How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--from Tots to Teens

She's also the author of a book called How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes.

She basically in this article in Slate makes a differentiation on good lies and bad lies. The good lie pile is something that parents invoke for the benefit of their children.

Then on her bad lie pile, that is where you're just deflecting blame or avoiding responsibility. For example, hey, we can't go to the playground today. It's closed. But really, you're just too lazy to get off the couch.

But this book How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes is so important because I think not only are we trying not to be assholes, but it's also really important that we model not being an asshole.

It's a really great book. It's filled with reporting, but then it's also just super accessible and practical.

You can grab How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes at the Painted Ports or anywhere books are sold.

the whole idea of how do we deal with our kids negative emotions is something I talk about a lot in my book

in looking into the research on like how to raise not you know how to raise good kids you ultimately find that it does a lot more than that