Permission to Feel Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive

I highly recommend [Dr. Brackett's book] Permission to Feel.

There's a really interesting author of just been reading a book called permission to feel.

Oh by Mark bracket yes yes I know mark are you literally reading that book he's going to be so happy I'm going to text him.

I am a dear friend recommended it so I tweeted out a year ago to my 17 followers just kidding but I tweeted out and I just said what is a book that changed your life like I don't want a book I like or here's a fun book that I read what's a book that legit changed your life and dear friend who I admire deeply wrote back and said it was permission to feel.

I think Mark would say on behalf of emotion researchers and Mark does run the Yale Center for emotional intelligence I think he would say on the topic of fear that we do have to have the permission to feel fear as well as these other negative emotions and since you bought up Mark I'll just say that he has this mood meter it's actually not just his the field of emotion has said that look you can think of any emotion jealousy pride calm bliss board of frustration like any emotion and you can place it somewhere in one of four quadrants so you can think of a horizontal and a vertical axis and the horizontal axis is often just negative on the left positive on the right the vertical axis is a rousal so high rousal emotions to at the bottom like not a lot of energy now that gives you four quadrants and I think where most people especially Americans want to be is the upper right quadrant like high arousal positive right right excitement giddyness but where we don't want to be is high arousal negative like fear and we might not even want to be in the low arousal negative right that's like boredom and then the fourth quadrant is low arousal positive and that's things like calm and anyway the reason I asked permission from Mark for use of the mood meter is that I wanted to start every single class with these four quadrants so it's just you know the first slide that is in my PowerPoint and what the students do is they put themselves somewhere on the mood meter and it's kind of auto populated so you can kind of see where their little dot shows up on the screen in real time and as I say to the students every time as you can see all four of these quadrants are populated maybe not equally I know where you want to be you want to be in the top right so do I I want to be there all the time but that's not life so I think this permission to feel fear and to reckon with its function in our life and even to like embrace the fact that like really high achievers super achievers the most gritty people they are sometimes driven by fear of failure for me it was like surprising but also very enriching I was like oh this is a much more complex view of emotion and even achievement.

Also there are books like Permission to Feel by Mark Brackett from Yale. And the whole point is read this book, you can become a little more emotionally intelligent by the end.