Man and Woman He Created Them A theology of the body

Pope John Paul II when he wrote this thing called the theology of the body a series of teachings that he had given for the space of roughly five years on Wednesdays over in the Vatican he would come out and he would teach every Wednesday for roughly I think it was like 135 Wednesdays not in a row but consecutively or you know over the space of five or so years

he said that we caught this I think a couple days ago where here's the lover and the lover knocks on the door and it's the beloved it's the woman she can answer or she can't answer it's hers though it's he can knock and he waits and if she answers that's great he can come in if she doesn't answer then he doesn't force his way in and John Paul II made this point about when it comes to love between a man and a woman between the love of the husband and wife he says that the woman always remains a master of her own mystery she always remains a master of her own mystery meaning that even if they're married her husband every time he approaches her every time he initiates intimacy with her he knocks essentially and she can say no

John Paul II goes on to say he says this is the man's risk he always risks when he initiates even as a husband he's like no she's not mine to just use or not mine to my own pleasure he knocks and he risks he knocks and he waits and she can always refuse because she remains in John Paul's words the master of her own mystery

a garden locked is my sister my bride she's a garden locked another way to say it he says a garden fountain a well of living water and she's a garden locked meaning that he can't force his way in meaning that the woman always always has possession of herself she gives of herself to the man or she doesn't but she gets to choose whether she gives of herself or not and he approaches and he approaches with love he approaches also with tenderness knowing that again it's a risk and she can refuse because she is a garden locked

a garden locked is my sister my bride and John Paul again points out he says one of the things it reminds us of is that every time we approach those with whom we might even have a romantic relationship so whether that be a man to his wife here my sister my bride or a woman to her husband my brother my husband my brother my groom John Paul points out he says that it's always my sister first and he says why is that because you think I don't have a sexualized view of my sister and in John Paul essentially says yes exactly you first approach your bride as sister you first approach your bride as one who exists for love for her own sake she exists for her own sake not as your bride first she first exists as herself does that make sense