

And all of us can be super communicators all the time if we just spend a little bit of time thinking about what we want to say and spend a little bit of time thinking about how we learn to listen.

So on that note, Charles Duhigg, author of Super Communicators, it was awesome having you on and very, very excited to meet you and also to have everybody

and give her the Get Clear Assessment and find the work you're wired to do book and all of that will help because that's what you need to do sit down and make some lists a list of actually what is going on not what the feelings are about what's going on because you've been in just freaking survival mode for so long you haven't looked up and realized exactly where you are and Melissa go talk to those people like Dave said because you may find too gosh there's a position over here that I may not need as much over you know the degrees and this is a great fit and pays great and I can just kind of plug in here you never know so talking to people who you know is so key too

Building a Non-Anxious Life will do it On your past change of route That's better for her situation On your past change your future Give them both of those and give her the Get Clear Assessment

I'm going to send you Ken's two books, Paycheck to Purpose and Proximity Principle.

She's also an author by the way of an incredible celebrated cookbook called Sweet.

I was writing this book, Money Master of the Game, where I interviewed the greatest investors in the world, Ray Dalio, Carl Icahn, Warren Buffett type thing.

I asked Warren Buffett this question when I was writing, you know, MONEY Master the Game.

And I said, what's been the most important investment of your life?

And I thought he was gonna say Coca-Cola or Geico, you know, I know all his investments.

And he paused for a moment and he goes, the best investment I ever made is what you do.

I know this and I read it a decade ago in Ogmundino's book when he talked about the world's greatest salesman.

I think it was Scroll number two.

I wrote this book because I wasn't years ago saying yes to it. I wasn't quiet enough to hear my own soul's calling.

And so I wanted to write this book to inspire people to Get Quiet in the way that I show in the book so they can actually tune in and hear why they are meant to be here on the planet.

I helped her Get Quiet in the paths that I explained in the book, which are nurture your body, get your environment healthy, get your mindset healthy, make sure you're resting.

So I would tell them is start to read, Get Quiet. Start to follow the paths that I took that I have guided hundreds of my clients on.

Read the first chapter. The minute you land in the first chapter, you're going to be able to breathe easy and sink in to knowing exactly how to find your soul's mission.

Food Is Love Plant Based Indian Inspired Recipes to Feel Joy and Connection and there are many stories around food and the love of food and the things that she's experienced but it made me just really think about food in my own life and so many connections around family but also just around friends and experiences that I've had with them so you are going to absolutely love this book and love hearing from Pollock as well.

It's not just recipes.

The entire book is broken out by nine emotions that I fundamentally go back to, whether it's I'm trying to cook something that's comforting, whether I'm making something that's indulgent, whether I'm doing something that's nostalgic and thinking about my mom or grandma.

So I broke out the cookbook in a series of emotions. And within each chapter, I just have these prompts and these prompts are really a nice way, whether it's to connect to yourself or to connect to your guests, people that you know or don't know or even teams, you know, I've done this with companies. And in those prompts, it gets you to learn about someone through a very fun and light food memory.

I think it's one of these unsung heroes of most kitchens. It's one of the most sustainable ingredients on the planet. Lentils come in so many forms and so many shapes and colors and varieties.

I often will get messages whether it's on Instagram or LinkedIn you know from university students high school students sometimes just concerned citizens sometimes leaders from marginalized communities and they're all asking for advice or help to launch their own policy campaigns.

The book lays out really these eight steps for how to make an impact how to launch your campaign how to be a policy entrepreneur it doesn't profess to have all the answers but it does represent to have a start that does give the people a start to take action.

The best way to begin is to begin.

I hope this book will help many people create their own narratives of change that could inspire others to launch their own too.

If you want to hear more about my journey I hope you will have a listen or pick up a copy of my Wall Street Journal best-selling book Undaunted where I share more about my journey including founding and building hint.

And she calls, I think it's the first line of my book, a spectacular public failure.

I think we're definitely seeing like a shift in that trend now, but it was really, you know, it was really this moment that set us on this, hey, don't tell anyone if you're struggling. Don't tell anyone about your failure.

And what I started doing, which is what led me to really writing the book was I started really exploring the messy middle with people.

And too many people think there's just sort of like a straight path to success and not enough people realize that even the most successful people that they might admire so much and put on a pedestal what they had to endure or what obstacles they had to overcome to get to where they are.

I don't want to glorify failure. I don't want to glorify pain. But these setbacks that we experience are inevitable.

So my podcast is called remarkable people, not rich people, not famous people, because you can be rich and you can be famous and you can also not be remarkable, even though you are rich and famous.

So basically, I have interviewed about 200 remarkable people, including you. Stacey Abrams, Angela Duckworth, Steven Wolfram, there's two MacArthur Fellows right there. Neil deGrasse Tyson, Ronnie Lott, I mean, athletes, entrepreneurs, professors. And I just, it's pattern recognition that remarkable people have a growth mindset.

I think when I think about you, all of these books are that's your grace. That's how I think about it.

I think it was 2005 or so. And the point is that, you know, you may have these plans and you may think you've, you know, you're threading the needle. But as you look back, you'll understand that many times what you consider setbacks or tragedies or whatever actually led to growth.

So, you know, how many of us have heard the story? Oh, you don't need a college degree, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, and Steve Jobs, they didn't have college degrees. In fact, a college degree might hurt you if you want to be an entrepreneur. You shouldn't be wasting time getting a college degree. Zuckerberg, Gates, and Jobs didn't have one.

So any of you listening out there, if you want to be a writer, an artist, a musician, a cook, an entrepreneur, a podcaster, any kind of creative endeavor. And you're feeling like, I'm not sure I can do this. I haven't been trained in France to cook. I don't have a PhD in English. I haven't been to art school. I can't be an artist or a writer or a chef.

And Brenda Eulens was this writing instructor at the University of Minnesota. And the gist of this book is don't listen to the naysayers.

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Just a reminder that I can be found on all platforms at Cara Golden. I would love to hear from you too. So feel free to DM me. And if you want to hear more about my journey, I hope you will have a listen or pick up a copy of my Wall Street Journal best selling book undaunted, where I share more about my journey, including founding and building Hint.