The Gap and The Gain The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success

The Gap and the Gain, Dan Sullivan. Love that book.

I read his little book on the subject.

The gap is really just the idea that it's really just what you're measuring yourself against.

Most high achievers because they're so driven, they're always measuring themselves against where they wish they were and that devalues what they just did in the past.

There's nothing noble about being superior to other people true nobility is about being superior to your former self.

The only real reference point you can actually have is yourself like that's the only thing you have to measure yourself against because no other there's no other thing that's actually comparable.

Ideals are unhealthy as goals and ideals are by nature not achievable it's like a horizon line no matter how much you walk towards it you never actually get there.

The Gap is really just the idea that it's really just what you're measuring yourself against.

Most high achievers because they're so driven, they're always measuring themselves against where they wish they were and that devalues what they just did in the past.

There's nothing noble about being superior to other people true nobility is about being superior to your former self.

The only real reference point you can actually have is yourself like that's the only thing you have to measure yourself against because no other there's no other thing that's actually comparable.

Ideals are unhealthy as goals and ideals are by nature not achievable it's like a horizon line no matter how much you walk towards it you never actually get there so you can't compare results even if there are results to an ideal there's no point because like you said it's imaginary and it doesn't exist otherwise you're gonna stay in the gap you're gonna see yourself as a failure or it's easy to see yourself as a failure if you're always in the gap as well.