Emotional Intelligence Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

earlier this year, we released the selfconfidence, the emotional intelligence book. It's an empowering educational book that has a ton of strategies.

earlier this year, we released the selfconfidence, the emotional intelligence book. It's an empowering educational book that has a ton of strategies.

He's quite famous for having written a book called Emotional Intelligence Back in the 90s.

I'm thinking of people like Richie Davidson and Daniel Goldman who wrote books and produced studies that really changed the way the world saw meditation and made it accessible to skeptics and others.

I was taking a walk recently with our mutual friend Danny Goldman who's been on the show many times perhaps best known for having written a book called emotional intelligence

He is a trained scientist and science writer, perhaps best known for his landmark book Emotional Intelligence.

and then in 1995, he released a book called Emotional Intelligence which became a New York Times best seller with more than 5 million copies in print around the world, in 40 languages.

It was also listed as one of Time Magazine's 25 most influential business management books.

You wrote this obscure book called Emotional Intelligence 25 years ago.

Well you know when I wrote Emotional Intelligence IQ was like the big thing and it was really speaking to people's overemphasis on purely cognitive abilities.

I started with the emotional intelligence. I looked at Dan Goldman's model and became a student of that and actually trained emotional intelligence, you know, sort of in an academic environment to cops and realized okay, now they know about emotional intelligence but they're not building skills in emotional intelligence.

He wrote a huge book, a couple decades ago, a huge book called Emotional Intelligence, which was really a paradigm shifting book about not being yanked around by your emotions.

The big heresy of emotional intelligence is hey, you know what? When you're in school everybody talks about your scores, your IQ, how your grades, your GPA, but once you get into your career nobody cares.

Danny Goldman or Daniel Goldman as he's known professionally wrote a huge book called Emotional Intelligence Many Years ago.

the psychophysiology class was a guy named Daniel Goldman who was then a grad in graduate school went on to become the psychology writer at the times and then wrote emotional intelligence

We also spoke with Daniel Goldman who literally wrote the book on social and emotional intelligence. He's the author of one of these seminal works in the space and it was an honor to sit down with him.

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One thing that when I was reading the books, I kept coming up on which is almost cliche at this point, which is that technology is keeping us from connecting and I think everyone has talked about this or heard about this on the news recently.

I remember so take emotional intelligence. That was the name of an article that I read in 1990 in a journal that was written by a guy who was an assistant professor at Yale.

However that journal went to fund no longer exists but I did make the phrase well known in the book Emotional Intelligence.

And when I wrote the book before it came out I thought you know if I'm one day here two people use the phrase Emotional Intelligence and they both know what it means. I'll have succeeded.

We also spoke with Daniel Goldman who literally wrote the book on social and emotional intelligence.

He's the author of one of these seminal works in the space and it was an honor to sit down with him.

I don't agree that it keeps us from connecting. I think it makes us connect differently and in some ways it creates a deficit.

The slower circuitry was this later accessory that was added on the neocortex, the thinking brain, which takes time to figure it out but probably comes up with a better answer, technically and when we're too impulsive.

Trauma is a disorder of the amygdala.

Emotional intelligence being intelligent about emotions is a learned and learnable skill.

And that's where I see a problem coming. That's going to be that can't be good.

We also spoke with Daniel Goldman who literally wrote the book on social and emotional intelligence.

He's the author of one of these seminal works in the space and it was an honor to sit down with him.

Him and his work are just incredible.

If you want to know how we managed to book all these great guests and manage relationships with high performing people, amazing folks of all walks of life and lots of them by the way, check out our six minute networking course.

One thing that when I was reading the books, I kept coming up on which is almost cliche at this point, which is that technology is keeping us from connecting and I think everyone has talked about this or heard about this on the news recently.

And when I wrote the book before it came out I thought you know if I'm one day here two people use the phrase Emotional Intelligence and they both know what it means. I'll have succeeded.

That was the name of an article that I read in 1990 in a journal that was written by a guy who was an assistant professor at Yale. He's now the president of Yale, Peter Salave and I thought wow that is such a great term.

I've gotten hundreds or thousands of letters from people that say, hey, I have Asperger's and I listen to your show a lot because I have to manually learn emotional key.