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10% Happier with Dan Harris
This book was recommended by Jeff Warren as a good read on acceptance and commitment therapy. It was written by an Australian author.
I'll recommend a book here because it's this kind of help me get there it's a popular psychology book about acceptance and commitment therapy called the happiness trap by like an Australian writer acc...
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This book was recommended by Jeff Warren as a good read on acceptance and commitment therapy. It was written by an Australian author.
I'll recommend a book here because it's this kind of help me get there it's a popular psychology book about acceptance and commitment therapy called the happiness trap by like an Australian writer acceptance and commitment therapy is basically like repurposed mindfulness but the happiness trap is if you think that when you're unhappy you shouldn't be unhappy because you need to be happy that's the trap you know you're now living in a world where there has to be the condition of happiness for things to be okay so just accepting that there are going to be you know hard times when you're not happy and then times when you are happy is part of the outlook but what's really interesting in that book that really helped me that I hadn't really thought about before was the commitment piece and the commitment piece is basically saying at any moment there's an opportunity to move towards your values or move away from your values and so in moments of extreme challenge where you're just getting run over by life what I found was in a lot I had a background narration of this shouldn't be happening this shouldn't be happening I want to be happy right this these things shouldn't be happening or this stuff with my kids shouldn't be happening but when instead I could say you know what this is happening and this challenge is building my resources to be with future challenges or there's a strength capacity training here that I can kind of feel or or I can kind of do this thing where I flip it around and right in this moment when everything's falling apart I can kind of see that this is actually moving me towards in the direction of just like gleeful flowing with it no matter what and dancing with it or whatever like so at any moment you have this opportunity to kind of just just say how can I experience this differently I can't get away from the fact that this is extremely challenging but is there a way I can make this so it's moving me towards my values or maybe your value is social justice like when I can see more clearly this privation or this hard thing happening in the world or this injustice and that's moving me towards being able to speak out more strongly about it towards the future do you see what I mean yeah and since I've been implementing this because I don't have the time to sort of lubricate my life with the formal practice I just do not have that what I'm doing is more like moment to moment applying this except that yep this is unhappiness that's okay how can I make this something that's moving me in a direction that I want to move in and that makes all the difference.