The host said reading the book over Christmas profoundly changed their perspective, teaching that events don't create who we are but rather we assign meaning to them, which shapes our behavior.
I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked, over Christmas, and it kind of changed my view on this quite profoundly in an important way because it helped me to understand that what happens to...
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The host said reading the book over Christmas profoundly changed their perspective, teaching that events don't create who we are but rather we assign meaning to them, which shapes our behavior.
I was reading that book, The Courage to be Disliked, over Christmas, and it kind of changed my view on this quite profoundly in an important way because it helped me to understand that what happens to us doesn't create who we are; we use what happened to us and we apply meaning to it, which then determines the behavior we have.
It means that many of the beliefs I have about myself, who I say I am, my identity, and therefore the ways that I behave every day, whether they're productive or unproductive, are actually just choices I've made to apply meaning to the past.