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Dan Savage mentioned the book "Intimate Terrorism" by Michael Vincent Miller, a couples counsellor who he has worked with. The book touches on the value of disappointment in long-term relationships.
I've been very influenced in this regard by a guy named Michael Vincent Miller who is a couples counselor with me and my wife and also he's written he's he wrote a book called intimate terrorism which...
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Dan Savage mentioned the book "Intimate Terrorism" by Michael Vincent Miller, a couples counsellor who he has worked with. The book touches on the value of disappointment in long-term relationships.
I've been very influenced in this regard by a guy named Michael Vincent Miller who is a couples counselor with me and my wife and also he's written he's he wrote a book called intimate terrorism which he often hastens to add was written before 9-11 so it was a little bit less provocative I mean he's working on a new book and when that book is finished we'll have him back on but he talks a lot about the value of disappointment in long-term relationships that that's a that is a moment that every couple will go through where you are disappointed where you feel you've bought a bill of goods and what is going to happen then what is going to happen then you're going to love forgive and go on.
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This book was referenced by the host when discussing how marriage has evolved since the industrial revolution, noting that it argues marriage used to be supported by societal structures like faith and family, which is no longer the case. The argument presented was that modern partners expect too much from each other because they are unmoored from those older structures.
he wrote a book called Intimate Terrorism which he wrote before 9-11 so it sounds more severe these days than it did in the 90s when he wrote the book but his one of the arguments he makes in the book is that marriage before the industrial revolution when we lived mostly in small towns was weighted down or alternatively you could argue supported by faith and family and all of these societal expectations and you often didn't have a choice of who you married.