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Modern Romance

Aziz Ansari

The #1 At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago....

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Freakonomics Radio

The hosts highlighted that the nonfiction work co‑authored with an NYU sociologist examined how people meet and mate today versus the past, noting its bestseller status and intriguing statistics such as the 1967 study on women marrying without love. Stephen Dubner praised it as a good, fascinating deep dive that revealed surprising patterns in modern romance. The overall tone was an enthusiastic endorsement of the title.

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Episode: Aziz Ansari Needs Another Toothbrush (Rebroadcast)

It was a nonfiction book co-authored with an NYU sociologist, Eric Kleinenberg, and explored how people meet and mate in the modern world compared to the past. It debuted at number two on the New York Times Best Seller list.

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And he just published his first book, a nonfiction book with an NYU sociologist, Eric Kleinenberg, as a co-author. It's called Modern Romance, and it debuted at number two on the Times Bestseller List.

It's about how people meet and mate in the modern world and how that is different from the past.

Episode: Aziz Ansari Needs Another Toothbrush (Rebroadcast)

It was a non-fiction book co-written with Eric Kleinenberg, exploring modern dating and mating in comparison to the past, including the shift from companion marriage to soulmate marriage.

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It's about how people meet and mate in the modern world and how that is different from the past.

And it's good. And I mean, I guess I'm thinking if I could do what you do, I don't know if I'd want to waste my time writing books.

Considering that his new book, Modern Romance, is about finding love in the digital age, his answer might surprise you.

Listen, really, congratulations on the book. It's just fantastic that it's good and that it's popular, and I wish you all the best with it and with all your other stuff.

Episode: Aziz Ansari Needs Another Toothbrush (Rebroadcast)

It was co-authored with an NYU sociologist and discussed how people meet and mate in the modern world, contrasting it with the past. It debuted at number two on the New York Times Bestseller List.

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It's about how people meet and mate in the modern world and how that is different from the past.

And it's good.

Considering that his new book, Modern Romance, is about finding love in the digital age, his answer might surprise you.

Episode: 256. What Are You Waiting For?

It was mentioned that a study in 1967 found 76% of women would marry someone they weren't romantically in love with, and the speaker also discussed why Ansari doesn't take pictures with fans.

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He talks about his book, Modern Romance.

To me, the craziest statistic in the book is in 1967, there was a study they did where they found 76% of women said they would marry someone that they are not romantically in love with.

Episode: 256. What Are You Waiting For?

It was discussed in relation to a statistic from 1967, which showed 76% of women would marry someone they weren't in love with, and the reasons behind this were touched upon.

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He talks about his book, Modern Romance.

To me, the craziest statistic in the book is in 1967, there was a study they did where they found 76% of women said they would marry someone that they are not romantically in love with.

Episode: 256. What Are You Waiting For?

It was discussed, referencing a statistic from 1967, that a high percentage of women were willing to marry without romantic love, and it was briefly mentioned in relation to the podcast host's internet consumption.

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He talks about his book, Modern Romance.

To me, the craziest statistic in the book is in 1967, there was a study they did where they found 76% of women said they would marry someone that they are not romantically in love with.

Episode: 213. Aziz Ansari Needs Another Toothbrush

It was written with an NYU sociologist and explored how people meet and mate in the modern world, compared to the past, and the authors felt they discovered interesting things even with some prior knowledge of the field.

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It's about how people meet and mate in the modern world and how that is different from the past.

But I feel like by going really deep into a relatively narrow topic, you came up with stuff that was just even if you know a little bit of literature, it was really interesting.

And it was like, yeah, one out of 12 people married someone in the same building. Eighty some percent. It was the same city. One out of three. It was like within a five block radius. And it was really startling.

And you just think about it now. It's like no one marries someone from the same city. You like meet people throughout your whole life, like that are from different parts of the world. And you go to college.

To me, the craziest statistic in the book, the craziest one that blows my mind the most is in 1967, there was a study they did where they found 76 percent of women said they would marry someone that they are not romantically in love with.

Hidden Brain

It was discussed in the context of how dating has changed due to technology, specifically texting, and the paradox of choice, referencing it like 'too much jam'. It also explored how men's texting habits, and the waiting game in dating, can be detrimental.

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It's called Modern Romance. We taped a live conversation at George Washington University's Listener Auditorium, and we played an excerpt for you in the fall.

— Episode: Encore of Episode 9: Aziz Ansari on Mode...

Episode: Encore of Episode 9: Aziz Ansari on Modern Love

It was discussed in the context of how dating has changed due to technology, specifically texting, and the paradox of choice, referencing it like 'too much jam'. It also explored how men's texting habits, and the waiting game in dating, can be detrimental.

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It's called Modern Romance. We taped a live conversation at George Washington University's Listener Auditorium, and we played an excerpt for you in the fall.

For those who doubt me, here's an example from a show I did at the Chicago Theater in the spring of 2014.

But in reality, when they do study after study, they find the more options you have, the harder it is to make a decision. And when you do make a decision, you end up being less satisfied because you're thinking about whether you made the wrong decision or whether one of these other things would have been a better match for you.

Cause I mean, like there's just too much God damn jam out there. Like, you know, you go on a date and you go to the bathroom, like a few pieces of jam have texted you. You're like, what the is this?

That's comedian Aziz Ansari. His book, written with the sociologist Eric Kleinenberg, is Modern Romance.

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